A lesson in  

Sweetgenie_girl 41F
326 posts
5/3/2006 6:22 pm

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A lesson in

Saturday evening, my best friend, Sheri, called me and asked me “why do men treat the clitoris like it’s a door bell?” You see, she had a guy over to “watch a movie”, only they were busy doing other things. She got excited when, while sensually kissing her, he reached down her pants and started “playing”… well it didn’t take long until things turn from pleasurable to uncomfortable to painful. You see, Sheri was another victim of a bad case of clit-manipulation. After discussing this in great details with her, we realized that this is a nation-wide epidemic and that it is my duty to give you a lesson on clit-manipulation.

First of all, you need to know how sensitive our clitoris is. When it is manipulated without proper lubrification it can be down right painful when you’re playing with it. In this case, I suggest, a little bit of saliva, but honestly, natural lubrification is the best kind. All this can be achieved by kissing her sweet lips, her neck, by playing with her breasts, by letting your hands wonder along her body and discover her lovely curves. When you reach down, before making a b-line for the clit, linger the moment a little. Rub her through her panties and tease her little. Then, reach a finger in her panty and feel how wet she is. If she is, then proceed with the next steps, if not repeat previous steps as often as necessary.

Ok, so now let’s get to the fun part. The part where you finally get to play. I suggest you start with a little technique I’d like to call “the full hand”. The purpose of the full hand technique is to use the palm of the hand to stimulate the whole vagina area as opposed to your fingers to stimulate the clitoris. It’s best to have your hand lubricated. It’s also necessary that you position yourself behind her (either standing up, on your knees, with her sitting on you). First, gently put your hand on her vagina area and press very lightly. Cup your hand on her vagina and then gently go up and down, side to side and vary the pressure. Sometimes press a little bit more, like you are giving her a massage and as she moans with pleasure, tease her by easing the pressure. Trust me, this will be very arousing for her because you are stimulating the whole area (side notes: inner and outer lips can be just as sensitive for women as the clitoris).

Then cup your hand and grip her vagina a little bit tighter. Now remember, you’re not manipulating a door knob so please proceed with care. Now, we’ll vary your technique. Instead of simply cupping her and going up and down, side to side, you will now grip and lift. Pull gently as if you want to bring the whole vagina to you. Once you’ve done the whole “grip and lift” technique a few times, vary between going up and down, side to side and grip and lift. Occasionally, let your finger wonder in her vagina opening, see how lubricated she is. Make sure to move the palm around her WHOLE vagina area (she’ll appreciate). Be careful, you don’t want it to become monotonous so keep surprising her by changing the motion and varying the pressure.

Now remember you have another hand that is presently not doing much. Well it’s time to put it to work. Let that hand discover your loved one’s body. Let it wonder on her shoulders, her waist, her hips, her belly and most importantly her breast. Play with her nipples as they get harder and harder under your touch.

At this point, she should be fully aroused and ready to receive your fingers. Go gently. And remember, just because your finger is in, it doesn’t mean that you should forget the rest of the area. So while keeping your palm on the area, insert a finger inside and stimulate her g-spot (Note: if you can’t find it, have her guide you. Believe me, there is no shame is asking for directions occasionally.) Now I know this can be tricky but trust me, it’s doable. Continue stimulating her vagina area with your palm while stimulating her g-spot with your finger. This is when the “grip and lift” technique might come handy (no pun intended).

I know you naturally will focus on one area more than the other, but if you want to give her the mind-blowing orgasm she is so yearning for, concentrate and focus on both her vagina and her g-spot. And pay attention to the signs. Is she getting wetter? Is she breathing faster? Do you feel little beds of sweat forming on her body? Then congratulations, you’re doing well. If not, keep at it…

When you feel her getting close to orgasm than you have permission to apply a bit more pressure and go a little bit faster. But remember, moderation is the key word. And don’t forget, just allow yourself to enjoy the moment. Become one with her. Move as she moves. Breathe as she breathes and moans as she moans. Keep caressing her clitoris and vagina (not pinch, pull, twist or push) until you feel her about to explode. Then grip her one more time and give her a nice pull as you feel her orgasm. Gently caress for a few nano-seconds after she cums…but not too long. Just like the tips of your penis is super-sensitive after orgasm, so is our clitoris (for most of us anyways).

This, gentleman is how you manually stimulate a woman. Notice how I didn’t spend much time focusing on the clitoris alone. That’s simply because it doesn’t come alone…it comes attached to a whole area. Pay attention to it.

Now, feel free to try this technique and any feedback will be appreciated. I am at your service if you have any questions. Normally, I don’t share all this knowledge without a substantial fee but this is for “woman-kind”.

