Can you help me forget him?  

Teaser103 41F
65 posts
5/18/2006 4:42 am

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8/30/2006 11:30 am

Can you help me forget him?


Hi there,
Well I've been there, done that and am writing a book about it! Had all the wrong men, or great guys but wrong timing in life, so what to do next, I'm thinking....? Then I met my very first AdultFriendFinder member some two or three weeks ago and had a horrible experience and now he won't go away! He keeps calling and texting and mailing me and he really upset so much, I couldn't sleep for more than 3 hrs last night and that makes me mad! That's one reason why I'm extremely reluctant to ever meet up with a stranger again! First and last time, now I'm guessing! Think you can help me forget about him and all the other bad experiences?I'm willing to try if you are...
: )

rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
5/18/2006 6:03 am

Teaser, it has nothing to do with meeting up with a stranger, or rather, very little to do with that....it's that the first people who contact us are usually the forerunners of the 'desperate' wave, and then they have a hard time letting go of us when we decide to raise the bar just a little...

The first guy who contacted me off of a 'dating' site turned out to be a bi cross-dresser, and while I liked his gentle nature, I honestly wasn't into much else about him, but he was interested in me...so we dated! Actually, I didn't know about his other side until I'd known him for a month or so...

Once I decided that this wasn't for me, though, and started asking new guys the 'right' questions, I was able to eliminate the OMG element to meeting, and all I can hope is that you find the questions that are important to you, and then take your time until you get the right answers....

Be up front with the guy...tell him to go away...I have had to do this, and while it feels heartless and bitchy, it's often the only thing they truly understand.

(((squishyboobyhugs)))

Elle


Teaser103 41F

5/18/2006 10:56 am

Thanks Elle,

Unfortunately, I didn't listen to my 6th sense which always knows best and if I had, I would never have gone through with it; but I guess I tried to be "grown up" about my 1st time and frankly speaking, it was about as 'memorable' as the other 1st time! Well, now he has my number, my work email, (really silly of me) and he even seemed to want to intimidate me by reminding me 3 times that I am a foreigner in his country! Well, I forgive him and hope he gets the love and affection he deserves before he deals with his emotions in any unwise manner!
But Elle.... there are so many sweeties out there, and I just have to practice my grip a bit more and my flirting ... and the rest will be history soon! : >
This all makes me wonder if guys have had it rough out there too! Sometimes our quest for loveless sexual fulfillment can be as daunting and depressing as our actual quest for love! This is not a pity party though, I just need to get over this fast and enjoy the company of worthwhile FreshAuditionsDating members out there; so, please, write back and let me take sweet advantage of you .... for both your pleasure, and mine : )


verreaux 68M
11 posts
5/19/2006 4:43 am

Teaser
Its a real pity that some people spoil things for others. I am sure you will get to know others who will surely change your mind and give you everything you want and need. I sure would try if I was closer


Teaser103 41F

5/19/2006 5:24 am

Damn! That looks like a "real life changing" piece of art you have there? Has it helped your chances of having great experiences or did a lot depend on the type of person you met up with?


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
5/19/2006 10:53 am

Teaser, I am sorry to hear your first meet was a disaster. My first meet up was also not great, after lots of chatting, we finally planned to meet when I was in Jhb. I found her attractive but it can be quite difficult if you have been very open prior to meeting to connect at the live level. Anyway, she said no chemistry and I have not contacted her since. I am still willing to try though, especially as we are in the same city.


Teaser103 41F

5/20/2006 2:59 am

Latin lover, I'm not sure if you're the one I chatted with some time back, but right now I'm baffeled how there can be no chemistry with a body like that!
To be serious though, do you think the less said the better or was this just a bad combo? Frankly speaking I'd like to know a lot over the net and when we meet, go out a couple of times before getting intimate, you know, just to rekindle the curiosity and re-awaken the desire. Every one of your senses has to come alive and grow into something bigger than you can control. Just thinking like this is giving me a lot of warmth, in this cold weather here. Anyone feling some heat?


