"No man is an island ..."  

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
3484 posts
8/13/2005 4:23 am

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"No man is an island ..."

So there I was ordering a coffee whilst waiting for Young Heir and Master to arrive at the station and I got chatting to the barista. The subject was our respective weekends.

She said she was staying in tonight; there was a film she wanted to watch but she had no one to go with (I really don't think she was angling for an invitation).

It made me think: there's little that can be done alone that I wouldn't do alone. I think some of it comes down to the fact that I used to spend so long away on business where, frequently, if I didn't eat alone I wouldn't eat at all and where if I didn't go to the cinema or whatever alone I would spend entire weekends in a hotel room. And before you ask, I was a well-behaved married man at the time ...

In general, I'm pretty much at ease with my own company.

But that doesn't mean I don't enjoy sharing these experiences with others. I can enjoy a film on my own but the pleasure is enhanced when I can discuss it with someone else straight afterwards. I can enjoy eating in a restaurant with just a book for company but it's so much better to share the meal and a good conversation with a friend. And sometimes time spent with someone else can move onto something a little more, um, intimate ... and that can be pretty damned good too

It's human nature, I guess, to reach out for contact with others but we seem to be living in a society - or, at least, most of us seem to - where the normal bonds of community are gradually breaking down. England is probably one of the worst places: the famous English reserve gets in the way of easy socialising with our neighbours in any case ... changes in the way our society works (or, maybe, doesn't work) just continue to push us apart.

Hence, I guess, the value and popularity of sites like this. When we feel the need for human interaction, we turn on the computer, log in and - bingo - there are people. Whether we just want to chat online, whether we're looking to make friends that we can meet offline too or whether we just want the occasional warmth of no-strings-attached sex, there's every chance we can find it here if we want to.

We can preserve our privacy and, as far as we wish, our anonymity without turning our backs on what seems to be an essential emotional requirement for most of us. We can determine the extent of our social contacts with more flexibility than ever before. We can control our interactions with the flick of a switch.

What it will do to society remains to be seen ... and we are all part of the experiment.


AlbertPrince 58M

8/13/2005 5:50 am

Friends help you move. Real friends help you move bodies.

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
8/13/2005 7:13 am

Nice one Al! I've so missed you

1polishedjem 55F

8/13/2005 2:08 pm

LoL... that Albert has some good one-liners, eh?

I don't know what it is, I didn't know who you were or anything about you except what you wrote in response to my journal entry, but whatever it was, it made me want to read more of what goes through your mind. In fact, only you and one other, interested me enough with their comments to make me seek out your own blogs, .... he was Australian and you're English. *shakes head and smiles* There is just something that draws me to this type? Wierd. My best friend lives in Hemel Hempstead. England's a big little country so I doubt you've heard of it, but just wanted to mention it.

I guess it sorta goes along with your idea of everyone becoming so separate from one another, unless they can click on a link on a computer and connect with someone here. Should we say...thank goodness for internet and their connections?

I am rambling now, sorry. I do that when I haven't had enough sleep! lol.

You express your thoughts quite coherently. I will be back.

toodle pip!


TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
8/13/2005 3:06 pm

Hemel Hempstead? A mere stone's throw away, ma'am!

Glad you enjoy the blogs ... feel free to keep on reading!


rm_EE407 41F
3903 posts
8/14/2005 2:52 am

<<< wishes AP would stop stealing my one liners... damn it...

But Q, on a more serious note I am wondering what Internet will do for us all. I believe it will be a positive change, but only time will tell

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
8/14/2005 12:47 pm

EE ... I don't have an answer to that. I can look back at human history and wonder what sort of a mess we'll end up making of things this time but, right now, I just intend to enjoy what the Internet can do for me!

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