single with kids and dating......  

SexyTLC13 49F
34 posts
10/19/2005 8:43 am

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single with kids and dating......

I was with my ex for 11 years and we had two kids together. I'm still rather new to dating although it has been 5 months since we split.
I've met a few guys and have had a few nice dates. The thing is that I feel very uncomfortable with the idea of bringing men around my kids. I had a girlfriend once who had four kids; all from different fathers. How does she think her kids feel when she brings home guys in front of her kids? I think this would cause alot of confusion to kids.
I know for me a guy would have to be dam special for me to have a man here. That's why I am looking for a relationship, because I have to consider my kids as well. I can't say nothing about what the next bitch does, all I know is that if I were to have a relationship with a guy then my kids are part of that package. He'd have to be dam special to come here to my house.
Tell me what would you do in this situation? I mean my kids are young (8&9) don't you think it affects them as well?

9Simon9 66M
292 posts
10/19/2005 11:09 am

Thanks for the add'l pics.

You're right; you don't want to bring just anybody into your home, unless he's special, both to you and for the children. Therefore, don't ever reduce your standards; hang in there and be patient, the right man for you and your children is out there.

A great movie about this topic is "Where the heart is". If you haven't already seen it, rent it; I think you'll enjoy/appreciate it.

Good luck with your search.

rm_05aguyforfun 70M
1 post
10/23/2005 12:14 am

Having been there done that. You are 100% correct in NOT subjecting your kids to a man until you fine the right guy or at least the right potential guy. Until then, you have this site and ALL the dating you desire outside of the kids eyes.
Your doing the right thing in the long run with separation of kids and dates!
--good luck, it does take planing to pull it off

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