capelover2006 68M
12 posts
5/20/2006 6:49 am

Hi Teaser, I've had 3 encounters through the site. The first was a woman who just wanted cash. The less said the better. The second was a beautiful girl from Trinidad, living here in Cape Town and studying just down the road from me - very convenient. It was a "clothes off let's get down to it why waste words" kind of thing and I failed miserably. You can imagine my surprise when she called a second time. The third was last weekend. I met her at Zula Bar on Saturday evening and somehow lost her during the course of the night, seemed a pity because I was getting to like her. She woke me from my reveries on Sunday morning and I went straight over to her place where we had pretty urgent sex. I haven't seen her since but hope to see her, maybe this afternoon or tomorrow.
I guess it's different strokes....but in the end it's all about respect for the person you're meeting and sensitivity to their needs and wishes. Men are often not very good at that sort of thing and their seems to be quite a lot of misogyny in SA (irrespective of colour) and adultff may tend to attract that kind of male.
I just want to add that I love reading your stuff, you have style and tease the hell out of me.


Teaser103 41F

5/20/2006 8:36 am

Oh, me? Oh why that's so kind! I do try my best to live up to my handle, but sometimes, I do tend to get consummed by passion and then begin to dig in and stuff my face with various flavours and smells until I'm so lost in pleasure I'm just slurping away noisyly and make all sorts of purring sounds.... till... well you know what its like being caught in a public place now, don't you?


capelover2006 68M
12 posts
5/20/2006 11:05 am

Teaser, I'd love to meet you, just for the hell of it. A glass of decent wine, a good conversation. No obligations. What do you say?


Teaser103 41F

5/21/2006 8:35 am

Hmm, you sound like you want to be teased off line! Hmmm, let me get back to you on that one. Its easy, it works like this... if I dream about you at night... you're on! So give me something to think about that won't leave my mind when I'm fast asleep, and you might just get rewarded for that!


verreaux 68M
11 posts
5/21/2006 11:37 pm

Hi Teaser,
Haven't met anyone from this site yet, not many people on this site in the area I'm in, however, I have met some real lovely ladies and slept with a few. AS Lover says some of the girls one meets only want you to buy drinks etc and pay. By the way most of the girls have been satisfied with the lovemaking.


capelover2006 68M
12 posts
5/22/2006 1:44 am

Now there's a challenge! What could I say to make a woman like Teaser dream about me at night? Maybe a recipe I want to try soon for a thin cut of fillet steak with cardamon/garlic/ vanilla butter and a glass of elegant Pinot Noir. Aphrodisiacal! The first meeting of the eyes, the first smile and recognition of mutual attraction. Fingers running up the soft skin of the inner thigh, lips and tongue playing lightly on an erect nipple, licking honey sweet wine from the navel. Hell, how should I know how to occupy your dreams? Help me please!


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
5/22/2006 9:57 am

Teaser, perhaps it would have been better to have just gone to the nearby hotel. I know it is not a looks issue as my experience to date suggests no issues there. We were both involved and timing may have been a problem also, anyhow its rather difficult to find the real reason without appearing to be the stalker type, which I do not want to be. Im not sure if we have chatted before, your sexy style and intelligence certainly would have appealed to me. So I need to make you dream about me at night, this could be accomplished with us engaging in some dialogue...I am a great fan of public places......


Teaser103 41F

5/23/2006 6:03 am

Well, public places is a great topic, but if you're shy, then maybe just to get the ball rolling, tell me about the silliest thing either you or another person has said or done during sex! This is usually a great way to break the ice and helps get over the embarrassemnet, which we will get to next.
Remember, the more honest the better, and I'm here to share not only the awkwardness but to show how it can be to your advantage to be able to say something stupid to your lover... in the long run... the very long run!


Teaser103 41F

5/23/2006 12:37 pm

But... if you just want to get down to the naughty, I won't stop you, unless you leave out some juicy details. That's the format... make me wish it was me! )


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
5/24/2006 4:26 pm

Get down to naugty!!! I dont really say much during sex...cant really remember a sily thing, except once was blindfolded by a girl who took me back to her place after a party, and had something on my dick which i had to guess what it was....well i guessed and guessed, and it turned out to be yoghurt!!! which i can highly recommend! Im sure in my various drunken encounters i may have said something really silly, but usually cant remember the next morning!

I will make it wish it was you next time...


