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ShyWhisper2006 53F
8597 posts
8/26/2006 12:43 am
It

*giggles*
I know where I am...right where I am supposed to be.
Yes friday night and my tunes keep me company and my mind all over the darn place..like You didn't already think so...*smiles*
I had good intentions of writing something this morning...that got moved to this afternoon...then to this evening...then...yes I am still working on possibly getting this done soon.

The last few days have me a little confused.
Now I know some of you will recognize this type of person from the description...I am talking about a person m/f ...who manages to be sooo negative you want to just ...bite them to make them stop...
I can see some of you nodding your heads...
I mean even on a really great day...this person will go out of their way to be so down about things. I am not talking about someone that may be temporarily depressed or anything...this one is like a little black cloud...a wet blanket of doom...a pit of loathing that if you get to near...you will get sucked into it and it is so hard to escape...after awhile you start feeling badly and if you have empathic tendencies...heaven help you...you are sinking quicker than the rest of the folks that they eventually infect with their negativeness.

Ok ..I will be the first to admit ..that I am not a bundle of sunshine all the time...*shivers* that image just creeps me out...lol
But I have my bad days and yes I am miserable. But, who doesn't. But this type of person is like this 24/7/365...seriously.
It is sad that a person like this cannot see the good that is in everything. And trust me there is.
I was told that many years ago and it is true...there is always something good in any situation, you just need to look listen and feel for it...it may be fleeting..and it may not be heralded by trumpets...but it is there.
I stay alert to find it many a times and I always find it. Sometimes it is not apparent right away, but it does reveal itself when you take the time to see it.
Now this type of person not only does not see it...but does not believe it ever existed. They play the oh woe is me card whenever they run into someone who calls them on it.
But they are like sticky tape..and people like me who are helpful and wanting to be there for someone...end up getting stuck in there with them and wondering why...why did we manage to get stuck again and again...

Easy, because I care...maybe too much and un necessarily but I do care alot for others that I get to know.
I can feel the silent tars and the silent cries to be heard from others and ..I cannot help but be there.
Yes I do sometimes kick myself for being suckered in and being used...but would I change that...make myself different to save myself?
No..it is who I am ..like it or not. And I happen to like it.
I wish I could fix these people and make them..even the slightest happy one day...one hour...one minute...to show them that...being negative all the time ...sucks.

Life sucks most of the time as it is...why make it worse?

Yes , many negative things happen to me...and it is not easy most days..but do I go around like Eeyore moping about it...No
I can spend more precious moments trying to find the elusive silver lining...the god of the situation...and see the kindness of others in other situations and be grateful that ...no matter how bad I think my life is...there are many others that are worse off than me. Many m,ore are hurting worse than me. I do not dilute my situations and feelings...but I look at them and see what I need to learn from it...what can I do differently next time...or do we just ride it out and come out on the other end ...and smile because it is yet another life experience that we survived...
I make my choices ..and I am sure you do as well...I choose to live...and to be as happy and calm as I can be..and infect others with that...it is nicer...and it makes me feel good.

Be well all...and take care *smiles*



rm_ShineOnU2 54M
125 posts
8/26/2006 1:14 am

Shy, do you know what really sends me for a loop? When I'm sitting right here...I mean right here, so you would figure that I would know where I am right? Yep me too, But the other day I was sitting there I looked up and there I went! No shit! There I went walking right by the window! Now how can that be? I still can't figure that one out. You know, it still hurts my head just thinkong about it...Damn! Shy, you got any asprin?

Oh, by the way, you need to go over to my Blog right now, you'll find a really lame poem there. Leave me a message as to what's a good time to communicate with you later on togay, okay? then erase this when you're done. Shy we will talk about that other stuff later. No worries...It's all good. ) Oh Hi


IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
8/26/2006 2:15 am

Tea, I know where I'm at. Just stayed home for the evening watching 3 dvd rentals. All 3 kinda sucked. One of them was "Poseidon". The remake from Poseidon Adventure. What a disappointment, but I guess it was ok. But they did have "fergy" from Black Eyed Peas in it singing. Also watched Silent Hill. That could have been done better if it didn't look so much like a MTV music video of Nine Inch Nails.

Tomorrow I may go out and meet up with friends to listen to a band. But also thinking of going to this place near the Marina here, they have a Guns n Roses cover band playing.


IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
8/26/2006 2:22 am

Yea, I know where I'm at. Just stayed home for the evening watching 3 dvd rentals. All 3 kinda sucked. One of them was "Poseidon". The remake from Poseidon Adventure. What a disappointment, but I guess it was ok. But they did have "fergy" from Black Eyed Peas in it singing.
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Also watched Silent Hill. That could have been done better if it didn't look so much like a MTV music video of Nine Inch Nails.

Tomorrow I may go out and meet up with friends to listen to a band. But also thinking of going to this place near the Marina here, they have a Guns n Roses cover band playing.


