Thoughts on Change  

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
3484 posts
9/11/2005 2:14 pm

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Thoughts on Change

"For all that moveth doth in Change delight" - Spenser

"All change is good. All change is good. All change is good. All change is good." - The Barefoot Doctor

"Embrace change always - but never forget that it can be a total pain in the arse" - TheQuietGuy2005

Change is the only constant in life. Any attempt to preserve the status quo is not only doomed to failure but, according to the Buddhists and Taoists at least, is the root of all unhappiness.

This applies as much to relationships of all kinds as to any other part of existence. The strongest and longest-lasting relationships have changed, adapting to changes in the needs of the partners.

The last four or five years, dear reader, have been periods of apparently constant change for me in just about every aspect of my life. It's been productive in most ways even if my life isn't problem-free - and I'm happier and more comfortable being me than I think I have ever been

But it's been challenging too - and it remains a challenge now as I continue to search for the next steps in my path. And change continues ...

I'm thinking of this now because one area where change is a particular challenge is in the way it is affecting my relationship with Son of Quiet and his Mum. Mum of Son and I have been divorced now for some years but the way we interact and the way that our continuing relationship affects our son continues to evolve.

It makes it hard sometimes. Mum and I are not nearly as friendly as we were even a handful of months ago and I can't pretend we've figured out yet just how we raise Son together in this brave new world. We're butting heads like we never have before ... and the old rules no longer seem to give even vague guidance. A whole new approach seems necessary ... and it's difficult to find out quite what that means.

In many ways our values differ. The way we view our lives, the aims we have differ. But we both claim to want the best for our son.

That can't be a bad place to start, can it?

So, repeat after me: "All change is good. All change is good. All change is good ..."


rm_texasgal1978 45F
225 posts
9/11/2005 7:05 pm

Change is good, wanting the best for your son is a great starting point. All relationships evolve over time, don't give up on this one.

rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
9/11/2005 9:24 pm

change is good....change is hard, but what finer motivation than what is best for your child? you suppose 'she' is as confused about how to do this as you are? maybe asking the question is the answer...

AlbertPrince 58M

9/12/2005 12:23 am

Change is inevitable - except from a vending machine

rm_dizzyandfun 48F
752 posts
9/12/2005 7:46 am

Ah..change change change change ( I m so dizzy, my head is spinnnnnin). Think I ll go to bed and wait till its all over.....
The answer will always does.

Diz xxx

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
9/13/2005 12:47 pm

Thanks to each and every one of you (with the exception of Al) for the kind words ... as I said in my bit, I am hopeful. It's remarkable how adaptable we are when we have to be, isn't it?

And, Al, thanks to you for another nice one-liner!

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