Teaser103 41F

5/25/2006 9:06 am

Oh, but I use all sorts of stuf, maple syrup is one of my favourites but I've bn known to use the most unimaginable things; it depends on the moment and what I find in the kitchen! Speaking of the kitchen... a lot of flat surfaces there, yes? Hmmm... I tell you it can be quite a rejuventating experience to do something else on the cutting board and kitchen sink. As for the breakfast table... who says the slight scent of liquid icing sugar can't wake your senses up in the morning? As for the next breakfast... you'll smile all the way through. Not so?


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
5/25/2006 9:30 am

Im a huge fan of the kitchen, find myself there at parties making sure drinks are flowing....and yes, breakfast counters and fridges and bar stools and all sorts of flattish surfaces...Talking about the morning, are you suggesting we have one soon, and if so what will keep me smiling the whole way through? Your hand under the table in the cafe?


Teaser103 41F

5/25/2006 11:13 am

Oh, you really know how to get me started! You know that feeling of "nobody knows what we did here.." that's a great accompaniment for breakfast! And yes, my hand and toes are very effective under the table, but above... when do you dare try?


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
5/25/2006 1:36 pm

I glad that started you because that feeling is a great one for me, breakfast lunch, dinner, board meetings, movies, train journeys, dancefloors, ah such wonderful memories.

Not entirely sure what you mean by when do I dare try, are you putting a challenge to me? That is dangerous as I adore a challenge, especially wicked ones.


Teaser103 41F

5/26/2006 6:14 am

*Twiddling her thumbs* Why, are you 'up' for a challenge?


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
5/26/2006 8:12 am

Yes I am, you can mail me the time and place and we can see if our respective chemistries react, I have a feeling they will.


Teaser103 41F

5/26/2006 9:53 am

Hmmm, not so fast, lover boy! Tell me what I should expect should we meet. You have distracted me from my bad experience but ... I've yet to dream of you! Talk to me...


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
5/26/2006 3:25 pm

Ive never been called fast!!! I love giving pleasure to women, and this usually means taking it slow. Im glad you are at least distracted, and dreams can only be made from something more tangible than promises. So the scene...a mall, me sitting reading paper having latte, sexy shirt and jeans. you, dress, nice bag and sit across from me. We exchange glances, I smile. you return the smile and I motion for you to come to my table....


Teaser103 41F

5/27/2006 4:09 am

I shake my head and ask you to join me. You're "up" before you know it, leap up from your table and walk over to me. To you, I'm just smiling... for me, my nipples twinge with the excitement of a naugthy thought! I can't wait to hear your voice. Your lips part... so do mine....


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
5/27/2006 6:04 am

A graceful leap and I say, Ciao bella in a slightly thick Italian accent, may I sit with you , I am new here in this beautiful city and would like to know where is lovely to go and eat and play. I flash a naughty grin and make myself comfortable at your booth...


Teaser103 41F

5/28/2006 2:48 pm

I batter my eyelide playfully and say, of course with my eyes, my lips, my whole body; of course. I invite you to share my space and ask you what you...like! Then playfully add... to eat?


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
5/29/2006 8:25 am

I shift in and place my hand on your thigh under the table, and whisper into your ear, I want to eat you......


Teaser103 41F

5/30/2006 12:33 am

Oh but I'm not on the menu dear... besides, they're not open all day... all night...for five course, food fetishists! But I know a place that is... as I cross my legs over and in so doing, trap your hands betwwen my thighs and smile.


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
5/30/2006 1:55 pm

Well, my hand loves the warm moist feeling it encounters and slowly works its way up to your sexy wet lips, which are gently parted. I enjoy the fact that the waiter mumbles our request as he sees my hand so strategically positioned and your smile...I ask were this wonderful food place may be, and can we go as soon as possible


Teaser103 41F

5/31/2006 9:30 am

I cancel the order. I think again, then tell the waiter that we actually will be eating, cause I want to make you pine for me as I tease you slowly over what will prove to be the longest meal of your life! I think to myself... yes, this should prove worthwhile... I wonder what he'll remove first, his tie or his jacket... I watch your surprise as i place the order, you smile... you can se that I won't be an easy catch. I take your hand out from the warmth it had found and suck each finger longingly...


