A Fond Farewell ...  

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
3484 posts
11/20/2005 2:31 pm

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A Fond Farewell ...

Yesterday the world became a slightly poorer place.

My brother-in-law passed away after a long illness at the age of 56. A brain tumour was diagnosed a little over a year ago. Treatment was reasonably successful but then he succumbed to an infection. He remained relatively comfortable and coherent almost till the end and died peacefully.

My sis is 10 years my senior so he'd been in my life since my early teens. I remember with affection the warmth and kindness he showed to that awkward, shy lad. He spent so much time with me over the years, took me for quiet chats in the pub as I got a little older (if still underage!), played cards with me, walked for miles over the Sussex hills with me ... gave so much of himself in small and in larger ways.

He was undoubtedly the best male role-model in my life through my formative years. I owed him a lot.

My only regret is that I didn't see as much of him over the last decade as perhaps I should have. It's easy to get wrapped up in your own little life and forget that these special people are out there. I was glad to be able to be there these last few days to say goodbye to him.

I'll miss him. The world needs more kind people like him.

So remember: there are people in your life who mean a lot to you. Tell them while you can for one day there may no longer be the opportunity.


brightblonde3 58F

11/20/2005 4:18 pm

Q, you and your family are in my thoughts...and I'm here for you, my friend.


PrincessKarma 43F
6188 posts
11/20/2005 7:25 pm

*HUGS Quiet*

We're here, dear... know that you are appreciated.

The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

rm_urdreamonly 48F
19 posts
11/21/2005 2:10 am

I checked my diary...you know which part ....the dark days that you feeling you are alone and i find this for you.

To all the ones I've loved and lost,
what does this word love mean?
Love can't save a dying friend
Love can't bring back the past
or a friend who is forever lost
I think it means to tie us together
Love means caring and sharing
of memories that never die.

you are in my prayer

_CoffeeNoCream_ 52F

11/21/2005 5:54 am

My condolences to you and your loved ones


Wackytits 53F

11/21/2005 11:07 am

TQ....My thoughts are with you and your family. xx

saddletrampsk 54F

11/21/2005 2:11 pm

Sorry for your loss sweety..

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
11/23/2005 1:08 pm

Thanks for all your kind thoughts.

As is so often the case in such circumstances as these, the end comes as no shock. It doesn't stop the mourning but it means that grief is tempered by relief at the end of suffering.

As in so many situations, we have to accept that all things that have a beginning have an end and, as always when something ends, we try to remember the good things without holding on to that which can no longer be.

The funeral is tomorrow, a symbolic ending, a drawing of a line in the sand.

UnpinAfireFaust 57M

12/2/2005 3:55 pm

The feelings you express for your brother-in-law are much the same as I felt for my Grandfather.....right down to the part about not seeing him more before he passed away.

Taking your last piece of advice about trying to take care of the one closest to me, who owns my heart and is my soul, is the only excuse I have for not stopping by before and expressing my condolences.

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