Supporting our Troops  

SunneyOne 44F
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7/22/2005 3:38 am

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Supporting our Troops

So a few days have lapsed in my posting, and I posted something I had written a few months ago just for myself, “On Top of Things”. Unfortunately, no, that doesn’t explain why I haven’t been around much. I wish it did.

For those of you who don’t know, which I will assume is most, I am quite patriotic. I’m not going to get into politics, but I am a big supporter of our troops, a fan of men in uniform, and will crush on a military man from a mile away. I think they are all heroes (women too).

That said…about a year ago, along with a bunch of other people, I sent a package over to Iraq, a shoebox full of stuff with notes too, addressed to any soldier. Quite a few people in my group got emails back from soldiers who received their package, including me. Mine was from a very sweet, lonely pilot. We began corresponding, and it became more frequent. Pilot was divorced, recently, and very lonely.

Months ago, when he had leave, he came here. He said there was no point in going home; as things were over and he had no family there. We became very close, although we were trying to maintain some distance in seeing other people, not forming a relationship, etc. just to maintain some sanity. But, we emailed, IM’d and talked every day. Needless to say, we got closer.

Within the last week, promises have been made, the relationship has deepened. Plans were made for what would happen when he came home. And then, the other night, I got a phone call at 2am. Those are never good. It was his wife, who had gotten into his emails. Apparently, they weren’t divorced. There were problems, but they’ve been working them out. And there wasn’t just me, there were 2 other women. She also tells me that this is quite common, as the guys are so lonely, that they seem to have developed a habit of corresponding with women and setting up false hopes and promises. Nice.

So there’s the ugly side of supporting our troops. Needless to say, I stepped away from the situation, as I despise being “the other woman”. But it left me a bit discombobulated as far as my beliefs, optimism and general view of the human race.

As if I needed more, I found out yesterday that a dear friend of mine who is there was killed. He was my first “real” boyfriend, and we’ve stayed in touch when we could for years. His family called to let me know.

Yeah… so I’m not a big fan of this whole Iraq thing right now. Hopefully, I’ll get back to the regularly scheduled sex stuff in a day or two.

AltumHunksUnite 53M

7/22/2005 10:32 am

First, I'm sorry to hear about your friend who died recently.

Second, if you really care about this pilot, you should confront him with the information you learned from the phone call. Being former military myself, I was witness to many occasions when married (and unmarried) sailors juggled girlfriends. At the same time, there were numerous instances where an ex-wife or ex-girlfriend would contact a current flame and try to scare her away from the relationship, leaving the sailor available again. I'm not saying that this is the case with you and your pilot friend, but I'd confront him with it. You have enough info so he'll know you're not bluffing.

It's just a suggestion. I don't know your whole situation and it really is none of my business. Heck, you might have already confronted him with it and verified the wife's phone call, but if not, you'll never really know for sure.

Good luck.

Let me drive. I like the view

SunneyOne 44F

7/22/2005 12:24 pm

It's all verified. He's officially married. Thanks for the ideas though. He tried a weak apology, but that was after me seeing an email wherein he told her that all of it meant nothing.

rm_eazymuny 39M
1 post
7/24/2005 4:01 pm

Hi there. Sorry to here about your friend I know how ya feel.. I've been over there in the shit and been back for a year now.. so keep your head up and hope to here from ya and we can chat.


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