Take it how you want....  

Singlechick25 36F
253 posts
12/10/2005 7:48 pm

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Take it how you want....

I know a few people. Yep. Sure do. A few people that intentionally misinterpret and twist your words so that they may have something to feel indignant about and feel free to pitch a fit. These people are not willing to allow others to have their own opinion AND voice it, UNLESS it coincides with their own.

Why?

Why is there the need to make everyone act the same, feel the same, look the same, think the same? What the hell kind of world would we live in if everyone was exactly the same?

Furthermore, who is to say what culture, race, religion, height, weight, eye color this society of identical drones should immitate? Who is right, while everyone else is wrong? Why is that person right? And who made that decision?

Diversity is NOT a bad thing!! Difference of opinions are good, and natural, and healthy. The inability to allow another THEIR RIGHT to not only have their own seperate opinion but to also express it is wrong. Says who? Me.

When one person makes a point, you have three basic choices. Agree, disagree, neutral. Then you can go on to state why or why not. It is inappropriate and childish to essentially tell this person that originally made the point that they are wrong because they think/believe something different from what you believe. So you think they are wrong. Make your counter point without twisting words and/or ideas and move on to the next subject.

Beating a dead horse gets everyone nowhere fast. Ever heard of "agree to disagree?" Some people aren't capable of this. They MUST state their opinion and repeat it until the person they are discussing the issue with agrees out of sheer terror of the fact that they may never escape the conversation or they continue to disagree and the party unable to convince the other to change opinions gets pissed and you've suddenly made an enemy.

What kind of choices are these? Why can't we learn to say enough is enough and move on? I've seen this in my day to day life. I've been on the recieving end of the lectures, sermons, and disapproving glares from people I don't agree with when they are unable to "convince" me to change my opinion. I have learned, albiet the hard way, to steer very clear of these types of conversations. I've seen it happen here, where it is more difficult to steer clear because most of the time you're knee deep in the shit before you realize what's going on.

A simple statement can be interpreted differently by each person that reads or hears it. Only the person writing or saying the statement knows for sure what they meant or intended to say. It is unfair for the writer/speaker to expect everyone to know exactly what he/she means. It is unfair for the reader/listener take offense and criticize what is said based on what THEY think is meant without clarification.

I've said it before and I'll say it again. If only life were fair.


klauskissnhug 57M

12/11/2005 3:54 am

I think the problem is "truth." If we didn't have this pesky bugaboo, no one would be wrong. However, some things are true, and some things are not true... and some things are neither true nor not true. You can't say, for example that the Bible is "true" or "not true," for the simple fact that there is poetry in the bible, and poetry is neither false nor unfalse.

Can you disagree without being disagreeable? Our post-modern world is teaching us to acknowledge how our perceptions are shaped by our beliefs, which are shaped by our experiences, which are shaped by a combination of culture and biology. This does not mean that there is no truth.


Singlechick25 36F

12/11/2005 6:33 am

Perception is a big word. And hard to understand for some people. What is "truth" for me, may not be for someone else. That's okay with me. I don't feel the need to have everyone agree with me. In fact there are times when I agree with someone but disagree just to spice things up a bit. NOT, by any means, to start a fight but in fun. I'm very careful who I will do this with.

In actuality, I've made it into a kind of art; the abiltiy to disagree without being disagreeable. The reason I'm able to do this is because my goal in a discussion is not necessarily to bring someone around to my way of thinking but rather to discuss two or more points of a subject. It has been difficult at times but the more I am being pushed to change my opinion or belief, ie the angrier and more intense the other person is becoming, the more calm and collected I become.

I've learned to avoid subjects that I feel so strongly about that I can't help but be passionate with in my discussion or temper my reactions to what I consider to be basically idiotic statements. Like I've said, I can't tell someone that THEY are wrong. I may FEEL that they are wrong, but I don't KNOW it.


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