If only...would you?  

ShyWhisper2006 53F
8597 posts
4/27/2006 3:45 pm
If only...would you?

If given the possibility to change our appearance to that of one that we are interested in ...like a shedding of a winter jacket, somewhat like a snowsuit, would you?
ALong the hairline begins the zipper of this "suit". Running along the edge of hair follicles to the neckline and then down the nape of the neck towards the shoulder. Then it follows a seam to the breast bone and down to the pelvis where it branches out like a babies little romper down each leg to the ankle.
As one unzips this "suit", they recite and think of all that the other person finds attractive and desirable and as the unzipping continues a metamorphosis begins in the shadows underneath.
Skin tones and muscle development. Eye color and hair shade and length. Size of endowments and or lack thereof, all changing to be "the" perfect specimen for the one we wish to impress and or want the attentions of.
Stepping out of this suit finally , is a creature of imagination. Of ideals found in only one and even as an ideal, it is not perfect, far from it. Because if we were or had al the qualities sought out, would we be really what they truly wanted, or just something that they desired but really had no idea how to handle in the true sense of the word.
For what we imagine in our minds is not always clear cut , nor is it really what we want. For there be mannerisms and tendencies that need to be accounted for and , such things as memories and experiences all play a part in developing really what we become.
The outer shell of anyone has the tell tale signs of life, time and general wear and tear. It may not be perfect to anyone else and even to ourselves, but sometimes, once in awhile there comes one that sees the one that is inside the shell and looks past the outer layer of life experience and sees the glowing warm soul inside.
To step out of the shell that life has forged for us, would be nice on those occasions, when we cannot find the good that some may feel come from us. It would be nice to step out of that layer and shine through for once as we truly see ourselves in our mind's eye. But shells we carry with us can be molded and shaped by the thoughts of others and ourselves, but at what cost?
It be best to be who you are and comfortable in the shell that is a part of you and seek out the ones that see the glow that comes from inside. For the things unseen are worth so much more than the tautness of skin and the strategically placed beauty mark. The latest of coverings or enhancements. They are not truly who you are. No matter how much some may think so. For in the long run, no matter how exquisite the package, nothing changes the soul, the attitude, the mind encased within.
So, if given the chance the opportunity to become what others want to see and be with, would you?



heteroman19542 62M

4/27/2006 4:40 pm

I believe we do that every time we encounter someone we think might interest us albiet subconsciously but in any event that can only happen over time,but in the end i have to answer yes to your question.


blue061245 71M
331 posts
4/27/2006 5:35 pm

Your next-to-last paragraph is really the key to answering your question. We have to learn to be comfortable with the "shell" we are in; it is "our" shell and no-one else has exzactly the same one. If we are not happy with the shell, there are two choices - we have some limited ability to alter it, or we must learn to adapt our likes and dislikes.

We have the ability to change some habits. We can study and grow through education and experience. We can change our bodies through a combination of diet and exercise. These are changes to the "real" us, and they can be worthwhile. These are changes made to satisfy ourselves, to help us become the people we want to be. These changes actually make us different.

Some people try to change their "shell" because they wish to be seen differently by otheres, but without making any changes to their substance. These superficial changes are fundamentally dishonest, in that they are an attempt to disguise reality, to mislead people.

I am convinced that the true measure of our sanity is the extent to which our perception of ourselves and each other and our surroundings conforms to the objective reality. In as much as we recognize and respond to that objective reality, we are sane. Conversely, to the extent that we fail to recognize reality, indulge in wishful thinking, and let our lives be guided by that wishful thinking, we are insane.

Nature is merciless. We may put up a false front ( a borrowed shell) and we may be successful in deceiving others, so that they view us the way we would like to be viewed. However, those same otheres react, not to us, but to the falsified perception of us. In the end, any relationship that is built on such a misunderstanding is doomed to fail. As long as we try to maintain such a relationship, it will lead only to insecurity and dissatsfaction.

