Is bi becoming more acceptable?  

SingleRebel4U 34M
101 posts
3/27/2005 12:19 am

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Is bi becoming more acceptable?

If you've read my blog, you know that I am bi. If you were to ask me, I would tell you, "I'm bi. I like both sexes."

When people at my conservative, southern university ask me I rarely get a negative response. While many guys give it a, "Whatever works." ploy, some guys have many "questions". This leads me to believe there are many bi-guys who repress the urge for whatever reason. Anyone agree?

More interesting is that a majority of girls who ask me show a high level of interest in the bi-male life. Some (and I suspect many) have wanted to watch me with another guy. Do girls secretly fantasize about this?

Is being bi becoming more acceptable to the mainstream?

lacroix60 56M

3/27/2005 8:25 am

If you hang around AdultFriendFinder long enough you'll find there's a whole lot of bi guys listed as straight. I don't think their maladjusted, they just have to live in their day-to-day worlds.

In my handful of MMF encounters, the women have always either encouraged us, or been fascinated to watch to watch us. Once it was just a kiss that sent the woman overboard.

lacroix60 56M

3/27/2005 9:14 am

"they're" not "their"-- I'm illiterate on Sunday mornings.

luston 35
4 posts
3/28/2005 5:39 am

Yeah you're right. Gradually it's being discussed more and more. Terms like 'bi-curious' make it easier I think, because guys can say that you're open minded and think it is important to question their sexuality. It means they don't have to commit to a new identity.

Certainly women bi-curiosity has spread to at *least* half of the women I know; I think men are catching up. It must be in our nature because it used to common practice among elite Greek philosopher types.

The interesting thing about this is that it seems to be more acceptable among males than it does girls. Could this be because it makes us seem less manly and so less desirable? This seems to be in contrast to what you're saying so maybe things are changing.

I remember being told, years ago in school, that an estimated 1 in 10 people are gay. I don't think it is that high. But I do think that bi-sexuality is probably a lot higher - at least 50%; maybe closer to 100%. It's just repressed because of society. What would the figures be like, I wonder, if there was no stigma attached to it at all.

SingleRebel4U 34M

3/28/2005 2:00 pm

I remember reading a sci-fi book when I was maybe 12 that presented sexuality in the future as being 100% bisexual. At the time I thought the model was plausible and still do.

The Greek philosophers relation is quite interesting. People today are, on the whole, better educated, more informed, and more aware of everything around them. A major medium, television, has had major recent hits like "Queer eye for the straight guy" bringing alternative sexualities into the spotlight. The recent debates over same-sex marriages have also led more and more people to seriously consider the morality and physicality of gay and bi lifestyles.

Perhaps the trend is more informed, more debated, more curious? Bi-curious may be the perfect adjective.

I disagree a little over acceptability. (At least in my experiences.) Probably 6-10 guys immediately change the subject when they find out I am bi, while the other four are genuinely interested and ask questions. However, maybe 3 in 100 girls have changed the subject while the other 97 have been curious. However, girls tend to ask questions that revolve around sex while guys ask questions geared toward morality and image. It seems the male is still afraid of being a "fag" but the female is not afraid to admit she has a sexual side.

I agree with the bisexuality figures whole-heartedly. I've noticed that more and more guys are not afraid to compliment a shirt or a suit, and none should shy from it. Every girl in the world will look across a room, see a woman, and think, "She looks good." Its nice to see guys stepping out of the dark ages, finally.

After all, attraction is just the first step...

HornyCokeDrinker 48M
9 posts
3/29/2005 1:36 am

I think bi-guys repress it because it is not socially accepted, while girls can be more open and feel more excepted because all the guys fantasize about being with 2 women. Here in Topeka, Kansas I can see this to be true in a lot of ways.

LatinPR7_28 45M

4/18/2005 2:51 pm

All I know is that I have been thinking a lot about guys lately. If it was more socially accepted I agree that we would be surpized as to how many guy would want to try something with another guy. I haven't yet but I know I will, when I get the chance.

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