My frist time...  

Sweetgenie_girl 41F
326 posts
8/11/2005 9:31 pm

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My frist time...

Ok so this is my first time "blogging". A conversation with my best friend is what lead me to start this blog.

So this evening, I had a friendly chat with my best friend at a coffee shop. Mimi is probably the person who knows me best. As we sat down to enjoy our eccentric coffees, she asked me seriously "So what are you hiding from me?". Damn, I should have known that her sudden invitation to Second Cup had nothing to do with the Chai Latte she enjoys so much. Maybe it's our 22 years of friendship and the fact that she has seen every single facial expression on me but this girl can tell when I'm hiding something, like no one else can. So I came clean and told her that I had set up a profile on AdultFriendFinder and as expected she totally disapproved. When asked why, I told her the simple truth: I'm not meeting anyone the "conventional" way and it's been hummm...let's say, it's been "awhile" since I've had sex and I have needs damnit...

Mimi has never been known to hold anything back, so she told me that I'm selling myself short; that I deserve to meet someone who values my intelligence, charm, personality and wicked sense of humor. Not someone who was only interested in getting in my Victoria’s Secret's lacy thongs...So this got me thinking.

The truth of the matter is I do miss sex. I miss the touch of a man's hand all over my body, being kissed, licked and tasted. I miss being aroused by the sight of a man's naked body, feeling that tingling sensation "down there" and just anticipating making love.

But on the other, I miss and want that other stuff too. You know, the kind of stuff you get to do when you’re “in a couple”: the nervous anticipations of the first dates, the just because innocent sweet kisses, the tacky romantic gestures, fighting over the remote control, or arguing over what movie to rent, staying at home and enjoying a cozy evening of doing nothing, looking forward to seeing that special person after a hard day of work, or as silly as it may sounds, just holding hands.

And the truth is my experience so far with AdultFriendFinder has been somewhat disappointing. I have met my share of married men looking to have “affairs” with me. I have gotten tons of emails with the following question “Wanna f**k tonite?”. But I have also met a few people worthy my attention. Like the guy who took me for ice cream and entertained with intellectual, funny conversations. Or the very intense guy who like to write poetry and short stories. Or that other guy who emails me funny quotes everyday.

So am I really selling myself short and stopping myself from meeting “normal” people as Mimi puts it? Or am I just exploring new ways of meeting that “special someone”?

rm_pgn_man 39M
82 posts
8/13/2005 5:41 pm

Nice to see you blogging sweetiegenie!

As long as you are up front like you were with me about what you want you will never go wrong with who you meet and what you do. There are so many people in the world who are desperate to meet someone as nice as you that it can't be anything but a bit of time before BC&P (Big, Cute, and Perfect) comes along for you.

Until then continue enjoying the people watching, laugh at the weird stuff, shake your head at the sad/pathetic stuff and leep looking for the wheat in the chaff. Normal is subjective and I believe there's more normal than weird people here, mores the pity.

I will tell you that when you get that relationship you've been waiting for you will know it because there's no-one I could imagine that would be less clear on what you want than you. And that's the best you could ask for.

(That's a confusing take on relationship strategy, from the man who only really knows military strategy).

Always pleased to share a conversation with you, and a nice ice cone!

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