I will settle for the shell that I have.


blue061245 71M
331 posts
4/27/2006 5:38 pm

Your next-to-last paragraph is really the key to answering your question. We have to learn to be comfortable with the "shell" we are in; it is "our" shell and no-one else has exactly the same one. If we are not happy with the shell, there are two choices - we have some limited ability to alter it, or we must learn to adapt our likes and dislikes.

We have the ability to change some habits. We can study and grow through education and experience. We can change our bodies through a combination of diet and exercise. These are changes to the "real" us, and they can be worthwhile. These are changes made to satisfy ourselves, to help us become the people we want to be. These changes actually make us different.

Some people try to change their "shell" because they wish to be seen differently by others, but without making any changes to their substance. These superficial changes are fundamentally dishonest, in that they are an attempt to disguise reality, to mislead people.

I am convinced that the true measure of our sanity is the extent to which our perception of ourselves and each other and our surroundings conforms to the objective reality. In as much as we recognize and respond to that objective reality, we are sane. Conversely, to the extent that we fail to recognize reality, indulge in wishful thinking, and let our lives be guided by that wishful thinking, we are insane.

Nature is merciless. We may put up a false front ( a borrowed shell) and we may be successful in deceiving others, so that they view us the way we would like to be viewed. However, those same otheres react, not to us, but to the falsified perception of us. In the end, any relationship that is built on such a misunderstanding is doomed to fail. As long as we try to maintain such a relationship, it will lead only to insecurity and dissatsfaction.

I will settle for the shell that I have.


SirMounts 102M

5/2/2006 12:15 pm

Oh, I've already done all that stuff. *winking* And I agree with your insightful comments, and as always, your writing is superb. *smiling*


SirMounts 102M

5/2/2006 12:24 pm

Oh, I've already done all that stuff. *winking*
I agree with your insightful comments, and as always, your writing is superb. *smiling*


ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
7/4/2006 9:05 pm

    Quoting SirMounts:
    Oh, I've already done all that stuff. *winking*
    I agree with your insightful comments, and as always, your writing is superb. *smiling*
Thank you SirMounts...your comments are always so sweet...*smiles*


ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
7/8/2006 1:05 am

    Quoting heteroman19542:
    I believe we do that every time we encounter someone we think might interest us albiet subconsciously but in any event that can only happen over time,but in the end i have to answer yes to your question.
heteroman1954...thank you for visiting...*smiles*


ShyWhisper2006 53F
15175 posts
7/8/2006 1:06 am

    Quoting blue061245:
    Your next-to-last paragraph is really the key to answering your question. We have to learn to be comfortable with the "shell" we are in; it is "our" shell and no-one else has exactly the same one. If we are not happy with the shell, there are two choices - we have some limited ability to alter it, or we must learn to adapt our likes and dislikes.

    We have the ability to change some habits. We can study and grow through education and experience. We can change our bodies through a combination of diet and exercise. These are changes to the "real" us, and they can be worthwhile. These are changes made to satisfy ourselves, to help us become the people we want to be. These changes actually make us different.

    Some people try to change their "shell" because they wish to be seen differently by others, but without making any changes to their substance. These superficial changes are fundamentally dishonest, in that they are an attempt to disguise reality, to mislead people.

    I am convinced that the true measure of our sanity is the extent to which our perception of ourselves and each other and our surroundings conforms to the objective reality. In as much as we recognize and respond to that objective reality, we are sane. Conversely, to the extent that we fail to recognize reality, indulge in wishful thinking, and let our lives be guided by that wishful thinking, we are insane.

    Nature is merciless. We may put up a false front ( a borrowed shell) and we may be successful in deceiving others, so that they view us the way we would like to be viewed. However, those same otheres react, not to us, but to the falsified perception of us. In the end, any relationship that is built on such a misunderstanding is doomed to fail. As long as we try to maintain such a relationship, it will lead only to insecurity and dissatsfaction.

    I will settle for the shell that I have.
blue...yes I have to agree ...I like my shell...it has done me well too...*smiles*


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