Growing in sensuality and confidence.  

SwingKids469 65M/65F
575 posts
10/17/2005 9:16 pm

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12/21/2006 4:10 pm

Growing in sensuality and confidence.

This is my first shot at a blog. Most of them look pretty much like ramblings, so I guess I can't go too wrong

My wife and I have been in the lifestyle about 6 years. We are in our early 50s, not exactly the typical swingers, according to popular myth. When we first decided to explore the lifestyle, one of our big questions was whether we would be accepted. We imagined walking into a room full of young, attractive (and naked) people. It was a little unnerving, especially for Suzanne.

Don't get me wrong, you cannot call Suzanne shy by anyone's standards, but, like most women, she did not consider herself to be particularly attractive.

The route we took to the lifestyle was through a swinger's club - Rocky Mountain Connections. They gave us a seminar where we learned a lot about the lifestyle and were put at ease.

When we entered the party, we were pleasantly surprised to see many people of all ages, sizes and styles. The people were very friendly and made us feel welcome.

That first night Suzanne was wearing a business suit - white blouse with a collar, skirt to her knees, and a jacket. Now she wears tight skirts, no panties and flashes her breasts all night.

Here is the point - she felt so accepted and welcomed in that environment that she was able to blossom into the woman she always was on the inside - sexy, confident and fun-loving. We have seen many women go through the same process and it is truly heartwarming.

Big, small, short, tall - you ladies all have an inner sexy self and us guys, especially your husbands/partners, love to see it.

For the most part, the lifestyle is not about being perfect and on parade, it's about having fun, and we love having fun with people who feel good about themselves.

There are ladies that come to our club who just love to dance sexy, dress sexy and flirt. They almost always start out shy and reserved, then they blossom. They have tapped into their inner sexy self and they are all beautiful.

I just wanted to pass that on.

Tell us your feelings and experiences - how you have grown.

rm_SPSandSMS74 60M/61F
1 post
10/25/2005 11:16 am

Very well stated. The wife and I agree that there is too much emphasis placed on appearance and not enuff on the fun aspect. Parading around does not create fun, mixing does. Thank you for this blog and stating what we think so well.

rm_XtreemOral 52M
1 post
12/13/2005 12:08 pm

I have to say that single males are not so warmly greeted anywhere. I'm a nice guy that just wants to meet a nice couple to get together with. Most of the time I'm met with contempt and disgust. I think I'm no more contemptable or disgusting than any guy who is doing this with a partner. in 10 years on AdultFriendFinder, I have met noone in person from this site. I see all these people on here saying how open minded they are, how easy going they are, how accepting they are. Well, let me say it's all lies. I do not find anyone here to be any of the things they claim.

SwingKids469 65M/65F

12/26/2005 7:59 pm

Saw your reply to my blog. I don't know about anyone else, but we play with single guys wuite a bit. The main requirement that we have is that he be bi, and that eliminates a lot of guys.

WeBeNateNShell 52M/48F

1/11/2006 6:23 pm

Sadly I would have to agree that at least on this site Adult Friendfinders, most people are looking for adventures to share with their spouse and alot of times the guys in the relationship are cool with the two lady fantasy but not comfortable enough with themselfs to include a single male. Sounds like you need to check out a site for singles, then if you find a match with simular interests, you would then be sharing as a couple and might have more luck.

BltGuy 56M  
37 posts
1/25/2006 4:06 pm

Im Bi!
and will be in Denver Feb 5 - 11!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BluesHobbit 63M

2/5/2006 3:11 pm

I'm a bimale here on AdultFriendFinder trying to meet a bi female to play with as a couple,possible form a relationship.A few people I've conversed with say Bi ladies are scared about the aids factor with a bimale.That factor should be present with all bis,male & female.Witch is why I'd like to find a lady in the life to have that open relationship with.Close the circle,find true friends we can be open & comfortable with.Any takers out there?

UrFuckBud 61M
328 posts
6/4/2006 1:07 pm

I've been bi depending on the situation. Generally meet as a couple first. Depending on location and schedules. See where it goes.

thorntonmale 48M
36 posts
6/26/2006 12:13 pm

thanks for the insight into the lifestyle im hoping to attend a party sometime in the future just need too find a willing partner too attend with me

zatox_altern 60M

9/18/2006 11:33 pm

hi long time no see



JR3a 65M
21 posts
11/1/2006 3:04 pm

The thing about swinging is its new and against society norms. It's a step on the wild side for most.
Then the fact that your in a room filled with nude or naked people blows ones mind in the fact you can't associated people with the clothes that they would be wearing.
The first party I attended was freaky because I didn't know who I was talking to(as it turned out I was talking to a doctor and also a lawyer. It was a meeting of nudists then turned into a meeting of swingers, later in the night.

JR3a 65M
21 posts
11/1/2006 3:24 pm

There was also a down side to this as once I went to a party in Hollywood,Ca and as a single was told I would have to strip and go naked. Well I thought o'kay what the heck. Boy was that a mistake as I didn't take everything out of my wallet and it got stolen. I also had fun seen lots of bare bodies and had a few discussions which was alright. But the experince did raise my attention to the fact everything is not what it seems and there are those that take advantage of situations like this. Also in this case it was just what it seemed a fuck house and that was it. I have had many experinces in this area of dealing with the public and for the most part it has been fair. I also have or had meet nice people after the parties in their private homes. The first get togethers at parties was fine but later friendships do developed.
This is because when you first go there you know what your going for and you aren't expecting anything else.Whereas a bar you deal with personalities and the games of who can spend more to impress the girl or guy.
Check my "blog at JR3a"

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