AstirRelicLatah 64M
1288 posts
8/16/2006 4:14 am

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8/18/2006 12:25 pm


This could be a great title for some erotica, but I’ll leave that for another time. I’m thinking about connections made, connections lost and connections that could have been.

I’ve been having a wonderful email relationship with someone here....The teasing has been slightly erotic and lots of fun. My view of her is very similar to a friend I had a long time ago in Washington, DC. What a free spirit this friend was. My friend from Washington moved to North Carolina and we lost the connection…I’m sorry I wasn’t serious about keeping it up. I bet she’s a very interesting woman today.

I had a connection re-established recently when I attended my oldest friend/acquaintance’s mothers wedding. I literally have known him and he has known me our whole life. You see, his mother and my mother were friends growing up together. We also grew up together. More connections–only this time, the connections as friends had changed into distant acquaintances….

He had done some things that said to me, I don’t want anything to do with you….At the funeral we talked, not about the things he did, but about what had in common. I feel we’re on our way from acquaintance back to friends….Not sure what it means, but the relationship is changing again…connections.

In my work I’ve made connections with people all over the country….It’s given me an opportunity to see different perspectives and hear different stories…I love Southern California, it shows the promise and hope of the country through our melting pot…I’m disturbed when I go to the deep South and hear the thoughts and lack of dreams from my acquaintances there….I wonder about the lack of emotion in New England, maybe it’s just too darned cold…but all of it is about connections.

It’s interesting how connections are formed by just a look….the look could be from your lover, it could be from a stranger walking down the street….but, for that fleeting moment there is a connection.

The connection I have with my family is the most interesting of all…I tend to take them for granted and expect they’ll always be there…They have…in times when it was very difficult to be around me while I was fighting the teenage demons and today when my son is far away.

Aren’t connections grand? What are the important connections in your life? Is there someone you need to reconnect to?

Thanks for reading.

tracy_de_lacy 105F
9268 posts
8/16/2006 4:51 am

I had a very best friend in primary school. We were friends from the age of around 5 to 11. She moved away just after that and i never saw her again.

Recently I was on a site called the names database. I saw her name and thought, nah it couldn't be. I wrote anyway and lo and behold it was her. She was now living in california. I am all the way over here in Scotland and we are now back in touch. I am so happy about it.

Bye everyone, it was a blast

AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/17/2006 9:53 am:
One of the good use of the net. I'll have to check it out to see if I can find some old friends.

rm_rubie80 36F
245 posts
8/16/2006 5:18 am

i had a best mate too that i have lost the connection with, maybe i will track her down! i am a people person and have a lot of diferent connections with different people!

AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/17/2006 9:54 am:
I hope you find the connections fulfilling.

catkit13 66F

8/16/2006 6:59 am

connections - they can be so random, yet so exactly right! my closest connections, in order of having become friends, date from 1963, 1966, 1968, and some shortly thereafter, some much more recently.
and then there are my blogville friends - why is it a few of them make me feel so welcome, like i've known them for so many years, our conversations, emails, and posts and comments flow so easily? i don't know the how or why of it, but i'm glad of it.
we're lucky, aren't we, that our connections are all around us, if only we take the time to notice?

AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/17/2006 9:55 am:
My father calls it taking time to smell the roses. I think that one of the reasons I make really nice blog connections is because writing forces us to slow down and reflect. Having a little slower pace around somethings is a good thing for me. Well stated as usual. Thanks.

rm_shannee2006 52F
3355 posts
8/16/2006 7:05 am

As you know, I've been doing alot of reconnecting lately. Yes it is grand. There are some reconnections that I yearn for and won't get and others that are so dear to me that I've managed recently to my great joy....and some new ones that I'm really finding a blessing. One in particular....and thank you for that reminder of love.

Yup...this juiciness is from me....


AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/17/2006 9:57 am:
You're welcome. I always try to focus on the good connections and just let the bad go off into the wilderness.

angelofmercy5 59F
17881 posts
8/16/2006 7:09 am

Connections are so very important....and yet sometimes can be rather fleeting. I have someone here that I feel a great connection too....and yet....the pace of real life gets in the way of really working that connection. I know he's always there though and that's important. I'm really pulling for your relationship with your son to blossom again!

AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/17/2006 9:58 am:
Thanks. I'm sorry if I gave the impression that my relationship with my son is poor. I don't like his choice about being in the military, but that's all I don't like...The rest of the package is pretty outstanding he knows how I feel about him. He's a great guy, I just want him to stay that way.

rm_aWench4U 61M/61F
741 posts
8/16/2006 2:49 pm

When I look back over the friends in my life, I see distinct chapters. I've had very close friends for a season, and then one or the other of us moves on. Fortunately there are a few exceptions.

My friends Elaine, Charlotte and Barbara are the exceptions. I've known Elaine literally since the day I was born. Her family kept my older siblings while mom was in the hospital having me. She served a surrogate cousin, a confidante, and a bridesmaid at my wedding.

Charlotte and I met in our Lamaze class when we were pregnant with our first children. Through moves across the country and back, we always stayed in touch. We kept each-other's kids for weekend get-ways, played amateur shrink for each other, and encouraged each other to hang in there when the going was tough.

Barbara was my older son's pre-school teacher. We clicked the first day we met, and ended up becoming fast friends. We went to Hawaii together and had a blast, and she was there for me in a very rough period of my life. We lost touch for a while, but ran into each other at the airport and picked right back up where we left off.

These women are the anchors in my life. I know I can count on them in times of trouble, and have on more than one occasion. Fortunately they feel the same way. I thank God everyday for bringing these amazing women into my life. I only hope I can be the same blessing to someone else that they have been to me.

Remember the past but do not dwell there.
Face the future where all our hopes stand.


AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/17/2006 10:01 am:
It's very special to have people you can really call friends. I love it when I reconnect with someone who is a real friend. It's like we just talked to each other yesterday. That actually might be my test of whether someone is a friend or an acquaintance.

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