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
5/31/2006 11:43 am

I love the teasing game and am relieved that it ws not that easy, but feel myself getting hard at the sight of you sucking my fingers. I slowly make my top button loose and pull out my newspaper which covers my lap from view, and indeed the whole corner of the booth. I wait and see if you want an appetiser before our main course.....


Teaser103 41F

6/1/2006 6:46 am

I turn my head and look hard and long in the direction of the rest rooms, then I tilt my head and squeeze your hand tightly and then let if fall helplessly onto my chest... you watch your hand and it responds the contrast of my soft breast and my hard breathing... you start to speak, I can't hear you for the breathing... I could explode! Then someone else, attractive comes to our table and says...


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
6/1/2006 11:59 am

hello you two, I have been watching from across the way in my shop. And what I saw just makes me so hot, I had to come say hello. Ill bet you guys are strangers right, well how about we all three strangers go into my shop, and Ill close up for the day so we can explore each other a little better....


Teaser103 41F

6/2/2006 5:48 am

I look at you, at him, and say, "even better, let's go to my place, there's a lot more 'toys' to play with there and who knows... my room mate might even be home!" Then you can also take turns taking pics of me which everyone is pinning to see, but only if you'regood, really, really good!"


Teaser103 41F

6/2/2006 5:51 am

But where's everyone else... don't they want to join in and help make "new memories" for me? Are you chasing them away lover, don't be jealous, there's more than enough to go around


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
6/2/2006 3:11 pm

I would use the word chase carefully, I guess I may concern them with my linguistic skills! Im not jealous, I share myself around with the best of them...but I say the more the merrier...is your roomate as sexy as you?


SirMounts 102M

6/3/2006 3:01 am

Well, I certainly hope you don't have to meet those you want to help you here. *winking*
Welcome to blogging, Teaser. *smiling*


Teaser103 41F

6/3/2006 6:16 am

Hmm, that's rather "loaded" isn't it Sir? As a matter of fact, so is your profile, for a 91 year old! lmao So, you've done all the celebs then, hm, you must be worn out by now. What a pity, for a moment I thought you self description was worth getting a second opinion on.. from me!
As for bloging... I don't clog, so write on!


Teaser103 41F

6/3/2006 6:19 am

Lover, my room mates as sexy as you want her to be, but sometimes, I only use her as assitant when I need help strapping down my erotic victims!

Sir, do send me an invite, there's "other" stuf I'd like to say that may be deemed 'unfit for public consumption'


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
6/4/2006 2:11 pm

Oh Teaser, nothing is unfit for public consumption in this world....I have yet to be strapped down by two women, does she help you thereafter in any erotic play


Teaser103 41F

6/5/2006 3:47 am

What does it matter, you can't see a thing! But you can imagine all you want...
So you want to know what the good Sir and I are getting up to (or rather, down to), eh? Curious, jealous, what is it?


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
6/5/2006 10:47 am

Blindfolded!! lovely, this just gets better. Up down, whatever you do as consenting adults is up to you. Anyhow, was wondering whether someone like you would be the type to go to sexy parties...one of which is coming up


Teaser103 41F

6/6/2006 6:01 am

Was invited love, and I shuned it! Too, shy, you know me. Are you going? Who else is going? What's the point, anyway, there's masks to be worn!


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
6/6/2006 3:15 pm

Masks are sexy...if you not there Im not there....perhaps we can arrange our own little fantasy party


Teaser103 41F

6/7/2006 8:48 am

Oh, yes! I was just pinning for you on the one thread I post on for black women white men... forgot that we meet here

Well, I just saw some pics of the past parties and didn't any masks! The faces were blotted out though! I dunno, I think I'll skip this one, let me know how it goes. But for now.. send me a pic of you... I want to see what you're hiding


SirMounts 102M

6/9/2006 5:21 am

    Quoting Teaser103:
    Hmm, that's rather "loaded" isn't it Sir? As a matter of fact, so is your profile, for a 91 year old! lmao So, you've done all the celebs then, hm, you must be worn out by now. What a pity, for a moment I thought you self description was worth getting a second opinion on.. from me!
    As for bloging... I don't clog, so write on!
Hey, how did you know that I was loaded when I wrote My profile, Teaser???
*ever in awe of women's intuition*
And yes, it took Me almost seven months to have sex with all the female celebrities. Quite a project... and I actually was forced to rest for 11 whole hours afterwards!
Well, eight hours of that I was sleep, but I still was pretty worn out. *winking*


Teaser103 41F

6/9/2006 9:18 am

Huh! You rushed your way through all those women... bet you eat your food fast too! Not good, not good!


