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My pet peeve in this whole world...women who love to play emotional rollercoaster games. What is it with some ladies that have knock dead bods and know it....and put you through hell to get a date? I guess it is too much to call to cancel. I mean, I WILL put up with a little to get a little, but I think my patience level zeros out after the second no-show. What is the opinion out there?
8/21/2006 7:34 am
Hey Easy...thanks for stopping by my blog and inviting me to come read. I have been stood up a few times...after about four in a row, I had to ask myself what was common in the behavior of each of these men when they didn't show up. I found that each one sorta disappeared during the week before, their discussions were mostly erotic and hardly personal at all on a personality level and that they usually wanted the meet to happen right away. |
I changed my conversation customs. If the conversation is all sex and no personality, I disengage politely and move on...unless I'm in the mood for that conversation and once finished, I am highly unlikely to engage him again after that. I changed my meeting customs with that assessment too. I now make meets for about a week to two weeks ahead. I watch after that to see what he does. If he's really interested in me, he'll keep talking and I assess my desire to continue to meet with him based on his bahavior after each date. If he shows interest between dates and continues to enjoy me as much as he did upon meeting me, then I figure he's a keeper.
Those keepers get rewarded with regular time, attention and pleasure.
Perhaps you should do a similar assessment. What I found was letting go the fear of not getting anyone on the hook raised my standards, when I did find someone, he would be around awhile. I didn't waste as much time looking in the long run because what I got in my bed was a far nicer more reliable person who was around for months, not just a date or two. Good luck.
Yup...this juiciness is from me....