Social Troubleshooting  

Supervy_Sage 50M
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6/26/2006 12:03 am

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Social Troubleshooting


Currently, I work in a job where I isolate and repair problems in electronic systems. I have often toyed with the idea of applying these basic principles used in electronic troubleshooting to my everyday social life, and I have met with some success. Here are the steps I use. Might be of some help to someone, so…

1. Be able to realize that there even is a problem. Some folks are so blind to their social surroundings, or so wrapped up in themselves to notice that something is amiss .
2. Identify the problem. Identifying the problem can be tricky sometimes. An example would be thinking “My wife is cheating one me.” Is that the problem, or is the problem that you are not paying attention to her, and she had to find attention elsewhere.
3. Isolate the problem. Sometimes just finding out where the problem is not, will lead you to the problem’s source. It is very critical in this step to never, never make any assumptions. You need to keep to only the facts. And don’t forget to use your experience. If an area has been a problem before, in your experience, check it again.
4. Fix the problem. Enough said. If it’s you, change it, if it’s her, accept it if she isn’t going to change. It is all about give and take. The giving and taking has to be mutual.
5. Follow-up. Make sure that the fix is sticking, and that the problem is not coming back. This step is one of the most important. It is the only way that you can tell if the problem is really fixed.

Well, if this even helps one person, then the post will have been worth the effort. Haha. Good luck!

The Super Pervy Sage


VCF1962 105F

6/26/2006 12:55 am

Shame my ex husband didn't know this many years ago !! He may not have been an ex if he had !

Thanks - great advice. Let's just hope people take note !

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!


happyladychat 47F
3740 posts
6/26/2006 3:43 am

But humans are not machines. Not all problems involving humans can be fixed, especially in terms of personality difference. And when it comes to human disputes, it is always easy to forgive but not to forget. Therefore when problem choose to stay, it is usually up to one to let go and move on or suffer eternal distress.

Just my 2-bits.


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Supervy_Sage 50M

6/26/2006 7:32 am

    Quoting happyladychat:
    But humans are not machines. Not all problems involving humans can be fixed, especially in terms of personality difference. And when it comes to human disputes, it is always easy to forgive but not to forget. Therefore when problem choose to stay, it is usually up to one to let go and move on or suffer eternal distress.

    Just my 2-bits.
Haha. The hopeless romantic. Yes, that is an option if you are not interested in saving the relationship. Sometimes it is easier to fix the broken window, then to buy a whole new house. But I wrote this mostly for those that just have to get the relationship back on track, come hell of high water.

The Super Pervy Sage


happyladychat 47F
3740 posts
6/26/2006 10:51 pm

    Quoting Supervy_Sage:
    Haha. The hopeless romantic. Yes, that is an option if you are not interested in saving the relationship. Sometimes it is easier to fix the broken window, then to buy a whole new house. But I wrote this mostly for those that just have to get the relationship back on track, come hell of high water.
OH YES, I'm one of those hopeless romantic who thinks fairy tales are real.... and Cinderalla and Snow-Whites do exist.

Well, I must say to mend a broken relationship comes with very high maintainence cost. I have come across couples who part as friends rather than becoming sour themselves by savaging a relationship that's rotting. Good move I think.


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happyladychat 47F
3740 posts
6/26/2006 10:53 pm

    Quoting Supervy_Sage:
    Haha. The hopeless romantic. Yes, that is an option if you are not interested in saving the relationship. Sometimes it is easier to fix the broken window, then to buy a whole new house. But I wrote this mostly for those that just have to get the relationship back on track, come hell of high water.
OH YES, I'm one of those hopeless romantic who thinks fairy tales are real.... and Cinderalla and Snow-Whites do exist.

Well, I must say to mend a broken relationship comes with very high maintainence cost. I have come across couples who part as friends rather than becoming sour themselves by savaging a relationship that's rotting. Good move I think.

BTW, you really can lick that well? (aka your comment in MzHunyHole's post) Hmmm....


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Supervy_Sage 50M

6/27/2006 12:16 am

    Quoting happyladychat:
    OH YES, I'm one of those hopeless romantic who thinks fairy tales are real.... and Cinderalla and Snow-Whites do exist.

    Well, I must say to mend a broken relationship comes with very high maintainence cost. I have come across couples who part as friends rather than becoming sour themselves by savaging a relationship that's rotting. Good move I think.

    BTW, you really can lick that well? (aka your comment in MzHunyHole's post) Hmmm....
Not to change the subject, but yes, I can lick that well. haha
I think the key is the desire to drive my GF insane, and I like the taste and smell of a fresh, clean, ....meal. haha

The Super Pervy Sage


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