Activities that transport us  

AstirRelicLatah 64M
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8/18/2006 7:40 pm

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Activities that transport us

I tend to spend a lot of time using my brain for different activities. Whether it’s thinking about the world situation, how I’m going to help a Client reach their goals or wondering about how the world works.

I also know that all of these activities are having me live in my head. Now, living in your head is a useful activity. It allows us to walk across the street and not get run over by a car. It allows us to make decisions and live in the world. It allows us to do activities where others are willing to pay us money. But, it doesn’t help us reach peak experiences.

So, I was also thinking a little about peak experiences and what the whole process means for me. A peak experience is where time stops and I just exist. It often happens inside my body and no one else notices. Sometimes, it involves someone else and the sharing is not only fun, but life enhancing and changing.

I recently responded to a post where I put three things down that transport me to a different place. They were riding my bike, skiing and listening to music. Now, these three things have the potential of a transformational experience, but doing those activities doesn’t guarantee that a transformational experience will go along with them.

When I’m riding, it has to be at a moderate pace on moderate terrain. The transformation starts after I’ve been on the road for twenty miles or so and my mind just moves somewhere else. I’m not really paying attention to my surroundings, but I am at the same time. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does it’s very special.

My second is skiing. I often just go the hill by myself. I love the feeling of gliding down the hill. When I ski, all thoughts leave my head and I just exist with the hill, the snow and myself. Once in a while I run across snow conditions that allow me to float. I had an experience like that last winter. I literally was floating down the hill. I became one with the hill and all of the surroundings around me. When I manage to get a good rhythm going there is nothing like skiing.

Music is the third activity that transports me to another place. It can’t be just any music and it can’t be just any event. The musicians have to be moving together towards creating something special. I’ll often close my eyes and feel transported. It’s not an out of body experience, but it’s pretty darned close.

In the 70’s The Grateful Dead would often do this, especially during their space jams. I would sit down, close my eyes be move to a different place. Lately, it’s been Bela Fleck, Phil Lesh and Bruce Hornsby that can transport me. It doesn’t happen on all nights and it doesn’t happen for the entire show. The music gods only allow so many special activities to happen in any night.

I should have written about a forth activity and that’s making love. There is a communication that happens on another dimension when making love. Again, it doesn’t happen every time, but it does happen. When it does, I not only join with the person I’m with, but with the universe as a whole.

I’ve realized that what all four have in common is the feeling that my conscious mind completely turns off and is melded with my unconscious mind and with my body. What a wonderful feeling. It happened tonight while listening to CD in my house. This is a real gift, one that I’m learning to tap into on a regular basis. I think I’ll practice this melding a little more. My suspicion is that it’s available to all of us with a little practice.

So, what activities transport you to a different place? Do you feel you have any control over yourself when it happens? Is it something you would like to get better at?

Thanks for listening to my ramblings…Not sure it made any sense, but it’s helping me get clear about some wanderings that have been kicking around my brain.

druidrocker 62F

8/18/2006 8:08 pm

You make perfect sense - I haven't skied for - well let's just say a lot of years - but I remember the feeling of being very small inside myself - yet not inside myself - contained in the moment - actually almost part of the mountain - and the speed - like a shadow moving past the ground.

Music can do that for me too - I feel the sound and it doesn't matter how large or small the crowd around me is - I become not a body but energy floating in the air moving w/the sound.

Reading a book - I hear the people speak - I smell the smells that surround the space the situation is taking place in. I feel the heat and cold. I forget who I am, where I am and even sometimes what time I am existing in. I have had out-of-body experiences and this is as close to it as I get without being in a meditative state.

Dancing, riding on the back of a motorcycle, driving my car in a race - when the connection is made - I am not only doing whatever it is I am experiencing - I melt into a single unit and become the activity. I am truly blessed w/this ability and can experience it anytime I am totally absorbed by what I am doing. Sex with somebody I can make a deep connection with results in a melting of body, mind and spirit - the proverbial - two becoming one.

Thank you for causing me to think on this.

I am happy you share that blessing.

AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/19/2006 4:52 am:
Ah, melting into the activity. For me that means being and not doing. I haven't thought about that for a long while. Thanks for sharing the concept with me. I like it.

JuicyBBW1001 54F

8/18/2006 8:16 pm

When I am drawing now and before childbirth and men and other things riding my horse.


AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/19/2006 4:53 am:
Isn't it nice to be able to get out of your mind?

catkit13 66F

8/18/2006 9:25 pm

my list includes music, as you know, and love-making on a scale so rarely reached . . . there are others, but getting outside of my head and my surroundings isn't easy - you're right, i hope, that practice will make perfect

AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/19/2006 4:55 am:
With those of us who left brain jobs, it's tough to get out of our head. Although bringing back the old hippie mentality helps...I never really thought of myself as a hippie, but looking back on those days, I guess the world saw me that way...In fact, the other people I hung out with then never saw themselves in that way. In fact, I don't think we even thought about who or what we were back then..Too bad.

bipolybabe 54F

8/18/2006 11:46 pm

Singing and sex are two more activities, besides horseback riding, that take me out of my head.

For me, both are a similar meditation. The minute I anticipate what's coming next or critique my performance, I am dropped out of the present moment and "off," not reaching the potential.



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AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/19/2006 4:59 am:
It certainly is about keeping our mind quiet. Intense activities that require use of a different part of my brain always help. And yes, keeping the self critique out of it is important. I'm jealous of people who can sing, I'm so bad that even my dog runs away in horror. *grin*

rm_songbird5419 62F
305 posts
8/19/2006 7:49 am

I started to answer this post, but I was getting waaaay too wordy, so I decided to go to my own blog.
Where am I going? if you're interested!

If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.

wickedeasy 66F  
25445 posts
8/19/2006 8:39 am

profound pleasure

i recall a time when i was around 12 or so, i was so in the book that i was reading that the call to dinner wasn't heard. finally mama came to find me, and bless her, she just made me a plate for later and left me in that amazing book.

great post skier

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/19/2006 9:14 am:
I'm having a hard time getting my arms around the combination of pain and profound pleasure. And, I'm not judging, I just don't understand...Your posts on the subject always make me think and I've expanded my vision on the topic...but still. I do have a question though, is there any connection between meditation, pain and pleasure. I've noticed a little of that from people who have made posts on the topic. Darn, now I'm going to have to gaze at my navel even longer. *grin*

rm_shannee2006 52F
3355 posts
8/19/2006 11:54 am

hmmm...How did I miss this post yesterday? This is one of my favorite topic....

What takes me to that place of oneness and beingness is:
ecstatic sex, dance and singing
driving and singing
playing my drum for healing
tantric bdsm
traditional story telling
spiritual guidance
the type of listening that's witnessing
repetitive sounds and flashing lights
watching a front loading washing machine sping the cloths (I shit you not! list is so long because it's all too easy for me to fly)

The Buddhists call this state of consciousness the place of "no mind". It is simply being fully and absolutely in the present moment. In my summer ceremony that I've told you about before, I dance for hours in a simple motion and use one focus that everyone in that ceremony is using...every time my mind wanders I gently bring it back to the focus. Eventually it simply floats there and I participate in calling the energy of life along with everyone else in that ceremony and participate in the prayers for help, health and life that all are praying for and which that energy we've all raised will be used for the good of the next generations...

There are times when no mind is just for make me strong. There are times when no mind is for everyone else when I seek it.

Yup...this juiciness is from me....


rm_shannee2006 52F
3355 posts
8/19/2006 11:55 am

Oh...and by the way Chod ceremony is the ultimate experience of No Mind...well...besides the dance I spoke of. So if you truly are delighted with that experience? Well all I can say is you'll find it there. LOL!

Yup...this juiciness is from me....


AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/19/2006 2:06 pm:
I expected a list like this. You are at one with the world on a regular basis. From our discussions I would expect that the trance like state is very easy for you to enter. I would guess that comes with regular and specific practice. BTW, you're doing a nice sales job. Thanks.

wickedeasy 66F  
25445 posts
8/19/2006 4:18 pm

waves to shannee - hey sis

okay - breaking it down - meditation for me is the experience of being without judgement and without conscious effort. a flow of energy if you will, taking me to the places i need to visit, bringing to me the issues i need to address

pain, in the bdsm sense, is a pathway to subspace for many. it is cathartic, focussing, enormously erotic and it allows me to fly faster than anything else. flyign for me is rather like meditation -in that i am trancing, but not the same because it is not without judgement or emotion like meditation

profound pleasure - orgasms, transcendant joy, the moments when you feel as though you exist as one with all that breathes, lives

sounding like a flake yet?

You cannot conceive the many without the one.

AstirRelicLatah replies on 8/19/2006 5:12 pm:
Not at all...I'm finding the connection fascinating. Still not sure how it fits together, but fascinating none the less.

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