Men on this site...  

SincereSiren 41F
47 posts
6/28/2006 11:54 am

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7/4/2006 4:41 pm

Men on this site...

Sometimes when I'm bored I flip through the new member photos. There are a lot of pictures of really, really attractive guys on there. I can't help but think to myself when I see them, What is wrong with these guys?

Honestly, they all seem to have some dysfunction starting with the fact that most of them are married. Men who cheat are icky. (So are women who cheat but I don't dig chicks so that has nothing to do with me)

I've been there - the other woman. It's no fun and I would never do it again. Who is okay with being someones side dish? I just don't get it I guess. The one time I happened to be the other woman, the relationship was built on more than just sex (which I do understand is the point of this site), he and I were friends and it became more - I got hurt in the end. Live and learn.

But to actively seek out someone who is looking to cheat on their spouse? Meh, not for me.

Some times I see pictures of attractive guys on here so I check the whole married thing and it says they're single (the chances of this being true are generally pretty low I think - yes, I'm a cynical bitch) so after that I look to see:

#1 How tall they are.
#2 Their sexual orientation.
#3 Then I read the profile and look for odd phrases that tell me more beyond what they've actually written.

Very few guys make it past the picture/marital status/height check. It's dissapointing.

**A note here; "prefer not to say" is the same as married as far as I'm concerned.

Even when a guy makes it past my scrutiny of their profile, I wonder, What is wrong with this guy? Does he have a horrible personality? Bad breath? Why is he on this site?

On a rare occasion, I will actually write to someone I've spied and asked them straight out why they are on this site; or if they really just sound like a good person and they are new, I'll warn them off of here. I think the internet is a good way to break your spirit if you are seriously looking for a relationship - the people you will find here are not likely the kind of people that wholly good people are looking for. Yes, I include myself in that description.

Ahh well, this is probably why I'm terminally single.

live_good 49M

7/4/2006 1:43 pm

I am wondering if I could ever find the type of lady I desire on this site, just not sure. Physicaly as you said, there are lots of attractive bodies. I'm not really into intruding into a married persons life either. I think there are quite a few single people on here but I am also pretty sure that is how they like to keep it so they can keep playing the field. Myself, personaly, I would like to find a match on here for a couple reasons. I think if they are on this website that says a few things about them -- 1) they are somewhat daring and certainly open minded. 2) they are likely with a high sexual appetite. 3) they are likely not apposed to exploring all aspects of sex. 4) its very likely a good understanding of eachothers sexual prefferances and desires will be made with little awkwardness. Often sex is a very tough subject to get understood in a relationship. I think finding someone from here that would be more easily figured out..more open and honest communication without the shyness inhibiting real feelings.

What I do not if it possible for these women on here to be devoted to one man once they discover they match very well, would they be faithful or always searching for greener pastures? And if not, then would they at least be honest and say they want to get fucked by other men from time to time? Would I be made aware of such escapades or would it be done in secret? I would want to keep an honest and open communication line on such events or desires.

Is it possible to have a REAL true love from someone on here....I would like to think so but I don't know. Time will tell...I'm ever hopeful but till that time comes I guess we all just play for fun instead of playing to win. I have been in a true love before and its so much better then just toying around. Unfortunately her number came up farrr to soon, cancer stole her away.


SincereSiren 41F
24 posts
7/4/2006 4:41 pm

Hi Dana,

I agree and that is exactly why I am on this site. Ideally, what I'd like to find is a man who fascinates me who also likes to fuck.

I tend to accept too easily, men who have great brains and personalities in exchange it seems I give up really good sex and that instant attraction.

My relationships in the past have been based on friendship so attraction is something that has built over time because I adore who they are. These guys always seem to be either mediocre or down right terrible in bed.

I'm at a point right now where I really don't bother dating because I'm waiting to see someone who makes me think, Damn, I really need to get to know him.

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