I left....  

TB49er 40F
633 posts
6/7/2005 3:54 pm

Last Read:
3/5/2006 9:27 pm

I left....


I left AdultFriendFinder for some time because my work found out I was on here. They judged me and saaid it was wrong to be on a sex site. I never judge anyone and don't think people should judge me. I stuck up for myself and lost my job.

My boss found out because a "friend" of his told him I was here. It had nothing to do with my work performance or anything. After 8.5 years I was treated like a stranger.

For the first time in almost 15 years I am not getting up and going to work everyday. I still get up early, I take my kids to school, then I come home and do housewife stuff. I am enjoying myself and my family.

Would you have stuck up for yourself?

NOWCUMWITHME 37M

6/7/2005 4:44 pm

It depends on how good the job was. If the pay and work that you did was no fun, then yes I would have left too. If staying more people might have found out and things would just get out of hand.


rm_Belswingcpl 38M/41F

6/7/2005 4:45 pm

Heck yeah I would have stuck up and defended myself in that situation. If you were fired by that reason I have a feeling you can take legal recourse against them, if that might be your desire anyways. Unless there is a clause in the contract you signed when hired, personal stuff should not affect your work.

Though I would have shot back, “how did your friend know I was on there unless he/she was on there himself/herself?” it isn’t like people can just look at profiles without being members of the site or people involved with running it.

Personally me I would have asked them the reason for the layoff, in writing, and then contacted a lawyer for discrimination.

But that is just me, I would defend myself and my actions and then take it a step further by proving the other side wrong or in the wrong on a situation like this.


rm_Elysia2005 43F
412 posts
6/7/2005 5:16 pm

It all hinges on one major thing... Did you use work time and/or equipment to access the site? If you did, they have grounds. If you did not, they don't really have a leg to stand on, unless you were the secretary for the local chapter of the Moral Majority.


rm_Dakine2336 36M

6/7/2005 6:16 pm

I would consider some sort of legal recourse against the company. What you do in the privacy of your home outside of work is none of their buisness. Just a thought!


BuxomFrau 44

6/7/2005 6:21 pm

Adding on to Elysia, it actually hindges on two things: if you used your employers time and equipment, and/or if you signed an employement contract that has a clause about your conduct in and out of work. Most people don't realize it, but a lot of employers have a clause that holds you accountable to their standards 24/7, especially is you are a salaried, upper level management employeed. They see you as representing their company at all times. If the paper you signed on the day you were hired has such a clause, they have grounds to fire you.


TB49er 40F

6/7/2005 11:48 pm

Interesting ... I never used company time or company equipment and I never signed any papers to be held accountable to their standards 24/7. My husband says I should not take them to court because now I can thank them for letting me enjoy my kids. I have always held down 1, 2 or even3 jobs for the last 14 years. For once I get to do what I want with my kids.


corvairguy 65M

6/8/2005 7:38 am

OK, Now I understand what was going on. And I agree with all of the above.

Enjoy your kids while you can.


rm_the_taker 44M
60 posts
6/8/2005 9:12 am

Welcome back, missed you. Sorry to hear that, I believe you could get about 3 months of severance if you decide to go after them. I am glad to hear of the opportunity that came up for you to spend more time with your family though.


Barbiebunny69 43F

6/10/2005 1:32 am

How fuckin hypocritical is that...the person that found you should have ALSO BEEN FIRED because what is that person DOING on this site...theyre just AS GUILTY the asswipes!!!!! that makes me MAD. VERY MAD.

But hubby is right.. however id contact the EEOC and have them roter rooter their business and make em think twice.
better than legal crap


redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
6/20/2005 3:04 pm

I suggest you contact a lawyer who specializes in wrongful temination to get a real legal opinion from a real lawyer! So much advice from so many that are not qualified to give real legal advice is irritating. Would you get medical advice from this group?


69bud69 62M
6690 posts
6/25/2005 9:08 am

I would have mentioned something to the boss. However, it sounds like you had been pre-judged and almost black listed. If you had not signed any forms or heard anything through the company, then I guess it's another example of do as I say , not as I do. If that makes sense.
Also, how happy were you working there? Is actually sounds as though you're happier now then when you were working. You have your time with your kids and time period to do what you enjoy. If you don't need the work world, then don't worry about it. Besides, it's better for your kids that you're there for them anyway.

Always Ready for Fun.


Vampaerus 40M
373 posts
6/27/2005 2:16 am

it does not sound like a place worth working in. But you should definitely contact a lawyer. Chances are good you can actually get paid for all the time you've been out of work, even if you prefer it anyway.


KazooBeamsCadge 65M
6 posts
6/28/2005 6:40 am

EEOC for sure. Nobody's business but your own. Descrim for sex preference and harassment based on sex. Go for it "girl!"


toby962 46M
2 posts
7/5/2005 11:23 am

One of the problems of living in the u.s.a. If you lived and worked in europe no one would care.


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