When meetings Go Bad  

Sizzle364
(Juan S)
52M
3683 posts
6/21/2005 12:19 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

When meetings Go Bad


Recently I met someone from AdultFriendFinder. The night we met we were tex messenging each other and didn't really get a good understanding. So I decided okay, lets meet up and i went to a bar to meet her. She was attractive and I was more than a little turned on. She apologized for her misunderstandings several times and I assured her that everything was fine, that I was above anything else a gentlemen and I don't tell people that I'm going o meet them, if I'm not. We ended the evening back at my place, just kinda talking and getting to know each other, when she let me know that she had to get up early, but she mentioned several events that we should go to together. I was like sounds good to me. She apologized that we were not having sex that night and I assured her again, that I'm a gentlemen, everything is on her time. I walked her to her car and gave her a litle kiss goodbye. mmm. very sweet little kiss. two more kisses and she was on her way. Call me a hopeless romantic, but the next day, I thought about those little kisses for a while. So I tried to call her, knowing that she was going to be deejaying at a local club. No answer. Okay, I'll leave a message. Few hours later, its geting close to bar time, I'm like,maybe it got cancelled, maybe she's setting up, I don't know WTF is going on, So I text her. No response. We had a pretty cool evening, so it can't be that she's ignoring me, maybe she's not geting her messages. ??? Its Bar time now, goa be at the club.Thinking this would give me a chance to check out her deejaying skills, I grab a couple of friends, male and female and head for the place I thought she would be deejaying at. Wow, Its closed and I'm embarrassed. I text message, "Hey, have you spun already?" No response. I don't know what to do here. "Hey, I'm at ______, I brought some friends to hear you spin". no response. I go home. 3am I get a text, "Sorry, I was in the front room, spun from 11:30pm to 1am. Did you ask me where I was performing? I don't remember." Ok. I'm thinking its just miscommunication like our earlier text before we met. I text back. "No, I just assumed it was in the same place as we met." I ask her to call me. Thinking about those kisses and wanting to go a bit further tonight if possible.
No Response. Okay. done with the irresponsibility thing. Sleep time. So the next day I don't hear a word. This is wierd. Late that night i find her on Yahoo. "Hey, I've been trying to reach you, I thought we were going out?" her response was I get freaked out when someone text messages me repeatedly. Then shows up at my gig and tells me its closed. Besides I was working. It was at a gay bar, is that what you and your friends were looking for?
OK.I'm thinking. Where did this come from. "I apologize, wasn't trying to freak you out, I was just coming to hang out, bring some friends to see you and be nice" Within a few seconds she called me a stalker, told me I was blocked and to quit typing cause I was wasting my time. OMG!!!! I stared at the screen in disbelief. "What are you talking about?" I stared at the screen. She started typing again. "Quit TYPING!!" I wasn't typing.
"STOP MESSENGING ME" - I hadn't touched the keyboard.
I'M telling AdultFriendFinder you are being abusive- What IS SHE TALKING ABOUT????? I'm NOT TOUCHING THE KEYS!!!!!!! Finally, I'm thinking maybe with the messenger screen up, it is doing something, so I X out of it. A new message comes in and Yahoo jumps up again. QUIT TEXTING ME!! I move the curser over and disconnect from the internet entirely. What the Hell just happened? One minute I'm meeting a cute, but highstrung AdultFriendFinder friend and potential bootycall and the next minute, I feel like I've been judged, tried and found guilty of manslaughter. This is turning out to not be my week whatsoever. Somebody help!!!

BoyToyParty 54F

6/23/2005 8:46 pm

I'm sorry that happenned to you. High strung is right. Sounds like she was leading you on, being vague all the way around.


Sizzle364
(Juan S)
52M
2642 posts
6/24/2005 9:54 am

To say the least. LOL.


angel_wings2005 52F

6/24/2005 8:15 pm

Well I can tell you that the 'gentleman' is a dying breed-- she missed out - from what I can tell... booty call or not- *wink* give me a shout if you ever get to my neck of the woods.... and don't give up- not all women are psycho !!!!! SMILE !!!!


Sizzle364
(Juan S)
52M
2642 posts
6/24/2005 11:28 pm

Thanks Angel. Very tempted to pass thru for the 45 minute treatment and I'd probably be doing a little more than shouting. LOL.
Boy Toy, Thank you also. You know my Pistons lost. I don't wanna hear about you doing any extra celebrating Guess we'll have to hook up for football or something. heh, heh.


BoyToyParty 54F

6/25/2005 7:41 pm

LOL I never knew sports betting could be so fun!!


DCEbony
1586 posts
6/26/2005 10:56 am

Yikes!

If she was busy (or whatever), it would have taken her exactly ten seconds to respond to your text message, or to pick up a phone.

Just consider her a bullet that you successfully dodged.

It's better that you found out what she was like before anything intimate happened. If she had a meltdown online, you can only imagine what she'd be capable of doing if she had "morning after" remorse.

It is nice to know that there are still some gentlemen out there.


Sizzle364
(Juan S)
52M
2642 posts
6/26/2005 11:34 am

Definately happy that I found out early. "Morning after remorse" ? That still happens after 30? LOL. Thanks for the post. Determined to be a gentleman whether it gets me any where or not. LOL.


CuriousKitty675 41F
365 posts
6/26/2005 3:50 pm

Good for you! As stated above me gentlemen are a rare breed these days. If you ask me from a woman's perspective she sounds like a full blown looney. Either that or she was sonfusing your text messages with someone else messaging her or...she had a major delay in the receiving of your messages. Regardless of all that she should have handled it better and with more class.


Sizzle364
(Juan S)
52M
2642 posts
6/30/2005 10:16 pm

Full Blown Looney Wins!!!!. Text messages have my name and number and there were only 3 text messages with hours in between, so they couldn't have come all at the same time.
I feel lucky and refreshed. LOL.


wetnwildaquarius 43F

7/4/2005 4:51 pm

That was some cold shit. The "B" is insane and you will meet your match soon. Just keep up what u r doing.


Sizzle364
(Juan S)
52M
2642 posts
7/4/2005 6:11 pm

More than ready to meet my match. I'm working on becoming the best me that I know I can be. It would be great to make the trip with someone, but If I have to uncover this diamond alone, Wohh unto those that passed me by. To qoute Mike Jones "Back then, didn't want me, Now I'm hot..." LOL. You know how it goes.


pussnboots694 73M/78F

7/4/2005 7:14 pm

yep meetings are like a box of chocolates you never know what your gonna get... keep smiling though


Sizzle364
(Juan S)
52M
2642 posts
7/4/2005 8:37 pm

Mmmm, chocolate...oops, wrong thought.!


rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
7/5/2005 6:28 am

I am the dissenting opinion here (as usual).
Maybe she did "have a little meltdown" at the end. But...
you should have stopped at two text messages. Overeager is scary.
Morning after remorse and other kinds of things continue to happen after 30.
You'd be surprised.


Sizzle364
(Juan S)
52M
2642 posts
7/5/2005 9:37 am

Hey JayR..
Wasn't overeager, just trying to get details. She mentioned several times when we met
how much she wanted me to hear her spin. I didn't know if I was going to be free or not.
There WAS only two text messages, before she texted me back, then my texts were in answer to her.
Morning after remorse. LOL. Thats still a little funny to me. You're right I am surprised


islandgirl_702 54F

9/24/2005 11:36 pm

Eww scarey ah! you never really know a person and sometimes it is not till its too late...but all you can do is move forward...take the lesson for what it is worth and move on....hmmm!


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

11/23/2005 9:21 am

give people enough time and rope..they will show their true colors...

TTFN


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