Past repression means present overflow?  

SingleRebel4U 34M
101 posts
3/8/2005 8:38 am

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Past repression means present overflow?

Growing up sex was a taboo subject in my house. I never once saw my parents kiss, ever, and I never walked in on them having sex. They never hugged or held hands, or said I love you. We were not a particularly religious family (actually I've only ever been to church maybe 10 times, 10 of which have been on my own at school.) Sex was something that I was told was a very, very, very bad thing.

Now, 10-15 years later, you might say I'm addicted to sex. I'm sure there is some psychological reason, but does it have to be that complicated? Could it simply be that it feels great, I'm young, and I waited until the age of 21 before telling myself that sex isn't bad?

It makes me think that sex is taught incorrectly to children.

rm_pinkteddy69 43F

3/9/2005 6:31 am

You're right. I think some parents do give out the wrong message about sex. Some do not care and some are way too strict on the subject. My parents scared me to death about it. It was bad, nasty, and only whores had sex. And these are the same people who did the swinging thing in the seventies and eighties. Had affairs and all. They felt guilty about how they handled sex, so they went the extreme opposite when telling me how it should be viewed. I was scared to let a guy even kiss me. Then finally, at the age of twenty, I lost my virginity to my now husband. Whether or not it's bad that they did treat the subject wrong with me or not I don't really know. I did keep my virginity until I was ready to be married, but I had a hard time getting to that point because they traumatized me about sex. Debating it being good or bad that I kept my virginity for my husband, depends on your beliefs. I know I always thought sex was bad until I finally defied my parents and had sex before marriage with my now husband.

SingleRebel4U 34M

3/9/2005 11:46 am

I actually had sex the for the first time with a girl whom I love very much. Were it not for her job and my going to graduate school we would be engaged. However, I have felt the urge to experiment and "cheat" on her, which I am ashamed of but do not regret.
Something else is: it is hard for me to talk about sex with her. I'm very open about it to anyone else, but with her I can't find the courage. Possibly another repercussion of repression?

turq6969 70M
553 posts
9/5/2006 2:25 am

Sex is incorrectly taught to children that have reached the age of puberty and older. Too many parents are squimish about discussion the topic to their offspring and feel that it is the responsibility of the school system. Many school systems don't want to have that responsibility, but some do and teach reproduction classes in health class. Many younger people either learn at an early age by experimentation or being on the young boy's 'good girl' list. Learning by experimentation at a young tender age is not the way to go. The negative result is too many teen pregnancies or the passing of STD's. Parents should take more responsibility in the teaching of personal matters to their offspring.

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Turq {=}

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