These are the moments  

Sweetgenie_girl 41F
326 posts
8/30/2005 9:16 pm

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These are the moments


Recently, on one of the groups that I belong to, a member asked the ladies who have “little extra padding”, when did they realize that they were sexy, desirable, sensual BBW (beautiful big woman) as opposed to overweight females. I thought that question was interesting.

As a bigger than average girl, I have to admit that I don’t have some of the insecurities that overweight females seem to have. Maybe it has something to do with my ethnic background. As an African American, I was taught to appreciate my curves and flaunt them. I never wore oversized clothes, preferring body-hugging clothing. When all my skinny white friends were worried about losing weight, I was worried about my ass looking big enough in my jeans. I envied my cousin because her ass was so big, she could balance plates on it.

I remember as a child watching my mom and her sisters getting ready to go out and wishing to God that I would get to look just like them when I became a woman. They were by no means, what society has categorized as beautiful. Far from it, my mom and her sister were Black women: dark complexion, nappy hair, big nose, full blown lips, big breasts, wide hips and extra-large booty!!! And I admired them and wanted to be just like them. So now that I look the same, I’ll be damn if I let society tell me that I shouldn’t feel as beautiful, sexy, sensual and desirable as I want to feel, just because I don’t fit in their mould. Don’t get me wrong, I do have moments of insecurities. There are definite things that I wish I could change about my body. I’m not perfect, far from it and I’m a realist. I do realize that my body, my face, my whole being might not be appealing to a lot of people. I just don’t allow that fact to influence how I feel about myself.

So to go back to the question, I never saw myself as just an overweight woman but there were definite moments when I felt as sexy, desirable and sensual as I should. Sometimes when I feel icky I think about those moments.

Moments when standing naked in front of someone, instead of wanting to hide, you want them to discover, kiss, caress and lick your body as they please. Moments when that person looks into your eyes as if no one else existed. Moments when they take your face into their hands and sensually kiss you, when they take their time to taste your lips, entering your mouth with their sweet tongue and making it dance with yours. Moments when their hands wander all over your body, discovering secret places and sending arousing chills all over your being. Moments when your bodies are so intertwined and connected to each other, you feel the excitement building up, you sense your every muscle being infused with heat as you hold on to your partner, you allow yourself to feel this moment of pure bliss and then you release it as you collapse into their inviting arms.

Mmmm, these are some of the moments when I feel so sexy, sensual and desirable. Because during those moments, it doesn’t matter what my body looks like. All it matters is the moments of happiness, sinful pleasures and decadence it allows me to feel. And during those moments, I wouldn’t trade my body for the world.

rm_pgn_man 39M
82 posts
8/31/2005 7:32 am

It is a sad comment on society that so many women feel they must conform to impossible standards of beauty. Black women certainly have it good. White women are just screwed unless they confront society and claim back their identity of beautiful women from the ad-people, fashion types, and diet pushers.

If anyone looks at you SG and doesn't think "sexy woman" then they aren't someone you want to be seeing anyway. And more fool them.


hugablebear2004 59M

8/31/2005 5:10 pm

like the old saying goes,beauty is only skin deep,but when your ugly it goes right through


Sweetgenie_girl 41F

8/31/2005 9:26 pm

Pgn_man: you're totally right about women claiming back their identities. Lucky for me, my family always let me know that I was beautiful and that the fact that I didnt look like every other girl made me unique. As a woman, I decided to look good and feel sexy in my own terms and if someone can't appreciate too bad for them!

Hugablebear: funny twist on the whole "beauty is only skin deep". It's a good thing I dont feel ugly otherwise I wouldnt know how to read your comment


alex_200mm 57M
4960 posts
9/1/2005 4:38 pm

Well, to be honest, how many of us here, male or female, are going to fall into the 0.000001 percent of people who look like fashion models?

For me, it's not how a person conforms to fashion so much as how they look when they speak with me. Are they interested in me, or are they looking for someone else, hoping for someone "better" to come along?

If we have a spark together, then we truly value each other for our souls (if you like) rather than our looks.

And if we are discussing looks, then the woman making love to me is the most beautiful woman I know... when we lie together afterward I marvel at her loveliness... I trace my fingers over her curves or her flatness, revelling in the hot feel of her flesh... and because of my appreciation of her beauty, I usually see something similar reflected back at me. And god knows I'm not any (insert male-of-the-moment name here)...

So I think that beauty comes in many forms... it's just up to us to be smart enough to perceive it... and appreciate it...


smileguyqc 53M

9/1/2005 8:18 pm

Very nice post sweetgenie, you express yourself well. Gotta love those sexy curves


hugablebear2004 59M

9/2/2005 5:20 pm


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