Even FWB need love too....  

Shameless_Biotch 48F
177 posts
7/18/2006 8:45 am

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7/22/2006 6:36 am

Even FWB need love too....

Mood: abandoned, confused, hurt

I tried to keep it light, I really did...
but I fell in love with my "friend with benefits"...I understood we wouldn't be able to see each other much, over the summer, (see Like A Rose... ) but he hasn't even tried for two months, and he promised me that he would email me at least once a week, YIM and cam a couple of times a week...he HAS emailed a couple of times in the last two months, but they are terse, short and uniformative, at best, nothing like the ones he used to write...

So now I am in a quandry....how much attention is too much to expect? how much is too little?where do you draw the line, when do you stop waiting for that YIM/email/call??
I have come up against a sorry truth...when I am in love, I expect a lot of attention from my lover...
but, as some of you have read here already, I am not getting ANY attention at all...for days now...
I am left wondering...I have so many questions that only he can answer...what's going on? did his wife find out? did he become overwhelmed and backed off?
Did he DIE?!?!?!
In some of my previous blogs, I wonder... How Would I Know? I mused about these possiblities...and realized, if something tragic happened ( death, car wreck, relocation, wife found out)that I would never know...

So I need to know.....how long should you wait?How much attention is too much to expect?

Shameless_Biotch 48F

7/19/2006 5:17 am

thank you for your round about way of telling me you just want to sleep with me because you feel sorry for me....sorry I don't recieve pity fucks!!the question about my boyfriend isn't "is he gone?" but "Why the fuck didn't he at least give me a goodbye email or something??"

rm_shannee2006 52F
3355 posts
7/19/2006 6:10 am

SB...you know in your heart that you are the only one who can answer how long to wait. I don't think you should wait at all. I think you should get on with things and if he comes back, he does. It's making you nuts and that's a sure sign that you need to find another focus. Been there...done that. And my attitude only chased a guy I really like away. Even if there's a problem that's preventing him from communicating with you and he comes back with the same level of attention he left with, you'll be all wound up when he gets back if you keep this up...know what I mean?

And I hate to say it, but fun2bwith has some points here. He's given you some good advice to consider. I'm certainly going to take him under advisement. Hang in there lady. I know this is hard. I know it.

Yup...this juiciness is from me....


Shameless_Biotch 48F

7/19/2006 3:58 pm

Thanks Shannee hun
I know, I know, I need to move on...
But I get so stuck emotionally when someone abandons me like this...if it had been a clean break, with some explanation, I could've gone on without so much fucken drama, but he has abandoned me, without an explanation, that is why I am so obsessed...

and the bitch of it is,there's not a damn thing I can do about it...

thanks for caring and sharing, I appreciate the forthright feedback


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