Some questions and some clarification...  

SingleRebel4U 34M
101 posts
3/18/2005 3:56 pm

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Some questions and some clarification...

This post follows the previous with a couple questions:

1.) Is it possible for ovarian cysts affect libido?

2.) What is the best way to approach a loved one about sexual experimentation?

3.) At what point do you sacrifice your own desires for the betterment of your children?

And some clarification:
I finished a Bachelor's of Science degree in Math this past fall at Ole Miss but won't walk until May. (Anybody need a mathematician?) Ultimately I want to get my doctorate and be a college professor. Music is a serious hobby of mine that I considered as a profession for a long time. On the way to a doctorate I have to get a master's degree and no amount of work, except for maybe teaching high school, can prepare one for my chosen career path. Graduate school is the next logical step. However, I have told myself that I could/should take a year or two off to get my life in order, even though I have a great offer from Kansas State University. I have also told myself that nothing, no person, no woman, was going to get in my way.
Well, something did. I'm torn between following a wonderful person while she starts her career and getting myself some high school teaching experience and continuing on to finish my own education. The general concensus thus far is to go and finish, the girl can wait. Anyone echo these sentiments, and anyone oppose?

4.) What should I do?

I feel like turning this into a "Dear Abby" column...

ReadyToTango46 57M
161 posts
3/19/2005 1:25 am

1) No, cysts are normally just small sacks of fluid (mostly water). However they can be indications of a more serious problem. She needs to see a doctor.

2) Ask her if she is willing to try something that, while it may not seem "normal", may be something that you really enjoy. BTW, whatever two consenting adults do together is normal.

3) Your children come first. Before anything else. Period.

4) The girl can wait. If you've explained your hopes and dreams to her and she's not willing to make sacrifices on her own to help you achive them then she is not worth sacrificing anything for. On the other hand, if you really care about this girl you should also be working hard to do everything that you can to fullfil her needs too. Short of selling your soul or forfieting your education because she wants you to get a job so she can buy a nicer couch. (I'm gonna get in trouble for that one).

5) Okay I know that there wasn't a 5, but what do children have to do with this? Do you have children with this woman? In that case things may be a bit different.

SingleRebel4U 34M

3/19/2005 6:36 am

ReadytoTango46: She has been to a doctor frequently for this. We both watched and waited but medicine she has been taking has cleared up the cysts. Everything is normal for the moment...

Sheeana: I had not though of community colleges. That would be a good place to look.

Also, there are no children and she is not pregnant. (Being a daddy at 22 is not high on my priority list) I realize this is irrational even as I say it, but she would make an outstanding mother. We have discussed children (not having them) and how they should be raised and see eye-to-eye on this subject. This is honestly part of my draw to her.

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