Fear & Loathing in Oahu  

ShyEmerald 33F
9 posts
5/1/2006 9:39 pm

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Fear & Loathing in Oahu


I am here attempting to see how out of practice I am. I have been out of the loop for three years. I am twenty two and married the fourth man I ever had sex with. I, unlike him, was loyal. I have no clue where to start in rebuilding my life. I have a two and half year old, who is the love of my life, but I really don't want to be that mom who lives through her child. I don't want to be too chicken to live. I feel like a scared little virgin all over again and that is disconcerting. Any words of wisdom? I could use all the help I can get.

bedroomice2003 44M

5/1/2006 10:33 pm

Having a child forces you to grow up a little sooner than you may have wanted, but at 22 you're still sorting out who you are and what you want. You've got time, sweetie. You should feel free to experiment as long as you don't let anything (or anyone) come between you and your baby. Don't expect anyone you go out with to suddenly want to be a new father to your child, but avoid the immature types who make you feel as though you have to choose. They're not worth your time. Go out when you can and have fun when you can and be the person you were destined to be no matter what the obstacles.

It will be a struggle, but I know you'll be fine.


rm_ENGBUCARO 38M
596 posts
5/1/2006 10:35 pm

My last girlfriend was a 24F that had a 3yr old girl ... I loved them both ... at some point I started out to see myself married with her and taking care of her kid. Then things went sour with my ex and we ended up not speaking to each other anymore... It was sad for me cause I cared for this little girl. A common friend once told me that she asked about me and that is sad too.

Have some fun, live your life, date.. but if you are gonna get into a relation put some thought about your kid too.

Hope I didn't sound too pessimistic

Please comment on my last post since you could give me a good perspective
8 yrs Age Gap with an Undergrad


bedroomice2003 44M

5/2/2006 2:15 am

Love the Hunter Thompson reference, BTW.


GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
5/2/2006 3:17 am


you seem to have some very healthy perspectives. Don't go too fast, see how things go.

One thing you could do on here: read blogs, comment if you feel like it, get settled in and acquainted, and amazing things can happen

welcome to blogging


6scrammer9 92M

5/26/2006 6:45 am

Hi! I'm not an expert and don't propose to tell you what is right for you.
You must decide that as it happens. Things change all the time and what may be right one day won't necessarily be so the next.
Just search your heart and your mind to determine what is best for you and your child.
Say hello sometime if you wanna.
Take care, aloha,
scrammer


SirMounts 102M

5/27/2006 10:59 pm

Welcome to blogging, ShyEmerald. *smiling*


HAWAII27STUD 36M

11/14/2006 9:30 pm

HEY NO WORRIES GET PLENTY TIME SISTA FO B HAPPY .....
MAYBE WIT ME....LOL


HAWAII27STUD 36M

11/15/2006 8:47 pm

YOU STILL STRESSIN???

YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY LIKE BUY SOME SEXY BEDROOM GEAR LIGHT SOME CANDLES AND CALL ME.....LOL
SMILE


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