Women and Relationships  

SexyPete26 40M
5 posts
8/31/2005 8:17 am

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Women and Relationships

Why is it everytime, you talk or try to talk or even chat with any woman they all have one thing in mind, and that is a solid relationship. Why can women be like me, if we want a friend with benefit, thats all we want and nothing else. Can anyone answer that?

crashintome2005 35F

8/31/2005 9:49 am

Women CAN be like that. Personally speaking, I am succesful at friends with benefits. And by FWB I mean, just contacting them when you'd like intimate company. However FWB is no longer an option once feelings have been developed. All I could say is don't build a relationship with them that is too friendly. I mean, don't call them everyday. Keep it simple, to the point, flirty, and basically entirely sexual. Keep looking, you'll find someone!

rm_abebb 59M
56 posts
8/31/2005 11:12 am

men want sex, women want relationships. it will never change. lol in today's society there seems to be an element missing in this equation, and that element is compromise. on AdultFriendFinder the missing element is not only compromise but passion as well. say you met the same person in a bar or other place, you are both attracted to one another. maybe that attraction is pure physical or maybe it is for some other reason or for some other reason. you talked for a while, maybe made out a little bit, the two of you are hot for one another and the sex happens, in spite of what each of you may actually had hoped for in the long run. it is only after the sex, you start thinking about your expectations again.

SexyPete26 40M

9/1/2005 5:47 am

Thanks for the comments guys. I know what you are saying crash, but why is it when you are FWB and nothing more, would you develop feeling for. If the both of you agree that it only for the simple plesure of sex, why take things further. Lets say you and I were FWB, which I know I wouldn't even have a chance with you anyway probably, why make things more complicated. If you called me and said "come up to NH I need a good lay today", I'd be up in a heartbeat, but I would not expect you to say to me I want a relationship with more to it than just sex, if we both agreed just to be purely physically involved. That street goes both ways. I know a guy who got married because of this whole feeling development after just being FWB. Now 6 years later, thay are divorced, house is for sale, everyone is pissed off at one another, and everyone is miserable. So FWB should remain just that and not go further and things will be simple. So what else do you think guys? What other reasons?

DavisCoveyHoney 41F

1/28/2006 8:59 am

It's the whole sexual act that messes the genders up. Women receive a hot cock into their bodies and expect that allowing someone to be inside of them means something. Guy's sexual organ is exterior, you put it somewhere nice and warm you take it away, it's still yours to move on with. Women are left feeling empty and wanting (even though the sex was great and the cock fit great) the point is, it's gone and we want it back....and then we NEED you and WANT you and demand that sex is an emotional act and can't seem to understand how guys can shut off feelings from this act. Once women start slam-ming (sex like a man) and realize sex is great with other men too, it does make it easier to be FWB...but women are conditioned to be "good girls"...think about the whole slut vs stud scenario in our society. A woman who is empowered by her sexuality and who can "slam" is a dirty whore....it addititonally makes women want to cling onto the FWB because of the guilt for racking up too many partners...while guys have glory for the bed post notches. and we will meet b/c we both live in CT and your body looks really hot.

hotnsweet35 55F

4/9/2006 8:22 pm

I think you can be fwb...i have quite a few that i have met and right from the start it was out in the open that thats all it was going to be on both parts....but with some it just isnt sex per se...we talk and know about each others lives and such which makes the sex even better when you connect on that other level...but as far as expecting it to go farther and become something about just "us" we both know is not going to go there....you just have to find the right person to be FWB with and it will work out....maybe someone a bit older that isnt looking for that long term thing and has found themselves a bit more and are more in touch with their sexuality.......and they also are just out to have some fun and have their needs met with someone that there is some chemistry with.....and i think that as far as the "dirty whore" thing...who cares ...in this day and age if you are careful and safe why not have as much fun as the guys...that double standard ended in middle school.....the new women has arrived and she can do whatever the guys can do...probably better,,,LOL

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