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5/4/2006 9:47 am

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5/4/2006 9:48 am

sex calls


I read this article on sex calls which basically describes the "friends with benefits" which most seek here on AdultFriendFinder. After reading it can you say that this is what you want? I know that it would not make me a happy woman. But you decide for yourself. Just though I would share.

Sex Calls

by Carmen Sutra


In the friends with benefits scenario, the two partners theoretically care about each other. With sex calls, it's mutually understood that the only intent is sex. The sole purpose of these encounters is to consummate lusty ideas. When a man calls you at 3:00 in the morning, he doesn't want to hear about your day, your 10:00 meeting, and he could care less about the problems you are having with family, let alone if you happen to have a significant other. There are no conversations about how your holiday was, that you have to take the dog to the vet, or about your racquetball game in the morning. In fact, the only conversation is generally talking dirty in bed...or on the kitchen table, couch, or floor.

Normally I report on these issues with a definite opinion in mind, but I am presenting today's issue for your consideration. I am merely providing questions for you to ponder. Are people just using each other in a sex call situation? If so, is this okay? If sexual attention is a basic need, then is mechanical, purely animal sex okay? Or should sex mean more in the overall scheme of things? That's for you to decide.

If you decide to entertain a sex call, consider several factors first. What are your intentions? What are your partner's intentions? It must be clear that this is only a temporary situation. Can you manage the consequences? Both parties must agree that there are no expectations other than sex. Before you agree to take this "call", truly reflect on your morals. If you know that you need lovemaking to have a deeper meaning, then don't participate. If you only want to make love with one person and be in a relationship, perhaps this isn't for you. As with friends with benefits, there is potential for someone to get hurt. There's always the possibility that one person is harboring a crush or hope that this will turn into a relationship. Some people, especially women, use sex to gain a relationship. But, on the other hand, some think sex is just sex and can enjoy sex for sex only.

Here's a thought to ponder: is there a Madonna/whore complex involved somehow? A reader once wrote to me about his "sex buddy." Though he claimed to be happily married, he would still occasionally call his "buddy" because, in his mind, he could engage in certain acts with her that he would never ask his wife to do. Hmmm...is this the classic Madonna/whore complex? If so, let me ask you, should we not be married to or be in relationships with those we are sexually compatible? Communication is key. Express yourself! Share your needs with your partner. If someone truly loves you, you could be pleasantly surprised at what fantasies they are willing to fulfill. And while sex is not the ENTIRE relationship, it is an important component.

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