Something about fakes you have not mentioned  

SlimGoodGuy 38M
154 posts
5/26/2006 1:33 pm

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7/30/2006 2:18 pm

Something about fakes you have not mentioned

We've heard tons about the fake profiles here on AdultFriendFinder from bloggers and article posters. Recently, it was even suggested that some very elaborate blogs by very attractive members are somehow trying to sucker you into a trap. We could go on and on about the tricks they pull. That's not what I picked up on and that's not what I'm talking about today.

There's one thing I find more shocking than anything anyone else has said (unless I overlooked it).

What I find shocking is how many women are actually willing to pose nude/topless. I know porn is a big industry, but wow. It reminds me of all the disturbing ways women in society have been treated and how they are expected to act and look.

The men who respond to these ads and give their emails may be victims, but I think these women are just as victimized without even realizing it.

Of course, I always liked a good lap dance by a stripper, excuse me, exotic dancer, so I may not be one to talk.

(Note: this is not a complaint about fakes, but rather a look beyond the usual rant)

lonelyinny5 43M/41F
126 posts
5/27/2006 3:25 pm

You aren't a viotim if you willingly CHOOSE to participate.

One way to decide a phony from a true person is see whether they consistenly respond to articles and such. People who have "elaborate" blogs and such are more likely than not to be for real. Also the content. Most people who are for real will show their "human" side more at some point look for a blog that has personal ideas and thoughts as well.

Last but certainly not least, nothing ventured is nothing gained. The worst thing that can happen when you try to start up conversation with someone is they turn out to be fake but have you really lost anything??? My personal opinion is that you can't really loose that which you do not have.....

Fortunately, in all my time here, I have NEVER been duped...most of the time I get a good sense of the person by the way they write. Like I said, even if you start chatting and they wind up being a fake even if you had one good chat you really come out the winner...

Kisses, Lonely

Searching for my fairytale: Passion & intimacy tied together in a warm, wonderful friendship

SlimGoodGuy 38M

5/27/2006 7:21 pm

A victim is simply someone who is tricked or duped. I don't think they willingly participate. They chose to pose nude, sure, but I don't think they knew what they were getting into or why. Don't you find it disturbing that this many women are willing to take off their clothes?

hussilicious 50F

5/30/2006 1:13 pm

But what about the men who pose naked? How do they come in to play? Both men and women can and do have very explicit photos in their profiles.

I personally would not post a naked photo of myself. Not because I have issues with how I may or may not look but because I want someone to get to know the real me before they get all blitzed out on their hormones. ;0)

Another thing to consider is that the image you put out is one that you will be judged by. Not always judged in a good way either. For example, someone with an erotic photo or who dresses scantily may be judged as being slutty when in reality they are very choosey with their partners and take time to get to know them before hopping into bed. Someone with a fully clothed, rather prim and proper photo or appearance may be judged as uptight. The reality there may be that there is a wild in the sack lover lurking behind the facade.

Forums like AdultFriendFinder can be a good way to meet new people. But they also have the potential to be something harmful. Each person should be responsible for what they put out there for others to see as well as be careful and exercise good judgement if they decide to meet up with someone they met on a "dating" site.

I'm rambling on, so I'll close for now.


SlimGoodGuy 38M

5/30/2006 9:40 pm

Responses are going down the wrong path.

I'm only talking about fake profiles. This isn't about whether or not one should post a nude photo. It just occurred to me that there are an alarming number of women posing nude for photos that end up getting used to promote porn sites and web cams. There must be some kind of consent for their image to be used, right? Where are they finding all of these women who are so ready to show it all? Surely there aren't that many girls gone wild in this world?

The explicit photos I'm talking about aren't from legit members, so asking about the men has nothing to do with what I'm getting at. Judgement can also be thrown out on this one. Yes, the real ones should be careful, but again, not related to why so many women are posing nude for whoever is posting these fake profiles.

hussilicious 50F

5/31/2006 12:34 pm


You would think that there would have to be consent given in order for them to be used. Not always true. I had photos stolen from a blog - just basic pictures of friends and loved ones. Tracked them down and had to raise hell to get them removed from the other site. Their opinion was that since I posted them in a public place, no consent was needed. My posting them was implied consent.

I belive explicit photos should be regulated in the sense that stolen photos should not be legal. Written consnt should be required.

I do think there are a lot of women in the industry. From strippers on up. Quite a few strippers I know have moved from dancing to "modeling" and then on to film, albiet bottom of the barrel film.

I suppose the risk of having photos stolen is one you have to decide to take or not take. Especially if there is even a remote chance of those photos coming back to haunt you.

Does that help clarify my opinion? I missed my morning coffee two days in a row and my head is fuzzy as hell. HA!

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