What Do Men Really Want From a Woman  

SingleKisses 48F
83 posts
6/3/2005 7:32 pm

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What Do Men Really Want From a Woman

Heres what I want from a Man...

1. Open communication between both. Dont go keeping things from me. If you do, sooner or later I will find out. Truth has a way of biting you in the ass and the more you hide, the bigger your ass becomes a target!

2. Respect. Treat me the way you want to be treated in return. You come across to me bitchy, well then you can expect the same in return. Spoil me rotten then you can expect lots of pampering from me.

3. Room to breathe. Sure every woman has some "girl things" they like to do just like any man. You want to hang with your buddies, fine with me, but know there will be time or two where it will be ladies night out.

4. TRUST. I value trust. Every man or woman has friends of the opposite sex. Doesnt mean that you become bed partners or lovers. I can have a good friendship with a man and not be attracted to them in the way you may think. At least I would give you the benefit of the doubt.

Be you...be funny...be relaxing...be loving and caring...what more can you ask for?


EvilMuppet69 37M
89 posts
6/4/2005 2:28 am

If I met someone, I'd be looking for a companion, friend and lover in one package. I'd want to share things with them and go places with them. I'm not 'clingy' but I do like being around the people I care about. While I'm waiting to meet Miss Right, I 'd be keeping an eye out for a girl with similar interests, who wants to hang out and fool around a little.

TracesOfMe 46M
14 posts
6/4/2005 3:02 am

For me, it's all about position. When a man plays his role to the fullest, he has the woman's complete attention. Thus she is able to fall into her role as a real woman. These statements transends the woman cook the meal, take care of the kids and clean the house mentality. Man and woman are a puzzle and when with the right person you have a perfect fit. And like the point you made on 4., a true man doesn't worry about that jealousy because he is sure of himself and the role in his woman's life. Same thing can be said for a woman. We deal with so many insecurities because of prior relationships with family, friends, and lover's that it stagnates our growth and our ability to understand who we are. If we don't know who we are we can't articulate our desires to a potential mate. I feel inherently as a man, we must stand our ground and protect ourselves as well as our woman. It's not to say that a woman is docile and can't protect herself, it's about position. So with all that know yourself and only then can you say what you want from someone else, because the problem could end up being, you don't know and how would you expect someone else to know, since you can't express it to them.


goodtimes11115 51M
2 posts
6/4/2005 4:28 am

A woman that can act like a lady in public and act like a nympho in the sack.BEST OF BOTH WORLDS...

Dekora 53M
937 posts
6/4/2005 4:30 am

Good list, Kisses,

In response, I offer you what I would really like in my love:

1.) Specific open communication - please, if something's upsetting you, or you're uncomfortable, be specific, not broadly general. If you'd like to see me do something around the house, different, new, please tell me - point blank, specific - If we're "in-tune" with each other, I have a fairly good idea of your likes and dislikes - but any relationship can use a bit of fine tuning. Help me tweak my dials by telling me which dials need turning and which way.

2.) Agreed on Respect with your original post - If I may add, however, I offer up "Respect me with tact and diplomacy." Sometimes a simple added preface to any verbal comments can set a mood on fire, or difuse a powder keg. I try and focus on being tactful, as nothing cuts you quicker or deeper than a sharp tongue. Chivalry is not dead - it needs to be shown more by men towards their loves.

3.) Totally agree on room to breathe - and I link solidly your number three and number four. Which comes first? I don't know if there needs to be a priority. However, a relationship void of trust sucks all the room to breathe out of the air.

Good list, well written,

Excellent topic.

I've found a blog I'd like to follow now! Yea!!!!!
-- dekora --

ella1966 50F
1528 posts
6/4/2005 4:38 am

Dear SingleKisses

....I couldn't have put it any better myself!!!!!!!

It's so simple, yet why do so many men have difficulty doing it?

How about I add another one for good measure, if you don't mind?....

5. SELF-AWARENESS. I think that mirrors are not just for men to admire the size of their willies. I value men who can look at themselves honestly and fairly in the mirror, can admit their weaknesses, and who is willing to do something to change or improve themselves. As I try to do the same thing myself!

epfin 57M

6/4/2005 6:38 am

I think an honest man would want the same things. Two more though: (1) Let me put you up on my pedestal and you need to be comfortable with that; and (2) Tell me I am going a good job! Us guys are so performance oriented (in life, in love as well as in bed).