Also, Alex200mm, has offered to go on the field to try this technique and let me know how it works. If any of you ladies would like to volunteer and help Alex with his research, just follow the link. Your feedbacks will be appreciated as well.

Have fun!!!


5/3/2006 7:55 pm

There needs to be a nationwide move in the USA to have stuff like this become a standard part of a high school level education. It's because it isn't that there is such a high level of lameness in the sexual technique of nearly the whole of the nation in both genders. Although due to overly conservative parents and other related stuff I'm guessing that it isn't likely to occur within my lifetime.


smileguyqc 53M

5/4/2006 8:25 am

You know it doesn't even feel good to try and rub when things are not warmed up. This is a great post... so where do we sign up for lessons????? . Oh and I should add there is nothing quite as exciting than finally reaching down and finding that things are hot and steamy.

Sweetgenie_girl 41F

5/4/2006 9:20 am

KC JJ: you are so right. This stuff should be taugh in school. Along with masturbation thechniques for women (but that's a whole blog issue)... Thanks for stoping by!
BTW : nice pic

Sweetgenie_girl 41F

5/4/2006 9:24 am

Smileguy: I think I should start a seminar, what do ya think?
There should be enough people signing up right? Wooooh-you are giving me so many ideas now? lol!

smileguyqc 53M

5/4/2006 11:15 am

lol... first in line

rm_gars514 37M

5/4/2006 6:42 pm

Good to read you again especially with such humor and pep!

I love this lesson! And I love your simple yet detailed explanations. The line-up for the seminar will sure be long.

alex_200mm 57M
4960 posts
5/6/2006 10:48 am


thanks for including my offer on your post... but sadly, I have not been contacted by anyone yet.

Perhaps you could organize a seminar, with some suitable lady friends of yours, so that I and my colleagues above could demonstrate what we've learned from you in a supportive, group environment? Perhaps at some suitable location, with lots of mirrors on the wall and ceiling for better technique analysis? Just a thought...

Alex xo

PS This was an excellent post, but could you perhaps write a post on clit-manipulation using other parts of the body? I am always eager to learn more...

Sweetgenie_girl 41F

5/7/2006 3:28 pm

Smileguy... I'll make sure to reserve you a seat...right next to the teacher

gars514...does that mean you'll participate to my seminar too?

Alex...Perhaps I should write an entire post regarding some of your...er...talents?
BTW, when's lunch? I want to hear all the details about your special night? LOL!!!

smileguyqc 53M

5/9/2006 7:15 am

LOL... I like Alex's attitude, very inclusive. I love to sit at the front of the class, you really get to see whats going on and the teacher always picks you for demonstrations

rm_gars514 37M

5/10/2006 6:13 am

Where should I sign?

rm_feature1976 40M
8 posts
5/10/2006 3:27 pm

Did somebody say seminar? Sign me up.

Good post!

Sweetgenie_girl 41F

5/11/2006 4:49 pm

Smileguy : You gotta love Alex for his dedication! LOL!!!
And your seat is reserved in the front...teacher's pet!

Gars514 : I'll make sure to send you the registration papers.

Feature1976: I also offer private lessons... maybe it could help with your current state...wink wink

rm_gars514 37M

5/12/2006 8:44 am

Good, I will keep a close eye on what the mailman delivers.

1586 posts
5/13/2006 9:04 am

Suggested future topics:

Nipples Are Not Radio Dials

Please Don't Apply The Super Vacuum Seal On My Clit With Your Mouth

I Know Who My Daddy and It's Not You. Let's Not Talk About Parental Figures In Bed.


Sweetgenie_girl 41F

5/13/2006 4:25 pm

DCEbony - funny topics
How about
Stop tickling my tonsils with your tongue
My mouth is full - now's not the time to ask me how I like sucking your dick
I know what your name is...er...Bri..Thom...Micheal!!!

rm_tantwo4 68M
1 post
5/15/2006 11:47 am

Thank youfor providing such clear concise directives. We all need to re-evaluate our performance and technique regularly. I am willing to attend all classes , should any homework be assigned I will do them with the greatest of dedication. Question should I need additional tutoring will you guide me in that . [SIZE4

Sweetgenie_girl 41F

5/15/2006 8:02 pm

tantwo4: lol! You sure sound like a future straight A student

amoraloralamor 44M
1 post
5/18/2006 4:35 pm

Great post. It's always good to learn new techniques, but I think the absolute most imortant thing in all of this is to listen to the feedback your partner's body is giving you. Afterall, what works for one person does not necessarily work for everyone.

I love learnig my partner's "erogenous topology" for lack of a better word. The best thing is that the more techniques you know, the longer it takes to find out how your partner reacts to them

As for teaching this type of stuff in school, I would say no, but only because I am enjoying my status of "scarce resource".

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