AFF Channel  

Supervy_Sage 50M
939 posts
8/10/2006 11:43 pm

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AFF Channel

I have discovered something today from a friend, an insight. Not an insight, more of a reminder. It seems that if a man or women tells someone that they want to be your friend, it is because they are not interested in a sexual relationship. There has been a huge leap forward in the chain of events that lead to sex. I realize the regular life and AdultFriendFinder life are like watching two different channels on the Television, and all the steps listed are like programs on the Television.

Normal Channel:
1. Don’t know them
2. Meet them
3. Know them
4. Care for and/or love them
5. Have Sex

AdultFriendFinder Channel:
1. Don’t know them
2. Meet them
3. Have Sex

AdultFriendFinder skips the whole Know and Care about them steps.

Also, I was asked how can you care about someone and have sex with another? There is a huge jump here too. That is assuming that I am having sex in the first place. But when people watch just the AdultFriendFinder channel, they think that is the norm.

I really enjoy getting to know as many people as possible on this blog. There is so much diversity. Sometimes when I chat with some friends, I have to put on my life vest first, so if I get tossed out of my boat in the storm I will not drown. But it is ok, and I will continue to chat because I care about them, and want to help them however I can, to find what they are looking for.

The Super Pervy Sage

grace007005 39F
7 posts
8/11/2006 1:06 am

Supervy_Sage replies on 8/13/2006 12:19 am:

happyladychat 47F
3740 posts
8/11/2006 9:06 am

Interesting observation.... it really depends what an individual is looking for, and due to the very nature of this site, I must admit most would care just about getting on intimate terms.

Like you, I enjoy knowing folks, but unlike you, I hardly strike close friendship with anyone nowadays.... basically because I feel safer staying in my boat. Somehow, I'm careful not to get into trouble since I'm a married woman. We never know who is sitting behind the computer on the other end. *shrug*

Make it your challenge.... turn me ON!!

Supervy_Sage replies on 8/13/2006 12:36 am:
I admit, when I came to this site, I was looking for something very different than what I am now. Now I just want to connect with people on a friendly level, and am not looking for a "fuck buddy." And I thank YOU for that, by introducing me to the blogs in the first place.

ella1966 50F
1528 posts
8/13/2006 3:37 pm

I think that is a pretty accurate observation for most of us on this site, and one that I had to learn to make the distinction about pretty early on in the piece, but having made the mistake repeatedly, I am more cautious now...but take for example "Mr Darcy" and me, which has had the greatest emotional impact on me by being the first 'experience' on here. Well he said that he only wanted an "on-line" friendship, but even though it was long distance, and therefore there was no possiblity of a real-life meet, I thought he had some kind of "carnal or romantic" interest, because I thought that is why a man would be interested in communicating with a woman and I surely felt something more for him other than friendship, even if it was pure lust. I mean, I was inexperienced in these things, how was I to know that I had a misconception and he had a different idea? He states, like you, that he only wanted to be a friend, perhaps not even that, a cyber penpal, but surely I was naive in presuming that he was not seeing women while emailing me, or infact, as it later turns out, was courting his soon-to-be wife! Now, that is quite a shock to the system for someone who was a novice to this whole scene!

Supervy_Sage replies on 8/14/2006 1:13 am:
Not to sound cold, but I'm sure it was good for you. Lets you see more clearly that not everyone is here for just sex. There are actually men and women out there that are interested in just expressing themselves sexually by writing, or living their fantasies in a very limited fashion, with no desire to meet anyone in person. This site offers a buffer zone for the shy to let loose and not have to worry about any repercussions.

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