looking to feel welcome  

SlimGoodGuy 38M
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11/24/2005 6:55 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

looking to feel welcome

I'm fairly new at this blogging bit here on AdultFriendFinder. It obviously takes a while to find a groove to fit into around here. It's a very tough playing field to work with, especially in the chat rooms. It takes time and plenty of character to schmooze your way in with the regulars. It's even tougher for guys to pull it off, or at least that's my impression. It's really not easy to just dive into a conversation about something with random people online. They usually have their own thing going on and usually it's a topic I'm not really interested in. I've seen groups around that I'd like to join, but nothing much goes on in them. Those groups are just like the chat rooms. They are full of other guys looking for the same thing. Not much is said of any value in either location. I think a blog is definitely a better way to go. This post might sound a little like a complaint, but I assure you it is not. I'm just making an observation and typing up my thoughts on my experience here at AdultFriendFinder so far. I won't even get started on the number of possible fake accounts I think I see in my area.

I'm also just waiting for a 4th photo to get approved before I move it to my main photo. I guess it gives me time to twiddle my thumbs.

Hope you visit again soon!


11/24/2005 8:52 pm

Hi and welcome,

I've always deleted any chat type software that came with my browsers thinking it was just an annoyance. Thusly I have absolute zilch experience with chat of any kind here and can't comment on that. I probably should at least become familiar with how to navigate and deal with it in general though.

But if you are a non paying member I think blogging is the only meaningful way you can engage with people around here. Profiles are really so limiting at this level but if someones active with blogging ,even if it's only in making comments on the blog posts of others, it's a relativey decent way to start getting a sense for who other people are.

I've only been here around a month and I saw almost zero activity/interest with my profile for about the first two weeks. Posting a picture picked that up minimally but it seems that being active with blog commentary has now really got a steady increase in activity going.

Next step is to see how much this will again jump up by the act of creating my own blog. I sense that it's going to ramp up the response curve to something that I've not yet seen before which is almost an intimidating thought. I'll soon see though.

Good luck getting a sense for the rhythm of things. I'm still doing that myself.



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