limited time  

SxyMelody 39F
180 posts
1/26/2006 10:26 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

limited time

What do you do when you find that your opportunities to meet are very very limited? Is there actually anyone out there that is content with very few actual meetings? Especially when you are not looking for a one night stand, but more of a friends with benefits type of thing. I know that should put me in the one night stand category for simplicities sake, but the thought of having sex/making love/fucking someone and not seeing them again always makes me feel cheap. I feel that i am worth more than that and want someone to feel the same way too.

Have a good day all

F1reman6969 49M

1/26/2006 9:02 pm

SxyMelody, thanks for the comments.
I know the feeling you're having. Friends with benefits seems to get placed in the same category as one night stands, but are they really? Most friends with benefits relationships are there to create a feeling of wantedness and of caring and of sharing. Although we may not want a bona fide relationship, it's nice to know that we can share ourselves with at least one person who has a common interest, in our stakes and theirs. I feel used when I've become a one-night stand and, in my life, these types of relationships of openness and giving and caring and freedom are more meaningful than the ability to find someone for the night. I know that I'm not the perfect man, and that I've had my share of one night stands, but like you say, even as a man these encounters make me feel cheap. I've since learned the importance of friends with benefits and I continue to foster open communication and the desire to create something longer lasting than just a one-nighter. Even though I'm not really looking for a long-term commitment with someone because of where I am in life right now, it is important to at least create some somewhat stable relationships with those I share myself with and care about. You are not alone in the way you feel and I'm sure there are many more of us out there that feel the same way. As you advised me earlier, be patient, those who care about you will reveal themselves. We're out there....

4uoralrewards 56M
437 posts
1/27/2006 9:54 am

Okay, Okay, I'm up for a two night stand.....but not in a row.

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