SirMounts 102M

8/26/2006 3:00 am

shy...
Yes, I've met some who don't like it when it's raining because it's too wet, and don't like it when it's sunny because it's too bright. *winking*
But someone who does look at the bright side of things, cares, and likes to give... will be far happier, than those who only see gloom. *smiling warmly*


SirMounts 102M

8/26/2006 3:02 am

shy...
Yes, I've met some who don't like it when it's raining because it's too wet, and don't like it when it's sunny because it's too bright. *winking*
But someone who does look at the bright side of things in life, cares, and likes to give... will be far happier than those who know only gloom.


rm_ShineOnU2 54M
125 posts
8/26/2006 3:05 am

Shy? I know where you're at and I like it a lot. I thank God every day for you and people like you. The more we have the better place this world is to live in. I have absolutely amazed at how many truly wonderful people that have met and continue to meet here, in our little village. I never expected these gifts...WOW! I am just in awe!

YUM YUM YUM OOooff!


ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
8/26/2006 4:29 am

    Quoting IviesBidesJuste:
    Yea, I know where I'm at. Just stayed home for the evening watching 3 dvd rentals. All 3 kinda sucked. One of them was "Poseidon". The remake from Poseidon Adventure. What a disappointment, but I guess it was ok. But they did have "fergy" from Black Eyed Peas in it singing.
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    Also watched Silent Hill. That could have been done better if it didn't look so much like a MTV music video of Nine Inch Nails.

    Tomorrow I may go out and meet up with friends to listen to a band. But also thinking of going to this place near the Marina here, they have a Guns n Roses cover band playing.
LB...I was wondering about that Poseidon movie...I saw the first one...Oh not surre about the Silent Hill one...too creepy for me...I have enough dark images in my head..lol
I think the Guns n Roses cover band will be awesome...let us know *smiles*


ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
8/26/2006 4:31 am

    Quoting SirMounts:
    shy...
    Yes, I've met some who don't like it when it's raining because it's too wet, and don't like it when it's sunny because it's too bright. *winking*
    But someone who does look at the bright side of things, cares, and likes to give... will be far happier, than those who only see gloom. *smiling warmly*
SirMounts...It is how think ...it is much easier way to live..I believe...
Thanks for stopping by


ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
8/26/2006 4:32 am

    Quoting rm_ShineOnU2:
    Shy? I know where you're at and I like it a lot. I thank God every day for you and people like you. The more we have the better place this world is to live in. I have absolutely amazed at how many truly wonderful people that have met and continue to meet here, in our little village. I never expected these gifts...WOW! I am just in awe!

    YUM YUM YUM OOooff!
Shine...thats so sweet of you...thank you so much
You too are very special...


cougarprey4play 40M

8/26/2006 9:07 am

I was in bed sleeping hopefully (did wake up several times during the night but it wasn't bad). Thankfully my back adjustment went well & I'm feeling good today!!


AstirRelicLatah 64M
1993 posts
8/26/2006 12:03 pm

There are people who run strategies that are away strategies...This means they will move away from something and not towards it. My father uses this strategy often...and, people who run away from strategies tend to be negative with statement like, I"m from Missouri, prove it. It's very frustrating to hang around those folks so it's probably better to just move on.


Mr_sweetness 44M
2599 posts
8/26/2006 12:25 pm

#HUGS I know where i am..I am in the jungle baby Thanks for posting to my blogs always put a smile on my face

Peace, cause there is to much violence and blood shed in the world!!

Love, cause there is to much hate in the world!!

Happiness, cause it feels good and life is to short to be mean and unhappy all the time!!


ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
8/26/2006 5:47 pm

    Quoting cougarprey4play:
    I was in bed sleeping hopefully (did wake up several times during the night but it wasn't bad). Thankfully my back adjustment went well & I'm feeling good today!!
cougarprey...Thats great that your back adjustment went well...*smiles*...Always good to feel much better ...Have a wonderful weekend


ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
8/26/2006 5:49 pm

    Quoting AstirRelicLatah:
    There are people who run strategies that are away strategies...This means they will move away from something and not towards it. My father uses this strategy often...and, people who run away from strategies tend to be negative with statement like, I"m from Missouri, prove it. It's very frustrating to hang around those folks so it's probably better to just move on.
Skier...*nods*...Very true Skier...it is difficult to be around...and one usually ends up more frustrated then you began...Thanks for stopping by


ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
8/26/2006 5:53 pm

    Quoting Mr_sweetness:
    #HUGS I know where i am..I am in the jungle baby Thanks for posting to my blogs always put a smile on my face
Mr sweetness....They have jungles over your way?...wow...I never knew *grins*...I must explore canada more...lol
Thanks for dropping by..and your most welcome for my visit...even if some questions there make me blush and unable to answer...


ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
8/27/2006 12:46 am

    Quoting spunky11961:
    I can find happiness in a thunderstorm, I can find it the most dire of circumstances, I can find it most anywhere, I just have a problem recognizing it sometimes ~I just used spell check,no mistakes found,
    Now I'm happy ~really nice post~
    ~spunky
spunky...*smiles*..I had a feeling you would be the kind of person that would be able to find happiness and light in anything...It is a wonderful feeling and fun when speel check comes up empty...it makes me giggle most times...
Glad to see you visit again


redmustang91 57M  
8571 posts
8/27/2006 5:18 am

Negative people suck, and not in a good way. Run away from them... Use the evil to make a joke. Nothing kills negativity like ridicule!


ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
8/28/2006 12:37 am

    Quoting redmustang91:
    Negative people suck, and not in a good way. Run away from them... Use the evil to make a joke. Nothing kills negativity like ridicule!
redmustang91...Welcome to my blog ...*smiles*
Thank you for your comment...I agree too stressful to be around others like this....Be well and Take care


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