Hummdinger! Pissed Off! Where are any of you, friends?!  

StSnoopy 52M
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12/21/2005 9:56 pm

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Hummdinger! Pissed Off! Where are any of you, friends?!

I'm not really sure if this should be considered a blog, but any way. Recently I have been experiencing one of those discouraging times in life. One of my co-workers found it necessary to cause me and my family some agonizing grief. I find this situation somewhat of a possible life-changing event, if I let this "DingBat" win.
Just before Thanksgiving I was approached by our boss with some mind-blowing and false accusations. "Boss" seems to believe that I have a problem with illegal substances, causing improper decision making and insubordinate actions. We all have our vices, but I was floored when Boss approached me, the accusations are unfounded and totally false. I'm openminded and diplomatic so I let Boss rave on, keep the peace? I believe there is only one reason for this situation. Boss (married) and DingBat (crazy and schezofrenic) have an away from work relationship, use your imagination, in more than one way. DingBat accomidates and accompanies Boss on out of town ventures concerning other business ventures (illegal in this state) he has interests in. Certain, unavoidable, instances at work have been scrutinized and scapegoats must be accused. I have been a manager for Boss over twelve years, DingBat has been an "employee" for six yrs. and my asst. mgr. for two yrs. I feel that Boss had been questionning DingBat and her ability and decisions (DingBats first managerial position). DingBat felt the best way out of the "fire" was to redirect Boss' attention elsewhere, at me. I can go to "battle" levelheaded with quick and intelligent decisions. Previous experiences with certain situations educates a person through optimal results or crappy ones, grace under pressure (General Patton or Private Doe). I readily admit to my flaws and faults, but this situation is a new one. I have experienced life with a spiteful, vindictive, and violent spouse. This is different, motivated by greed and jealousy. When attempting to defend myself and my decisions I was shunned and disputed. All of Boss' and my discussions on the matter have been one-sided, DingBats'(Boss' vice) side. DingBat is actually the one with the drug problem, poor decision making, and employee integrity smashing qualities (DingBat spent five days off in recovery and detox recently). Even though he knows, Boss is determined I have the problem, or at least try to convince me that he has no knowledge of her addiction and problems! I haven't let Boss know that I am educated and aware of their relationship, or DingBats' accusations and addictions. DingBat must have some damn good cat in order to justify the dozen roses weekly and Boss' close-mindedness of this situation. All of the other co-workers know I have been unjustly accused. If I quit or leave over half of them wouldn't stay and work with DingBat, I'm the reason they stay. I believe business sales would drop by half, business will close (no profit), and the employees would be in the unemployment line. Boss is so blinded he won't even consider asking them how they feel, the truth will set you free! I have been requested to offer DingBat some of my incentive money (bonus) in order to appease the greedy witch. See if you can justify this: Dingbat goes out of town with Boss; My "day" off is sacrificed to accomidate DingBat being away; I don't receive compensation for extra hours; DingBat is paid for her "out of town services" as well as her regular paycheck (paid twice for NOT WORKING!); Me, the "idiot drug addict with money problems", takes care of business in their absense without compensation; Now DingBat is going to get more money, my money, while I get the "big bend over and take it like a man" treatment. How can Boss be so naive as a pre-teen, his previous experiences with crazy, jealous, greedy, and spitefully lying DingBats should've conditioned his responses in a different matter. Pussy is mighty powerful! Cloudy vision and unwarranted actions prevail from high doses of "Vitamin P"!
I know the right decision to make as a person, quit and tell both of them up their poot shoot with anything causing physical misery. I can't though, if I knew that only DingBat would suffer from this decision, it would have already been made. There are too many people (employees,friends,customers) who would suffer severe and adverse effects. My conscience won't allow them to be sacrificed (sacrifice one to save the many). What's your opinion or advise for this situation? Have any of you experienced a similar situation or dilema? This is a hummdinger to the tenth power!!
One last thing. Where in the world are my network friends? I haven't been able to contact them, IMC or email reply, for some reason. Technical difficulties? Avoidance? No Interest? Why join a network if not interested?! "Is any body out there, just knod if you can hear me, is anyone at home?"


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