TechSteve 49M
1222 posts
10/22/2005 11:05 pm

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This is a quote from a woman who hangs out in my regional chat room. She said this after she deleted me from her Yaboo. She seeked me out in the chat room several months ago and I only talked to her for a week on it. She lives 5 hrs away and the odds of me and her hooking up for anything was slim. I never promised her anything or I never gave her the impression that anything was going to happen. She knew how I felt because I told her and she was fine with that. Once in a while, she announces she is deleting people from her yaboo. She never deleted me. She kept me on and I couldnt figure that out. It made me feel uncomfortable.

Most of the time I am very quiet in the chat rooms. I rarely talk much. I am not being rude, but I am one of those guys that likes to read and get to know people that way.

It has only been the last week that I have had a lot of time to go in the chat room. Before that, I was working a heavy schedule. She got pissed at me after I said hello to her. She said I have been ignoring her.

She sent a message via yaboo to me saying she was going to delete me from her yaboo list. I sent her a message back saying that was fine and I wished her good luck. She sent me back a whatever. She didnt have to send me a message at all to delete me.

I admit I am guilty, but with an explanation

She often does the 'yawn' thing in chat rooms and she also likes to announce that she is bored. I think that is rude. That is a turn off to me. If you want attention, ask questions. Say something constructive.

PawPr1nt 51M
133 posts
10/22/2005 11:53 pm

This person you describe is a 'Drama-Queen'; a manipulator and a focus-freak.

Do know that children's toy where a rubber-ball is attached to a small wooden paddle by elastic? Well, this person gets her emotional 'confirmation' by bouncing people to-&-fro like the ball. I was married to such a person for 10 years and they really do believe that it is an OK way to interact with their 'loved' ones...

I have been blacklisted by women too, simply because I didn't give them what they wanted; nothing to do with abuse, harrassment or anything anti-social. It's plain and simply a tantrum that, when done to you often enough by sufficient people on the same forum, will get you kicked off a forum entirely.

Don't take her shit, by being polite and passive. Blacklist her yourself. It'll drive her nuts, maybe give her a wake-up call (which sadly her kind seldom hear..) and refocus the purpose of the blacklisting on someone who really is being anti-social... the Drama-Queen.

HardlyYours4Now 52M

10/23/2005 3:56 am

Couldn't agree with you more. Boredom says more about the person who says hey are bored than it does about what is going on around them. I've joked before about lulls in conversation in a chat room, but people who complain about their boredom usually end up on my 'Ignore' list. Whatever they have, I don't want to catch it.

And as for the quote - never trust anyone who generalizes...other than me, in this one case.

TechSteve 49M

10/23/2005 7:54 am

Thank you for your comments, HardlyYours.

TechSteve 49M

10/24/2005 7:28 am

Pawprint, I havent talked to her on Yaboo for months. One of the reasons I stopped doing it was because it was a ONE way conversation. She was chatting with others while I was chatting with her. I know because of the delay in answering and her answers were brief.

I dont have to blacklist her. I just will ignore her and she will ignore me.

It is her problem if she thinks all the men on AdultFriendFinder are no good. I dont have that attitude about the women on here.

Thank you for the comments.

choclate_devine 43F

10/24/2005 9:01 pm

first of all this guy must have deep women problems cause he go to other sites bashing women and getting them banned from the site saying they have more than one profile and they must be desperate look a dummy can see that AdultFriendFinder is a adult hook up site now if u want somthing slow and in your age rang go to senior adultfinders site dont hate on people who are haveing fun thats what this site is all about why get some one banned from this site cause u have issues when u dont even no that person thats what online personals are have fun get to no a person before meeting and make sure he or she is who your looking for dont hate the player hate the fucking game people can allways come back remember that getting them nocked off aint doing nothing but making u work harder so get a life if u was so ritches u wouldnt be on AdultFriendFinder but u are so u must like somthing about women who are different u on here fronting and faking how do we no u are who u say u are see dont judge people u dont no if they are good are bad people are here to injoy not hate and yes im one he got nocked off i dont no him never even chated with him i was on a nother group and by my picture he all of a sudden peg me for a slute im a hard working single mom and im not desperate for no one i have a man in my life and no i dont stand on no corner whoing i gues ya momma did that so u need to be on her shit but as u can see im back on and im not no bitch i might be a big sexxy ass women and proud of it but what are u dried up old ass prune trying to get a nut but i see u still here looking grothchy so i guess thats why so get off my dame tipe and get a life pops.

choclate_devine 43F

10/24/2005 9:05 pm

and oh yea the guy is techsteve

PawPr1nt 51M
133 posts
10/25/2005 3:29 am

Well, TechSteve, you sound like you are chilled about your way forward, so go for it

It may be that she is just going through a phase. I know I felt very 'anti' about womankind recently, but you just can't go through life labelling an entire gender with sweeping untruths.

Good luck, to us all...

PawPr1nt 51M
133 posts
11/20/2005 11:44 pm

Well, there's nothing like reasoned and well-articulated arguement to clarify an issue....

(How can I get my spell-checker to remove all the capital-letters and punctuation-marks in my posts?)

TechSteve 49M

11/21/2005 5:31 am

Pawprint, I had this post hidden for a while.

I deleted CDs comments and now that I brought it back her comments have appeared.

I am glad about that. I am giving her the opportunity to respond back to me and tell me what this about because I honestly dont know what she is talking about.

PawPr1nt 51M
133 posts
11/21/2005 10:34 am

Probably, like most of us, she has a'nerve' that gets touched sometimes by other people's posts.

Like any working relationship, you just got to learn to roll with the punches sometimes... (as long as you don't mind getting one on the snout occasionally yourself )

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