Tipping our hats to our soldiers  

AstirRelicLatah 64M
1288 posts
9/6/2006 4:21 pm

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Tipping our hats to our soldiers


I was lurking through the blogs today and ran across one my favorite bloggers who put up an incredible post. Before you finish reading this post please go and read [post 494312]. If you can keep your eyes dry, you’re just not a feeling human.

I’ve been thinking about this post all day. In the soldier that Honni talked about I saw my son. He has a great sense of duty and such a solid person. He cares about others, is funny, sarcastic, smart and warm….even though he tries to hide it. *grin*

I think about the brave men and women who serve our country. I think about the idiots who sent them to this war.

There are those among us who believe that all war is bad. I don’t happen to fall into that group. I believe that this war is bad and we have wasted a huge amount of resources going after the wrong people. We now don’t have the capacity to go after the real bad guys who can harm us because we’re so tied down in Iraq.

But, back to my thoughts on the people who serve and those of us who support them from home. I often feel at a loss of what I can do to support my son. I even was ashamed of him joining the Army. I spent a long time apologizing for my son’s poor choice.

I recently apologized to him for my poor choice. He was the one who made a decision that was brave. Mine was selfish…I only thought about what was good for our family, not what needed to do.

The urge to serve is such a noble thing. I kept concentrating on his enjoyment of the Army toys and not his need to serve. A few posts back I mentioned that I had just finished reading a book called AWOL. The author of that book and I had a lot in common. We both felt that our children shouldn’t join the military and we both were a little ashamed of this action by our sons.

Both of us came to understand the error of our ways. In the book he talks about families getting drafted into service when their children join the military. It took a little longer for me (it usually does) to come around and realize that it was I and not my son who made the big mistake.

I’m still fearful that my son won’t come home or he’ll come home with serious problems. That’s part of the deal. I also believe that as long as he comes home, he’ll be fine. He’s a good kid…his head is screwed on straight and he’s clear on why he’s over there. His belief is that he’s doing good things for others and from the communications we get from him he is.

A few days ago while on IM with him we find out he’s befriended a local family. They’ve adopted him and he’s adopted them. They are looking out for each other.

When he first joined he told me he wanted to help others and that’s why he joined the military. I never really believed him…I thought there were lots of other reasons but not that. Now, I know the reason he joined is the reason he stated…I couldn’t be prouder as a father if I tried.

Honni thanks for your post. I had another day of not being very effective, but that’s OK.

My question with this post is have you ever taken a position because you were personally embarrassed by what someone else was doing? Did you ever find out you were wrong? If you did, did you make amends and if so, how?

rm_verriberri 78F
1849 posts
9/6/2006 5:05 pm

Interesting Skier - what we each take away from a post. I read this one upon your suggestion, and was struck by it as well. Certainly, I felt a pull toward the young man, but honestly, what struck we was the chord intertwined with empathy and sexuality for women - when someone touches the heart, even without 'romantic' intent, it often triggers that cascade of desire. Desire to connect, not simply release. -v


AstirRelicLatah replies on 9/6/2006 5:37 pm:
That was certainly there also. I think I identified because of the soldiers name as well as the situation. I would only hope my son on leave would have an experience like that...both for him and for her. And, yes it's very interesting how reading a post can have such a different experience for two people. thanks for stopping by.

catkit13 66F

9/6/2006 7:46 pm

thank you for sharing honni's post - how moving her story is! and the stories of all of the brave men and women serving our country, and their families . . .
as always, my thoughts are with you and your son and your family
cat


AstirRelicLatah replies on 9/7/2006 8:51 am:
Thanks.

JuicyBBW1001 54F

9/6/2006 7:47 pm

I want you to know when I go to bed at night and count my blessings and pray to my God you and your son are at the top of my list.
I am not sure why you felt embarassed because as a parent myself I would not want my daughter to go to war either after all she is all I have.
However I think it is good that you seem to have come to terms with his decision to serve. It is an honorable profession. May God hold you both in his hands until he comes back home.

Juicy


AstirRelicLatah replies on 9/7/2006 8:53 am:
My embarrassment was not about going to war, it was about him joining the Army. Thanks for your prayers.

rm_shannee2006 52F
3355 posts
9/7/2006 2:54 pm

Skier, I admire you. You care deeply for humanity, for future generations. For your family....for your friends. You are a good man.

Honni, I love Gibran's poem. I haven't seen that before. Thank you.

Yup...this juiciness is from me....

S


AstirRelicLatah replies on 9/8/2006 3:28 pm:
Shannee, thanks for the kinds words. The learning around my son joining the Army has been good for me. I appreciate your presence.

wickedeasy 66F  
25445 posts
9/8/2006 7:12 am

skier - this speaks volumes for you and your son's relationship - being a proud dad will give your son more strength than almost anything else.

the fact that he has adopted a family made me smile -

now to your questions:

yes i have and when i realized that my position was one of reflexive abhorrence rather than thoughtful adn considerate of the person that i loved, i was able to talk it out with her and apologize for my idiocy. my position wasn't incorrect but my attitude was. we are still friends to this day - blessed be

now cut it out - it's friday and i'm not supposed to think on Fridays or Sundays - eeesh

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


AstirRelicLatah replies on 9/8/2006 3:26 pm:
Well, had you been around yesterday, you could have thought on Thursday when this was posted....but, nooooo you were off someplace else. *grin* BTW, what days of the week would you like to think, then I'll make sure to put up thinking posts on alternate days. LOL Thanks.

rm_shannee2006 52F
3355 posts
9/9/2006 11:33 pm

Skier you are such a smart ass. LOL! Waves to WE...

Yup...this juiciness is from me....

S


AstirRelicLatah replies on 9/10/2006 5:16 am:
Yup, that's me....walking down the street with my head between my legs, staring at my ass.....LOL on the floor.

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