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My horoscope today started with... "If you let yourself be lured by the siren song of ambivalence...."
Well, ambivalence isn't something I usually am lured by. Actually, it sorta pisses me off. But I got to thinking about things that come into my life that I am lured by.....
Siren Songs (and how I’m learning selective hearing)
When my marriage officially ended (not legally yet, just officially in my mind), I made a few decisions, the most important of which being: If you aren’t getting as much out of a relationship as you’re putting into it, it’s time for it to go.
I’ve spent the last few days evaluating the relationships in my life. Things that used to keep me in them ‒ even when they weren’t fulfilling me, or giving back equally to me, no longer will be allowed to hold me. I say that, knowing full well that it’s easier to say than to do.
Not only am I learning to relate to people different, but I also need to learn to relate to myself differently. I don’t have to settle for scraps if what I really want is filet mignon. I don’t always have to initiate contact. I don’t always have to laugh at a joke if I don’t feel like it. I don’t have to respond to something said simply to get my goat.
In the past, my responses were automatic. I’m trying to make them less so now.
I do not have to listen to the siren’s song, and dance for her.
I’ll dance when I goddamn well want to, and not before.
The array of choices before me now is limitless. I intend to sample the ones that appeal to me, and not feel obligated to taste them all. I don’t eat anything anymore just because it’s there ‒ why should I feel obligated to take an option just because it exists?
I shouldn’t. I don’t. I won’t.
3/15/2006 5:24 pm
choice, and change, its all up to you. I get this!|