Thursday, and Christmas is just around the corner!  

SmoothOneAllMan 69M
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12/22/2005 3:43 am

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Thursday, and Christmas is just around the corner!


Chilly start today, it is 24 degrees at 6:38am here in the triad. I have to get out and work on the last minute things before my trip out of town. Got to pick up a couple of gifts for my buddy and his lady friend. I also want to get by the local Eckerd store and get some soft drinks, they go on sale today. Besides that, I do not have much to accomplish other than packing my bag for the trip and just rest up, kind of like you are supposed to do when you are off from work. I like that!
You know, as I have been mulling over in my mind the prospect of my pending separation, there are some things that really have surprised me. One is, why is it that if a man and woman are both owners of a home, it is the man who is expected to move out and find new accommodations? After all, in my case, there are no dependent children living here. The wife is not handicapped, or infirm. Why would it not be just as reasonable to ask her to move out. She is the one who is seeking a separation, not me. The offer from the attorney this week was way off target although that was not totally unexpected. In any negotiation there is usually an unusually high opening to leave room to maneuver for both sides. But, the totality of what my wife is asking for makes it seem that she is somehow an injured party here and that she deserves some special compensation. What about my status? Just because I work, and always have worked, is that any reason to treat me like a cash cow? I did not do anything wrong in our marriage to give her grounds for such a vendetta. We just really grew apart on some levels and most of it concerned her children and family and how I measured up against them. She would put them and their wants and wishes before any feelings I might have had on any subject and that lead to difficult times between us. So again I ask, where are the grounds for her to seek to be cared for the rest of her life by me paying her to do nothing? I do not see the reason in any of it. I figure we have some common things that have to be decided and that we have to, by law, divide our common property. We only have a house, one car and some simple household things that are not worth a hell of a lot. After that, we should just cut our losses and go our separate ways. Well, that is the way I see it any way! I put 14 years of my life into this marriage too, is that any different than her 14 years?
I know, it is later and you figure I have changed my mind. No, I have not. This whole thing is festering in my head and it just keeps getting more unsavory every time I consider it. I plan to go over the situation again with my attorney after the new year.
Tomorrow I am off to the north, well, Virginia is north of here so yes, to the north. I am anxious to get on the road and get the hell out of town for a few days. I have worked hard this past term and need a break. The wife is going to her family's for Christmas, no news there. I was going to refuse to go this year had she not set the ball rolling on this separation thing. I will post a short good wishes message in the morning before I go, but then I will not be back for a couple of days. No one will miss me all that much anyway so it will be ok. LOL
Ok, that is it for this one, nite, nite peeps! Sleep tight! Have a Merry Christmas everyone!

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