The Doctor is In  

SpaceRangerNJ 55M
2357 posts
5/11/2006 4:03 pm

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7/21/2006 3:27 pm

The Doctor is In

Sit back and relax.

Now tell me all about it.
What seems to be the problem?
...
And how do you feel about that?

So how may I help you today?


JazzDlight 59F

5/11/2006 4:41 pm

lol I don't think there are enough hours in the day for you to help me....Jazz


SpaceRangerNJ replies on 5/12/2006 7:09 am:
Small steps my dear, small steps. And I think I am good at this.
Be glad to help if I can.

firestarter665 42M/39F

5/11/2006 5:11 pm

Ok here it goes. Today was the most stressful and hurtful day I have had in a while. My son put me to the ultimate test today and it looks like he won. I have cried my eyes out today and feel empty. I feel hurt and unloved by my kids.

Bet you weren't expecting that. But it is the truth.


SpaceRangerNJ replies on 5/12/2006 7:23 am:
No worries. *Hands Mrs Fire a box of tissues* I hope you are feeling better today. Did you get a big hug from Mr Fire? Big hug from me.

Kids will test, especially at home. They haven't learned self control and boundaries. It hurts to feel you lost against someone so young. You feel like you should have been able to handle it better. You'll get better. Do you already have a plan of how to deal with it differently? Did you discuss it with Mr Fire and come up with a plan?

Now that the tears are over and things are calmed down, for both you and your son, you may have to revisit the subject with your son. Talk about what happend at a level he can understand. Make sure he knows he hurt you. Give him an alternate way to handle himself. A few options so he can pick the one that fits him best. Or have him come up with an acceptable on on his own. This is all assuming he is old enough for this approach. Yours are all very young I believe.
Now, were you expecting this?
I hope some of this is helpful.
SR

EroticaXTC 49F

5/11/2006 8:04 pm

    Quoting firestarter665:
    Ok here it goes. Today was the most stressful and hurtful day I have had in a while. My son put me to the ultimate test today and it looks like he won. I have cried my eyes out today and feel empty. I feel hurt and unloved by my kids.

    Bet you weren't expecting that. But it is the truth.
Big Monster Hugs!!!!
Your kids do love you, even if they are showing their ass...
they would be lost without you, and one day they will realize that!!!Here's a fresh, clean handkerchief, dry your eyes, blow your nose, and don't let it get the best of you!
{=}


EroticaXTC 49F

5/11/2006 8:13 pm

The problem is, I'm the biggest fool for love. And I'm such an oddball, so different from most everyone else, that I have a hard time finding people who I really feel in sync with. So far, when I find one, he isn't available to me. So, I feel hopeless sometimes. Well, a lot of the time, here lately.


SpaceRangerNJ replies on 5/12/2006 7:42 am:
It's a tough business this love thing. So what is so different? You many find there are more like yourself than you think. And then it's not so tough knowing you aren't alone.
Hopelessness is difficult to deal with. I know the feeling. I have felt so lonely my body actually hurt and wondered if I would ever have someone. You know, the who would want me thing. What if the last time I had sex was really the last time; ever. Then having long life in my genes is a sentence. Very sad thoughts. Glad I don't feel that way all the time. I go through phases as I suspect you do as well.
Big hug to you. We will find someone. I guess we have to be patient.

rm_AnOddGirl 57F
3469 posts
5/12/2006 9:35 am

    Quoting firestarter665:
    Ok here it goes. Today was the most stressful and hurtful day I have had in a while. My son put me to the ultimate test today and it looks like he won. I have cried my eyes out today and feel empty. I feel hurt and unloved by my kids.

    Bet you weren't expecting that. But it is the truth.
Fire, I still feel guilt about the shit I put my mother through as a teenager. The greatest gift she gave me was the unconditional love even when I was horrible, the second greatest gift was as she lay dying and we talked about it, all she remembered were the GOOD things about me. For that I could never thank her enough! Hang in there, one day they will have children of their own, grandkids you can spoil and send home high on sugar or give them noisemakers for no reason except to annoy your kids!

Oh Ranger, can you make it so I have more than 24 hours in a day? I need more TIME dayum it!



OhOdd


SpaceRangerNJ replies on 5/12/2006 9:42 am:
Good to see all the support for our FireStarter.
Parenting is certainly tough. Why don't they teach that in school?

OK, the closer you travel to the speed of light the more time will slow down with respect to the rest of us. No wait, that would work backwards. You would go through one day and we would go through many. OK, send us all on a rocket ship and you can stay back and get some things done. Then we'll all come back and join you.

OK, so efficency will have to do.
I hear great sex can make time stand still. You might give that a try.

EroticaXTC 49F

5/15/2006 6:04 am

"So what is so different? You many find there are more like yourself than you think."

I've spent 39 years explaining myself to most other people...I have to do it as much here when responding to comments to my blog...I have to explain myself to co-workers, friends, family, etc. All the time. It's just something I've come to realize, and accept to some degree...I could not answer that simple question of yours on one page...it would be a book of examples....and it makes me weary to have to go through the same things over and over and over again...
I do know how different I am, its proven to me every day of my life. I don't know that I've ever known anyone who just "understood me", except my father. My brother runs a close second. I cannot explain to you how painful and lonely it is to live without someone in your life who can communicate and love you without quesioning everything you say and do. Whenever I allude to it, I get the same pat answers that you gave to me. Few people ever truly try to look deeper without questioning me. There haven't been many "observers" like myself who approach me at all. The "somebody will come along, etc...." is just bullshit. People always "come along", yes, but it's always those who see something they want but they cannot understand what it is they're seeing. Until you've lived it, you can never know.


SpaceRangerNJ replies on 5/15/2006 7:14 am:
Thanks so much for taking the time to explain that. I admire that you have such a sense of self and are realistic about all those catch phrases; "Somebody will come along..."
I know it gets tiring to have to explain the same thing over and over again without seeing any result or payoff for the effort. And I'm sure you've heard the "but I'm different, I'll understand you..."
Kind of like the woman who can't orgasm and every guy in town gets in line sure that they will be the one to make the magic happen.
So this time I send you an Angel with the gifts of peace for your heart, patience to deal with a world of people who misunderstand you and the hope of finding what you seek.
I need to read more of your blog to get a better sense of you. The special person that you are.
Thanks again for taking the time here.
SR

redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

5/15/2006 10:45 am

*kicks off shoes*

*plops on leather couch*

well it's been raining, and I don't get any respect or help at home, and I need a good hard boy toy, and....

*sighs*

Is there a bar in this office?

TTFN


SpaceRangerNJ replies on 5/15/2006 12:07 pm:
Relax. Rest yourself. So how about this.
I'll come over and help you with your chores. That should remove the stress. Then I'll put on my boy-toy hat, serve up a few drinks and then you can have at me. And then I'll respect you in the morning.
Does that cover everything?
Oh, the rain. I'll put in a request for some sun. Best I can do on that one. If I could we would fly somewhere sunny after the chores are done. Someone else can serve us the drinks.

redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

5/16/2006 10:19 pm

I'll respect you in the morning

lol

then I didn't have at you good enuff

*waits for the sun and drinks*

TTFN


SpaceRangerNJ replies on 5/17/2006 6:23 am:
Practice makes perfect my dear. Have at me again until you get it right and I loose all respect for you. It might take a while, are you prepared to go the distance?

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