Hmmm ...  

SweetDarlinAngel 39F
2088 posts
7/27/2006 9:26 am

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8/1/2006 2:54 pm

Hmmm ...

I come home from a hard day's work
Another day without a single perk
I come in the house dragging my ass
Reflecting on how slow my day had passed
I shut the door, send the kids to thier room
And let you know, that home, is your groom
I open the bedroom door and see your face
My work disspears and everything falls into place
Your smile has filled my soul
The love eminating from you makes me whole
I am at last at ease
As I take you in my arms and time seems to freeze
I take a deep breath as I feel your love flow in me
I hold you close and kiss your neck and hope that you can see
Just how much you mean to me
I hope you can feel my love reaching for you
As I feel you melt into me I know it's true
You can feel the love that's in my heart
As I have felt your from the start
Your the girl made just for me
I special you, you see
I am meant for you and you for me
Through eternity we shall always be
Husband and wife bound through life
To share a love through good and strife
Love will take us through
Because together there is nothing we can't do

I received this poem on my pillow this morning after a huge fight last night with Alice. Now, I am normally one to be swept away by poems and acts of romance like this, but I feel bribed or begged this time. The words seem forced almost fake to me. Scared, not loving ... am I reading too much into this? What do you think?


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
7/27/2006 11:43 am

Sometimes love isn't cozy. It's full of flaws and things said badly, things misunderstoon, and things that hurt. But it doesn't stop it from being love. And when the rose hued light of dizzy love is outshone by the cold light of day or fades into a darkness, somehow the magic pales a bit as well, and this happens on any "long haul", and intentions are met by caution because you have been hurt. In her heart Alice knows this, but in the pressure has failed to articulate. Maybe it doesn't scan well because it was written hastily, but that in itself says something. She has made a gesture. A statement of her intentions and desires, and even if it does not have the full flow I think it is intended to be genuine.

She wants you. Who wouldn't? {=}

warm xx

SweetDarlinAngel replies on 8/1/2006 2:46 pm:
Thanks Warm ... a fresh look without so much anger is probably a better approach to this.

TheQuietGuy2005 54M
2386 posts
7/27/2006 1:06 pm

The fact that Alice took the time, made the effort to write it has to say something ... sometimes verse can feel a little forced because one feels compelled to write it even though the words just won't flow properly.

You feel "bribed or begged"? Well, maybe she is begging you to stick with her. Is that so wrong as long as the feelings behind it are genuine? The fact that she may be scared of losing you doesn't necessarily mean there can't still be love there too.

Of course, that doesn't mean you're responsible for her feelings. She's a big girl too. If you're not happy you're not happy and there's no reason why even the best-written poem should change that.

Maybe this is the time for you to talk to Alice to try to redefine your relationship, use her expressed sentiments as a launch pad to try to make her see why you're not happy. Perhaps this is the point from which you can rebuild the relationship to the satisfaction of the two of you.

Or maybe not. Only you can know, deep down in your heart, what the truth of that is. Just don't confuse the effects of your troublesome hormones or the growth of your baby with intuition.

And remember to breathe!


SweetDarlinAngel replies on 8/1/2006 2:47 pm:
Inhales ... Exhales ...
Good advice.
I think I'll stick with this breathing thing for a while, at least until I can determine what is hormones and what is true emotions.

rm_wetfingeraz 53F
3012 posts
7/27/2006 4:39 pm

You know her better than anyone. Trust your instinct.

SweetDarlinAngel replies on 8/1/2006 2:48 pm:
Instinct. Right. I know I've got some of that somewhere...

rm_Rico0825 54M
483 posts
7/27/2006 5:06 pm

Hey kiddo!!! That depends on what the fight was over. Is it a recurring type of thing. If so it is a band aide. There is only so many ways a person can say I'm sorry when they are apoligzing for the same thing over and over.

If not, take it for the beautiful words that it is. And enjoy it!!!

SweetDarlinAngel replies on 8/1/2006 2:50 pm:
I'm beginning to think that band-aid is your favorite form of expression! LOL But you points also makes a lot of sense.

bedroomice2003 43M

7/27/2006 6:30 pm

I wonder if she has a bank of poems, one for every occasion. The words were nice and I'm sure they express how she genuinely feels about you, but I agree with the others that it's just a band-aid. She has no problem apologizing and expressing her love for you, but a greater gift would be addressing the underlying reasons why you two fight in the first place, and then taking measurable steps to solve them. Perhaps coming up with a list of the things you fight about (kids, money, chores) and then agreeing not to discuss them until she (or both of you) have cooled off, and then discussing them at the table rationally.

You can have another list of hurtful things the two of you have said in past fights that keep recurring, the sort of things that put one or both of you into a rage, and then intentionally replace those words with "I love you" or avoid those words althogether when you do fight.

When she can make an effort to correct the behavior, not just cover it up with flowery poetry and gifts, that's when you two will come to a greater understanding. It takes work on both your parts, but if she truly loves you the way she writes, it's worth the effort.

SweetDarlinAngel replies on 8/1/2006 2:53 pm:

GleesFlakyShawl 49M
1620 posts
7/27/2006 8:11 pm

mmmm... "husband and wife" rings a bell on me...but then again u know ur couple dynamics better than anybody else ( i hope!!!!!!!)

of course, u can always try to google the poem and see what u find....but if u dont trust ur partner......

SweetDarlinAngel replies on 8/1/2006 2:53 pm:
things that make me go hmmm....

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