SpaceRangerNJ 55M
2357 posts
9/2/2006 8:54 pm

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9/10/2006 6:30 pm


Inspired by a comment I left on [blog madeline1959]'s post [post 493391].

Ever have a friend that ya just got along with from the start and it just continued that way? And you can honestly say "we never had a fight"? Everything just seemed to work out smoothly. No friction. You understood each other. You could be in their company hours on end and wouldn't think anything of it. Like on a 20 hour car ride. You never worry about money issues. Sometime they pick up the tab and sometimes you do. Sometimes separate. Depends on who has money that day. And you never keep to much track of things. Figure it will all work out in the end. No jealousy, no competition. No egos. Know and respect each others' strong points. Defer to their judgment when it's their area of expertise. Disagree but don't argue. No need to win or persuade the other. Just exchange ideas and move on. And you don't even have to think about it. It just happens.

I have had two that especially fit that description. Others are close, I can't say why the are not. It's just these two that seem to have something special.

Then there are the friends that just are. Over the months and years and the miles. Folks you have know a long time. Circumstances pull you away from being in each others' lives on a daily basis. But still, every year or half a year or few months, you talk on the phone. Or maybe you have a brief visit. But it's never weird, never difficult. It just is. And will continue to be. And you both know it. And you don't have to be in touch all the time. It's OK. One friend I did not have any contact with, phone, email or in person for maybe 6 years (actually is one of the two I eluded to above). Was going to be in his State. Made a point to visit. Practically picked up like no time had gone by. And then went our separate ways. My grandmother lost track of a friend for 60 years (grandma was 94 when she passed). Had no idea where she was. They found each other and immediately bonded again. How cool is that?

Sometimes these friends that you don't see or contact often suddenly come back into your life on a more regular basis. And so it goes. Maybe they will stay and maybe they won't but it's all good either way.

So what kind of friends do you have? Are they like the ones I described?

Lemondrop15484u 54F
4816 posts
9/2/2006 10:32 pm

I have a few really good friends. My best friend I have known for 20 yrs. she's more like a sister to me then a friend and she is just like you described.

SpaceRangerNJ replies on 9/3/2006 5:29 pm:
Hello drop of Lemon.
My oldest friend that I am still close with dates back to Jr HS. So close to 35 years. Next oldest is from HS so about 30 years.

sexyariesgirl 57F

9/3/2006 6:47 am

I have several really good friends...and they are the kind of friends you describe. I think that's what a friend really who accepts you for who you are and doesn't make demands on you. I posted about someone I thought was my best friend for about 30 years...and then found out she wasn't a friend at all. What you have described is true friendship in my opinion.

Power To FOK

SpaceRangerNJ replies on 9/3/2006 5:31 pm:
What would we do without our friends?
Sorry you lost a friend but it sounds like you grew from the experience.

rm_AnOddGirl 57F
3469 posts
9/3/2006 8:00 am

After my Mum passed away, I came to the conclusion that some friends are more than that, they are family, Sometimes they are better family than the ones your born with.
I choose my family now.

SpaceRangerNJ replies on 9/3/2006 5:34 pm:
You certainly can't pick the family you were born into. But you certainly can pick your friends. And you can decide who you want to spend time with.
And the more people we accept into our "family" and us into theirs, them more folks there are who are looking out for us and there if we need them.

elusive_angel 53F

9/3/2006 1:17 pm

FRIENDS.........just writing the word puts a smile on my face !!!

Elusive Angel


SpaceRangerNJ replies on 9/3/2006 5:37 pm:
Hi T!
Good to know you are smiling.
Hey, the rain stopped. Maybe the weekend won't be a total wash. Wash. get it?


9/3/2006 10:55 pm

I have many aquaintances.. but few wonderful close friendshps i'll treasure for ever..

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

SpaceRangerNJ replies on 9/3/2006 11:19 pm:
That was the way I was through HS. Knew just about everyone or they knew me. But didn't have many that I did anything with outside of school. Still have some of those close friends from then.
Some from College.
Some new ones.


9/4/2006 12:24 pm

My ex and I are like that...we have never had a fight and are wonderful friends. I love him and can talk to him or listen to him forever.

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

SpaceRangerNJ replies on 9/5/2006 10:02 am:
A woman in my office is very close to her ex-husband. Amazing relationship. I hope my wife and I remain friends after the divorce.

__Huntress__ 55M/57F

9/9/2006 6:19 am

I value my friends and their enduring gift of friendship. One I've had since before I was married, we speak almost daily and spend as time together as possible. One I've had since before my children were born, we were pregnant together and our babies were due during the same week, I lost mine, but her son is like my own. Another I work with everyday, she was my attorney at the end of my divorce and I now work with her ... her friendship has been a blessing in ways she will never truly know.

Every once in awhile, I stumble and offer friendship to those who don't quite deserve its gift. I'm still learning to be a bit stingy with who I give this to and yes, there have been times when I have taken this gift back from those who have attempted to abuse it. Friendship should not be littered with roadblocks, it should be a winding lane with no ending in sight. It should be an open door that lets you in and asks you to stay for as long as you like ...


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