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
6/12/2006 10:36 am

hey teaser baby, did not do party. where are the pics? are you still keen to have a party to forget your bad experience?


Teaser103 41F

6/13/2006 4:26 am

Just for the two of us or are the other bloggers invited? They have been really nice and uh... responsive you know? Haven't you guys?


SirMounts 102M

6/20/2006 3:40 am

    Quoting Teaser103:
    Huh! You rushed your way through all those women... bet you eat your food fast too! Not good, not good!
Well, I spent much of that time having a wide variety of... no-calorie meals, with them. *winking*


Teaser103 41F

6/20/2006 8:45 am

Ah! There you are! I wondered what had happened to you! Hmmm, still rushing through your sustenance means you risk choking or gaging and that's not pleasant unless you're into asphyxiation and stuff like!

But for the record, I missed you - no.. "us"! Cause it was more like that wasn't it?


latinloveruk 44M
55 posts
6/20/2006 8:49 am

Teaser teaser, everyone is invited potentially...assuming they are sexy open minded people


Teaser103 41F

6/21/2006 6:17 am

Everyone is invited where, Lover, I mean Latin? But you have some explaining to do for me. Do you swing with your misus?


SirMounts 102M

7/10/2006 10:24 pm

    Quoting Teaser103:
    Ah! There you are! I wondered what had happened to you! Hmmm, still rushing through your sustenance means you risk choking or gaging and that's not pleasant unless you're into asphyxiation and stuff like!

    But for the record, I missed you - no.. "us"! Cause it was more like that wasn't it?
Teaser...
Nah, that kinda stuff goes down... easy, and good.
Did ya miss Me? Well, I've been busy with My blog lately...
Plus, I'm in sort of a sex sex sex work sex rut, lately. *sigh*
I need to cut down on My... work. *winking*


Teaser103 41F

7/11/2006 6:13 pm

My Dearest Sir,

You have, um, massive.. blogs, you know! I found the topics quite quite and the polish nurse sems to go far to make her patients feel better! As for smart sperm chewing a chunk out of each other... I'll have to see that for myself!

Of course I missed you, when you take a break from work let's do something together, hm?


SirMounts 102M

7/14/2006 4:43 am

Teaser...
Together?
Um... your blog, or Mine? *winking*


Teaser103 41F

7/14/2006 10:37 pm

Oh, well, *blushing*, my dear Sir...

Let's start here, and if it ocks, maybe we can... you know... move in together!


SirMounts 102M

7/21/2006 12:24 am

Teaser103...
Well, only if I get the side of the bed by the window. *thinking should have demanded much more* lol


Teaser103 41F

7/21/2006 12:58 pm

Of course you can dear, *thinking, "yes! Never liked sleeping against the cold wall! Then I can have every excuse to cuddle him up and keep him warm... not that I needed one!*

Will have spare keys done Monday, okay?



BTW, do you snore?


SirMounts 102M

7/30/2006 7:10 am

Teaser...
No, I don't snore. But I do wear a turbin when I sleep.
*winking, then giving her a long and passionate... kiss*


Teaser103 41F

7/30/2006 8:14 am

Hmm! Well, I don't mind as long as you don't mind me getting a bit creative with it, should it come off! *thinking what temptation is this?!* Just to be sure, the turban you do wear on your head, yes?


SirMounts 102M

8/4/2006 5:44 pm

Teaser...
Why yes.
It would be... too small to wear, anywhere else. *winking*


Teaser103 41F

8/5/2006 12:45 pm

Hmmm.... would that be because your uh, head, is usually small and the rest of you is comapratively smaller? *ss*


Teaser103 41F

8/30/2006 11:30 am

Dear "virtual lovers",

My time on this site has come to an end as I am currently inundated with real male attention and must attend to them politely, all and sundry.

Fare you well and may you find the meaningful things in life that you eagerly seek.

Ciao
Teaser103


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