SunneyOne 44F
2146 posts
10/25/2005 6:51 am

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What is grace? Is it being able to walk in heels? Is it floating along instead of walking, not tripping, holding your head high, your back straight without swinging your arms? Is it queenly? Is it not being a klutz?

I’ve always said that I am not graceful. I do well to walk in 2 inch heels. I have been known to trip over nothing. I have been known to run into walls, sober. It has been a while since I’ve fallen down steps (knock on wood), but I know I jinxed myself by saying that. I don’t always wear pearls and carry a handbag that perfectly matches my shoes.

But maybe, that isn’t grace at all.

Maybe grace has to do with courage. Maybe grace is standing up for what you believe in in such a fashion that you are still ladylike, but resolute. Maybe grace is living your life for a cause, and according to your beliefs. Maybe it is being a hero and example to many and using that so that people never forget where they came from, never forget that progress means continuous forward movement. Maybe grace is not accidental, but is intelligent. Maybe grace isn’t an accident, but is planned. Maybe grace is knowing the consequences of saying, “No, I will not give up my seat,” on a bus yet sitting down anyway, knowing that you will be arrested and your entire life will come under scrutiny. Grace is knowing that, and still standing up for what you believe.

So for today, I won’t worry so much about what if I trip, or if my purse matches my shoes. Maybe instead, I focus on things that really matter, what I believe, and what is right. Maybe that’s as graceful as any queen.

rm_connor696 60M
834 posts
10/25/2005 12:49 pm

Hemingway famously described grace as courage under pressure. (And that surely describes Ms. Rosa Parks as well as any other line does.)

Oddly, the word comes from the Latin for "giving": grace is what comes as a gift, freely offered (hence the term "God's grace"). Maybe grace blooms when we cease thinking only about ourselves--when we cease to be self-conscious.

In any event, you're surely right: it's more than just the ability to strut down a fashion-show runway. On a related note, I've always maintained that dignity is more than just good posture, though some people seem to stress the latter more than the former.

slim1691000 67M

10/25/2005 1:42 pm

Well said Sunney..I am sure Rosa would apreciate your words...

a_poetman 45M

10/25/2005 2:10 pm

grace is having the "right answer" for every situation you face in life and that "right answer" is never, ever wrong!

rm_connor696 60M
834 posts
10/25/2005 4:21 pm

Oops--make that "courage is grace under pressure." As a "Saturday Night LIve" character used to say, never mind.

SibylBatchAxile 43M
384 posts
10/25/2005 4:32 pm

"Maybe instead, I focus on things that really matter, what I believe, and what is right."

Now that is true grace, Sonney...

And spoken like a queen...

AltumHunksUnite 53M

10/25/2005 7:20 pm

We're taught to always follow the law. Sometimes the law is wrong. That was one of those times.

The law told Rosa that she was required to take his sh*t.

Rosa decided she was too tired to take his sh*t.

You know the rest of the story.

RIP, Rosa.

Let me drive. I like the view

SunneyOne 44F

10/26/2005 3:42 am

Actually, she wasn't too tired. It was a planned move. She met with the civil rights leaders prior to doing that, and they selected her to be the person that started it. They knew that they needed someone above reproach, someone ladylike, with grace, and she fit the bill. She was already active with a civil rights group there, and she knew exactly what she was doing in refusing to give up her seat. It was a planned move, not just a "I happen to be tired today" sort of thing.

I think that makes it even more courageous.

SunneyOne 44F

10/27/2005 4:33 am

Darius!! You did dye your hair. Hot. Fiery hot.

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