If you label me, you negate me.  

TattooedWolf 47M
72 posts
6/1/2005 10:25 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

If you label me, you negate me.

Why do we feel the need to label and categorize people?

One of the recent labels to gain notoriety is “metrosexual”. After trying to find the definitive definition, I arrived as this compiled explanation -

"The typical metrosexual is a young man with money to spend, living in or within easy reach of a metropolis because that's where all the best shops, clubs, gyms and hairdressers are. An urban male with a strong aesthetic sense who spends a great deal of time and money on his appearance and lifestyle and who loves to indulge and pamper himself, going against the stereotype of men as boorish slobs with questionable grooming habits.”

Looking back, I was metrosexual before there was such a thing. I remember first reading about the term and saying to myself, “Wow, this is cool! I belong!”. However, now it just reinforces the fact that we feel the need to stamp a brand on everything and I don’t understand why. Don’t we have enough issues relating to each other without having to segregate ourselves even further? Why does a man who likes to look good and take care of himself physically need to be called a “metrosexual”? Why does a woman who does not fit the Barbie mold need to be labeled a “BBW”? The list goes on and on.

If you really feel the need to classify me, you can categorize me as a HUMAN BEING and you can label me a PERSON.


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
6/1/2005 11:40 am

Indeed! But again and again, I find people want to keep calling me "woman", looking at me as a "woman" -- I wonder are we afraid to see someone else as a human being?

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Merry49 61F

6/1/2005 1:08 pm

From one person to another - bravo, well put!

Padauk2005 46M
1 post
6/2/2005 6:41 pm

You seemed to ask why we do this. I think the reason we categorize ourselves is so we know wether we belong or not. People within our group's feel safe and outsiders don't. Anthropologically speaking, I think we're "hard wired" that way. Mammals can be extremely cruel and apathetic to outsiders and those they "shun" from the group, while at the same time being very benevolent and emotionally engaged with insiders and those they've recently accepted into the group. Unfortunately this trait is often exploited for less than benevolent reasons and channeled into nefarious causes.

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