How long can you bang your head against a wall?  

SigEp4U 42M
112 posts
2/24/2005 2:32 pm

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How long can you bang your head against a wall?


I don’t know maybe I am going to have to stop writing on here… I thought that this would be therapeutical but it’s turning out that all this is doing is making me more sexually frustrated.

Gee what a hard choice to make… it would be so easy right now just to say, “The heck with it… time to start over”…

Thud, thud, thud… that’s the sound of me banging my head against the wall.

I just want to be able to hear a woman moan again… to smell her, to taste her… to feel her quiver as she is orgasming, to feel her sphincter contract around my finger as she climaxes…

Of course it’s been so long since I had any action I probably wouldn’t last long enough to make her moan… at least not the first time. The second and third time… now that’s an entirely different story.

Of course that’s only the half of it… if the truth be told… I just miss female companionship. There’s something about sitting across the table from someone that you are attracted to and just carrying on a good conversation. Of cuddling up on the couch and watching a good movie… or just laying in bed reading with legs lying all intertwined and then falling asleep holding hands… I could go on and on… obviously I miss the person that my wife use to be…

My counselor… you bet I am seeing a counselor, I need all the help that I can get in order to keep my sanity… told me to pick a date and not make any decisions one way or another until that date has passed.

Sounded like a good idea at the time so I picked our anniversary date… it’s the first week of May. Do I expect sex by May… not at the current rate of progress… but who knows I could be pleasantly surprised right?

So I guess when that date comes around I will have a decision to make… do I stay or do I go.

Am I going to stop writing on here? Not yet… we will see though… I can only bang my head against this wall for so long… you all have a good evening!

SigEp4U

bigjugs23 35F

2/24/2005 3:23 pm

I hope all goes well with you on that


SigEp4U 42M

2/25/2005 6:47 am

Thanks... for the pick me up bigjugs23 and yes Mackey hearing that I am not alone does help... thank you.

SigEp4U


rm_sapphire71 45F
53 posts
2/26/2005 9:17 am

It's interesting to hear a mans perspective on this sort of situation. I made the mistake of getting involved with a married man. He and his wife have nothing in common, and sex is not something she is interested at this time in her life. While I sure he loves her....I don't think he is truly happy. But....they have children, and that always makes things a bit tricky.

You said..."I just miss female companionship. There’s something about sitting across the table from someone that you are attracted to and just carrying on a good conversation. Of cuddling up on the couch and watching a good movie… or just laying in bed reading with legs lying all intertwined and then falling asleep holding hands… I could go on and on… obviously I miss the person that my wife use to be.."

I completely understand, and sympathize with you. Woman wonder why there husbands cheat...and most often it is because they are lacking all of the above things you mentioned. It isn't always about sex, though it does usually lead to that. We, as humans need contact. We need to feel that we are still alive, still wanted. I think that communication between people is the key to keeping relationships strong. It sounds to me like you wife needs to be going to counseling, not just you. If talking with her, and counseling has not helped the relationship...then maybe it is time for you to end it.

We all deserve to be happy. It sounds to me that you are doing your best to honor your commitment, but are making yourself miserable at the same time.

Best of Luck.


SigEp4U 42M

2/26/2005 1:30 pm

sapphire... I'm giving it to at least May... it's only been three months since the shit hit the fan so to speak. My wife does go to counseling... marital with me, and on her own.

There's a lot more to the story then what I have posted here...of course there always is... but anyway she has some issues that she will have to deal with on her own before we can really make it work... as I am sure I do.

SigEp4U... by the way thanks


rm_sapphire71 45F
53 posts
2/26/2005 10:31 pm

I hope you find happiness...in whatever form it might be.


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