SlimGoodGuy 38M

6/4/2005 7:20 am

people have really botched up takes on communication, respect, and trust. if you look really hard, you'll find they have room to improve in each of these areas as well. as long as you've got a good understanding, and i mean serious thought has been put into it, of each of those things, i think you'll come out ahead.

didi0105 60M
68 posts
6/4/2005 8:52 am

1. Men expect the same things from a woman. The difficulty is the definition, what's the exact meaning of each point.

2. There is one thing which covers all of the above - true love.

Happ72bhere 44M
1 post
6/4/2005 8:55 am

I think you are totally right. But in my experiences, it is very hard almost near impossible to find a woman who is mature enough to honestly and whole heartedly believe in the values which you stated. Only in a perfect world would you be able to find that. But then again I don't know it might just be the women that i have incountered. you tell me.

redmustang91 57M  
8605 posts
6/4/2005 10:00 am

All of the above plus fabulous sex sounds good. With an absence of crazy drama.

expatbrit49 62M

6/4/2005 12:03 pm

I am confused your Title says what do men want your post says what you want.......Still I would think they are one and the same at least from my point.

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

guynamedjim 58M
729 posts
6/4/2005 1:23 pm

Strange! In offering this to women or a woman here and they don't want that! Please explain that one? Because someone is fooling the men big time. No double standards please!

AmberSolaire 42M

6/4/2005 2:34 pm

If a man doesnt tell you something do you regard it as lying through omission.If it is done in the honest belief that it is better for you not to know?
Do you not want a man to be a man in this metrosexual world?
Do you not want someone who is able to protect you and eventually your offspring?

Surely you deserve these as well.

JQBare 46M

6/4/2005 3:12 pm

Judging by some of the profiles of some of the lovely ladies on AdultFriendFinder I'd say you missed one.

5. A really large penis.

Hopefully, not ALL women want that. Most guys are probably average in that area.


Open communication is a big one for me. I like a woman who isn't afraid to tell me her dreams and fantasies, when I am doing something she doesn't like, or when I am doing something (Oh YES OH YES ) very right.

Trust is important too, but trust comes from open communication. The more open a relationship is, the easier it is to trust. The more secretive a person is, the harder it is to really trust them.

Intelligence. Any woman who can hold her own in a conversation about a variety of topics, and who isn't afraid to state her opinions about them, gets high marks from me.

rm_Tallfyreman 48M

6/5/2005 7:44 am

This guy wants to find a woman that he finds attractive. For me what I find attractive and what the next guy finds attractive will be different. I want a woman that will turn me on and give me the butterflies in my stomach on the 100001st kiss like I had on the very fist kiss. The perfect mix of a woman would be a montage of Betty Crocker, Angelina Jolie, Florence Nightingale, and Jenna Jamenson. I am not looking for a woman to take care of me. I want a woman who will be an equal. When it is all over the tally sheet will read 50% her, 50% him, together they made 100%

Kelly, everything you mentioned in your contribution above is essential in a healthy relationship. It all seems so very simple. The 4 basic rules that you are looking for with a little leeway for bad hair days or flat tires and you have it in its simplest formula. Respect, trust, communication all together without being smothered.

Why do so many people get involved in unhealthy relationships?

LeEnchantress 55F

6/6/2005 2:47 pm

"Men want a lady in public and a whore in the bedroom. Quite simple, not sure why most women don't see that." is what you wrote QW13QW.. but quite simply.. it seems that the women who aren't acting ladylike in public and are acting, in fact. like a whore, in public are the ones who get the attention from the guys and the ones who go home with the guys.
The women who are actually acting like ladies in public... just aren't noticed at all.. and never get approached by guys.. and yes.. I can certainly let my hair down and be a whore in the bedroom.. i just don't think it's very classy to do so in the public eye...

SingleKisses 48F

6/8/2005 5:35 pm

A lady in public yes that comes with Mothering abilities...fixing dinner, cleaning, doing laundry and working 40 hr job lol then sex goddess by night...no wonder we are wore out ROLFMAO

SingleKisses 48F

6/11/2005 12:13 pm


Lot get into unhealthy relationships because they go for the challenge. Hell Im attracted to the bad boy image. Not the abuser type but the bad boy image where he can be little rough around the edges, peirced ears, tattoos, verses clean cut suited kind...lol

I LOVE A MAN wheres a gotee...damn sexy...tanned hairy chest are all pluses and one can stand their ground. Meaning dont try to give me everything I want...stand up and face me, Ill respect you more!

But in bed...you better be romantic, somewhat agressive and a lover thats faithful to me...if not...then peddle your ass elsewhere!


rm_Tallfyreman 48M

6/11/2005 5:14 pm


At least you know what you are looking for. Many think they do but really haver no idea what they really want and if they do find it they don't know it.

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