Dining Etiquette from an Uncultured Country Girl  

SuperSuperGal 38F
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8/11/2006 11:24 am

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Dining Etiquette from an Uncultured Country Girl

I'm not a fan of snobbery, but there are small rules of etiquette that, when not obeyed, sort of irk me (but then again, are quickly shrugged off as inconsequential at the end of it all). These rules do exist, and I'm sure as an occassional hostess I've breached some protocols myself. But there's one rule that, when not observed, really bothers me.

My husband and I are avid wine drinkers. Although not connossieurs (sp?), we don't skimp on a $6 bottle of wine. We tend to purchase only vintage, which you can get reasonably between $12-$15 (and up of course). Something about discovering a great tasting wine on the porch in the summer evening that just makes life seem worthwhile.

As a sometime guest for dinners, we (or I if I'm alone) always bring a 2 bottles of wine. If I don't know the preference of the host, a red and a white. If I do, two of the desired taste. Generally, the idea is to have one during dinner, then the host can enjoy the second at their own leisure, anytime.

Here's where I must say the most common breach of etiquette occurs. If your guest brings a bottle of wine to dinner, please do serve it at dinner. Don't replace it with another . Or worse, don't replace it with a cheap, unsavory wine . Or worse, don't replace it with your own homeade wine . Sure, after that first bottle is finished (which, with 4 or more people is generally after 1 glass each) serve anything to your hearts content.

I may be wrong here, but to me it's just common sense. But then, I know I probably breach 100 other rules that I'm not aware of, including flirting with the guests .

champagnechaser 41F
1639 posts
8/11/2006 12:36 pm

Lmao, I know what you mean. I always bring a bottle of wine to dinner parties, but it seems that most people put it away and serve another kind. wtf? And its seldom one i like.

LadyGrayLeopard 56F  
26385 posts
8/11/2006 12:53 pm

I have a different view...

Let's say when I go back 'home', I normally bring with me local, Luxembourgish wine as especially the white wines are really great here!!!
But it breaks my heart if the bottle is opened when I am there!! I know how it tastes and my idea is that they can have the whole bottle(s) themselves one evening by the lake, enjoying the sunset etc...

The same goes here with normal dinners.

At least I choose the wine according to what I am serving, so the bottles I get probably are not an exact match (better add that I reserve at least two types of wine from different regions and countries so everybody should be happy, no matter what they like; and partly just to test new combinations).

And I would for sure like to have the pleasure of the whole bottle myself some other time, not just having a half a glass
And thinking about my dear friends while I drink it...

frassy_sass 54F

8/11/2006 1:36 pm

I think I have to agree with LadyGray. I am very grateful that friends care enough for me to treat me with good conversation, good food and their company.

I hopefully can leave them something to enjoy privately and have good thoughts about our evening.

GraspCrownRusts 46M
780 posts
8/11/2006 2:49 pm

I think you said it best when you said that for 4 people, you're only going to have one glass each. There will be plenty of opportunity for the host to bring out something to share with the guests also.

I think you're on the money with your opinion here... not that my opinion about your opinion matters too much... unless, of course, you were waiting on it - then, there it is... enjoy.... I'm sure you weren't though... Ugh. I'm just wasting blog-space. AdultFriendFinder may have to charge me a storage fee...

The Drive-By Blog Flirter...

swm4funwithu2 47M
255 posts
8/11/2006 10:31 pm

Ok... here's the deal... if your going to bring wine to a dinner party, the proper thing is to bring two bottles...one for the meal, and another in a gift type bag...so the host knows that it's a gift, for them to enjoy at a later time. And, four glasses from a bottle is about rite for four people. After that, the host can serve whatever they see fitting to the occation. Also... for those of you that do make your own wine, why not reciprocate... give a bottle of your finest to your guest couple. This is just my view on it and what I do. Not a quote from any book.

SuperSuperGal 38F
20 posts
8/12/2006 12:53 pm

Well, I'm glad I'm not alone .

LadyGray and Frassy do make good points. I did mention to bring two bottles for just that reason (thx swm4fun--I love the idea of reciprocating with giving a wine from your own cellar). And shawnee, my opinion of your opinion of my opinion in my opinion is just an opinion and never any harm either way

rm_Ready4uToo58 58M
29 posts
8/12/2006 11:15 pm

I think there are just way too many opinions here. I have probably shown poor etiquette as a guest on many occasions, but wine is serious business, so I make sure I always bring two bottles. When having guests, I always have choices on hand. If they bring wine (which they don't always do) I offer them a choice of bottles before dinner. The choice always includes the wine they brought. As a rule, flirting doesn't start until the first bottle is finished.

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