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Yoni massage(borrowed text describing massage technique)
Yoni massage(borrowed text describing massage technique)
Yoni: pronounced yo-nee, is a Sanskrit word for the vagina, loosely translated as 'sacred space' or 'sacred temple'. It offers an alternate meaning from the western view of female genitals (eg. pussy, cunt etc, of a more vulgar sense). In Tantra the Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect.
The purpose of the Yoni massage is to create a space for the woman (the receiver) to relax, and enter a state of high arousal and experience much pleasure from her Yoni. As the giver, I experience the joy of being of service and witnessing a special moment. The goal is to assist in breaking through sexual blocks or trauma.
The goal of the massage is not orgasm, although it is often a pleasant side effect. The goal is simply to give pleasure to the Yoni. The purpose being to relax and to forget pressures to achieve orgasm.
Bathing is always helpful as it relaxes both receiver and giver, a quiet space is desirable with pleasant music, candles, pillows etc.; whatever makes you relax and feel safe. Do not hurry the process. We connect by hugging, holding and eye gazing Whatever makes you relax and feel safe.
You the receiver lie on your back with pillows under head you can look down at your genitals and up. A pillow, covered with a towel, is placed under your hips. Your legs are spread apart with knees slightly bent; your genitals exposed for the massage.
As the giver, I often sit cross-legged between the receiver's legs, allowing full access to the Yoni.
Before contact, I begin with deep relaxing breathing. Breathing with you we keep breathing deeply throughout.
A small quantity of lubricant on the mound of the Yoni. We spend some time there and don't rush. Just enough oil/whatever is used so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the Yoni.
We begin by gently massaging the mound and outer lips of the Yoni. Spend some time here and we do not rush. Relax and enjoy the experience. Gently squeeze the outer lip between thumb and index finger, slide up and down the entire length of each lip, and likewise to each inner lip.
As the receiver you can massage your own breasts or you may just relax and continue breathing deeply. Eye contact between giver and receiver is important, and it will allow us to gauge pressure. You, the receiver may tell me to increase the speed or depth of the massage, but communication should be restricted in order not to detract from the sensations of the massage.
I gently stroke the clitoris with a clockwise, counter clockwise motion. Gently squeeze it between thumb and index fingers. I do this as a massage and not to induce orgasm. If you become aroused, I encourage you to just relax and continue breathing deeply.
With mindful intent, slowly and with great care insert the middle finger of my right hand slips into the Yoni (the right as opposed to the left due to reasons of polarity in Tantra). Very gently, I explore and massage the inside of the Yoni with my finger. As always, I am gentle and take my time. Feel up and down, sideways; vary depth, speed and pressure: this is a massage and I am nurturing and relaxing the Yoni.
With the palm facing up, with the middle finger inside the Yoni, the finger are crooked (as if you were gesturing for someone to "come here") towards the palm of my hand. This is where I encounter a spongy area of tissue under the pubic bone, behind the clitoris (the G-spot (Grafenberg) or in Tantra the sacred spot). You may feel the urge to urinate or it may be painful or pleasurable. Again, I vary pressure, speed and pattern of the massage (side to side, back and forth, circles etc.).
The left hand, meanwhile, is free to massage your breasts, abdomen and clitoris. If you should have an orgasm, I encourage you to breath while I continue massaging you. More orgasms may arise, each gaining in intensity. In Tantra this is known as riding the wave. Many women can learn how to be multi-orgasmic with the Yoni massage and a patient partner.
I will keep massaging you until you tell me to stop. Very slowly, gently, and with respect, I remove my hands from your body, allowing you to just lay there and enjoy the afterglow of the Yoni massage.
Text of Yoni massage technique^
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*As far as I know none of us is a licensed massage therapist(oops, we do have one, really pretty one)and we don't have great expertise here either. You must have a partner to do this exercise, ask someone you want to help you to release your old resentments, disappointments, anger, losses. Quite a few emotions are released with this exercise and one result is that your partner sees you as a fragile being, shaking off the past and beginning anew with a new outlook. You see your partner as one who has helped you to free yourself from the pain of the past(whether you realize you have pain or no)and has opened the way to letting more light and beauty and pleasure into your life. You may want to do a lingam massage for your partner and help him release his emotions that have nagged and hindered his ability to leave the past behind and become more open to the beauty that life has to offer. After the couple does these exercises a few times we will begin to do other exercises which will increase respect between partners. Permission is a huge part of this, each partner must ask the other partner permission to touch, massage, or enter the othe partner's body. This isn't for everyone but it should be experienced if you want to explore yourself and see the other pleasures you can recieve from sex. ~baba