One Last Hug and Kiss  

TTigerAtty 62M
3769 posts
4/7/2006 3:13 pm

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One Last Hug and Kiss

Many of us will remember 'Breaking Up Is Hard To Do', that great song written by Neil Sedaka and Howard Greenfield which has been recorded by many artists to include Neil Sedaka, The Carpenters and many others. No doubt, breaking up IS hard to do! But, can it be done in a right way, a caring and loving way? Can it be done in a respectful way? We've all been through it, and we know how it hurts. And when we see it happen to our friends and love ones, we can almost feel their deep hurt. So, maybe we just need to learn to be more kind, more gentle and more respectful when we do decide, for whatever reason(s), that it's time to part company. After all, why hurt another human being any more than we must, especially a person for whom we once cared deeply? So, what do you think? What has been your experience?

When you're ready to go,
Will ya' tell me goodbye?
Will ya' respect me enough
To look me square in the eye?


Or, will ya' just slither away
Without telling me why?
Will ya' respect me enough
And will ya' care if I cry?


Will ya' respect me enough
To care how I might feel?
And will ya' treat me right,
So I can go on and heal?


Dear, when ya' decide to go,
Will ya' leave me that way?
Will ya' tell me goodbye
Or will ya' just sneak away?


So whatever might happen,
Will ya' just promise me this?
That you'll respect me enough
To give me a hug and a kiss?


Though parting ways will hurt,
Will ya' just promise me this?
To respect me enough, my dear,
And gimme one last hug and kiss?


Copyright © April, 2006 by TTigerAtty


rm_phoenix_law 61M

4/7/2006 8:02 pm

I was married for some time. As we divorced, my wife and I talked about our future relationship and how it would affect our two children. They obviously love both their parents and for us as their parents to have a civil and respectful relationship would be in their best interests. She and I have maintained a friendly and cordial relationship.

After my divorce, I lived with a woman for seven years. When we split up as a couple, we wanted to keep each other in our lives as friends, rather than not at all. She is my best friend, and we talk three or four times a week about anything and everything, including our love lives.

I know that this may be the exception rather than the rule, but it's made my life much more pleasant and full to have these two woman still in my life as friends.


TTigerAtty 62M

4/8/2006 4:50 am

    Quoting rm_phoenix_law:
    I was married for some time. As we divorced, my wife and I talked about our future relationship and how it would affect our two children. They obviously love both their parents and for us as their parents to have a civil and respectful relationship would be in their best interests. She and I have maintained a friendly and cordial relationship.

    After my divorce, I lived with a woman for seven years. When we split up as a couple, we wanted to keep each other in our lives as friends, rather than not at all. She is my best friend, and we talk three or four times a week about anything and everything, including our love lives.

    I know that this may be the exception rather than the rule, but it's made my life much more pleasant and full to have these two woman still in my life as friends.
Phoenix - Thanks for sharing your experience with all of us! If we could all be more mature and "respectful" of one another as you describe, this would be a much better world!


TTigerAtty 62M

4/8/2006 5:52 am

    Quoting rm_mzhunyhole:
    Letting go is hard..walking away harder..never looking back..can we do that?
MzHuny - You raise some really good points and questions! That's why Neil Sedaka's song was so popular! Everyone understood what he was talkin' about!

Don't take your love away from me
Don't you leave my heart in misery
If you go then I'll be blue
'Cause breaking up his hard to do

Remember when you held me tight
And you kissed me all through the night
Think of all that we've been through
Breaking up is hard to do

They say that breaking up is hard to do
Now I know, I know that it's true
Don't say that this is the end
Instead of breaking up I wish that we were making up again

I beg of you, don't say goodbye
Can't we give our love another try
Come on baby, let's start anew
'Cause breaking up is hard to do


MOfunNOWWOW 55F

4/8/2006 6:24 am

Never burn a bridge...

I hate to hear goodbye much rather hear I will miss you!


MOMO
just a squirrel trying to get a nut


TTigerAtty 62M

4/8/2006 7:48 am

    Quoting MOfunNOWWOW:
    Never burn a bridge...

    I hate to hear goodbye much rather hear I will miss you!
You've got that right, MOjac[! Unless the cause for the break-up involves abuse or a terrible breech of trust like infidelity, it just makes more sense to maintain a civil and, if possible, amicable relationship. But, we've all the seen the break-ups that are bitter and very hurtful. Often, as in the case of divorce, a once loving relationship turns into an all-consuming hatred between the two parties. I don't think that serves any worthwhile purpose.


TTigerAtty 62M

4/8/2006 7:52 am

    Quoting MOfunNOWWOW:
    Never burn a bridge...

    I hate to hear goodbye much rather hear I will miss you!
You've got that right, MOjac! Unless the cause for the break-up involves abuse or a terrible breech of trust like infidelity, it just makes more sense to maintain a civil and, if possible, amicable relationship. But, we've all the seen the break-ups that are bitter and very hurtful. Often, as in the case of divorce, a once loving relationship turns into an all-consuming hatred between the two parties. I don't think that serves any worthwhile purpose.


rm_goddess1946 106F
13518 posts
4/8/2006 12:21 pm

timing is an interesting thing...

i believe that we are always in the life of another for a time
...and that time is never a given...

leaving doesn't mean that one stops loving.
what is sad is when people stop loving and are not able to
release one to love yet again.

i continue to be business partners and good friends with my
former husband and do my best to embrace the idea of compersion
in life. love them enough to want what is best for them..even if
it is not you.

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...
{=}


TTigerAtty 62M

4/8/2006 12:40 pm

I hear ya' Shaye! Unfortunately, a lot of families experience this after a divorce. On the dating side, I'm not suggesting people remain friends but that they be respectful and amicable when they cross each other's paths again. Also that at the time of the break-up, there is some calm, caring and respectful discussion so that each party may leave the relationship as emotionally intact as possible.


rm_magnet4u22 49F
18406 posts
4/8/2006 2:36 pm

Letting go is very hard...someone who has made the break for certain reasons in a volatile relationship and still can't move on. I have seen this in a very dear one who wouldn't allow me to be a part of his life because of that. I agree with Goddess that you have to love them enough to want the best for them .....even if it isn't you.



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TTigerAtty 62M

4/8/2006 4:01 pm

[blog goddess1946] and [blog magnet4u22] - Good stuff ladies! You're both very thoughtful, and I've almost come to expect very thoughtful comments from both of you. The part about only being in someone else's life for a certain time and then we move on, helped me in my thinking about this subject. We tend to get in a relationship and then expect that it is some sort of permanent relationship, but with few exceptions, it rarely is. Thanks for your helpful comments!


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