The Best Gift?  

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
3484 posts
11/14/2005 10:43 am

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The Best Gift?

As many of you will know, the last couple of weeks have been rather difficult for me and as the last weekend approached I had it planned as a weekend for recovery. In other words, I had nothing planned at all except for as much sleep as my body could handle.

I had other things on my mind too such as catching up with online friends, their emails and their blogs but there was no doubt that it had to fit around sleep.

Of course, it didn't work out that way. My Dad's decision to visit on Saturday meant I was up early and the rather odd lunchtime that followed didn't exactly equal R&R! England's memorable victory in football lifted my spirits and then an evening spent with another spirit (my old friend Jack Daniels) kept me up late ... far too late given that I had to be up early to go and watch Son of Quiet play rugby.

I got back at lunchtime Sunday and heaved a sigh of relief as I made lunch and thought how I could best use the rest of my weekend.

Then the phone rang. A close friend was inviting me up for coffee. Initially I turned down the offer, with thanks, but then the truth came out: she was feeling very low and could use the company.

I've mentioned this friend before. She's been suffering from depression and stress and it seems that they were biting harder again yesterday. How could I refuse? I was up there as quickly as I could.

We talked long and late and once she'd had the chance to offload, over a bottle of wine as well as the coffee, it actually became a pleasant evening. She even laughed! When I left she was feeling much more relaxed and much more positive.

As I walked home I couldn't help thinking of all the times she'd done just the same for me in the depths of my own despair. She'd driven over, sometime in the early hours of the morning, to listen to my (often drunken) ramblings, to give me someone to talk to, to help me feel less alone. I can't help remembering how often that sort of company has made all the difference to me coming both from her and from a few other good friends. They've all given of their time and compassion to help me cope.

And I can't help remembering the times when I've really wished there could be someone there ...

It occurred to me that there are so many gifts we can give to our friends, to those that we love and care for: flowers, chocolates, bottles of wine, jewellery, gadgets - all the things that a consumer society can provide. Sometimes it feels as if the amount we can spend on our friends is seen as a measure of how much we care.

Yet sometimes the most precious gift can be one that costs us absolutely nothing: our time.


saddletrampsk 54F

11/14/2005 12:40 pm

The gift of a true friend is the best gift of all..

Wackytits 53F

11/14/2005 1:38 pm

TQ....You are so right. Friends should be cherished. Wish mine lived closer, but glad, and honoured I do have some 'special' people in my life i can call friends. xx

brightblonde3 58F

11/14/2005 6:03 pm

Flowers die, chocolates are quickly consumed (at least when they're in my presence they are...),bottles of wine er, sipped, jewelry gets lost, and gadgets break down...but you never forget when someone took the time just to listen to you. Never.


GB_Cple 66M/55F  
3045 posts
11/14/2005 11:13 pm

How very true, no matter what happens , it's often a lifesaver to know that you have one true friend, when you need them.

rm_dizzyandfun 48F
752 posts
11/15/2005 8:46 am

So so true Quiet. And sometimes we just forget how much they mean to us..and perhaps in turn how much we mean to them.
You were certainly always there for me xx xx xx


helga_hansen 49F  
1987 posts
11/15/2005 10:37 am

Q... friends are the gifts we'd like to give ourselves. And like some gifts, those friends will be "used" more than others, some will last a lifetime, and some will be in our lives briefly, but for however long they are with me, I always treasure what they gave me... themselves.


Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

AlbertPrince 58M

11/18/2005 5:31 am

Time, the thing we have so little of.

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