Missing You  

SexyCuseBlonde 31F
10 posts
1/19/2006 8:04 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Missing You

This is a very personal post, I know everyone here has lost someone close to them, and i'm wondering about the loss of a parent, or parents. Have you lost your parents? if so how old were you? and how did you cope? Being an only child of a single mother witha n illness i was prepped from birth to expect that my mother wouldnt be around for long, but after 20 years of fighting every disease theat came into her path my mother finally was beaten, and couldnt take the pain anymore, So here i am 20 years old Motherless and Fatherless (bastard Left when i was still in utero) Filled with all sorts of Regrets like She never saw me graduate, (i dropped out to help Take care of her) She'll never get to hold her grandchild and i'll never have someone to give me away @ my wedding, I dont know how to cope. its been 4 months and still i am Broken. How do you cope with the lost of a young parent? My mother was only 40.
So my question is Have you lost a parent and if so how old were you and how did you cope?

rm_lovenurbode 37M

1/19/2006 9:22 am


I have never lost a parent, but I have known many people that have had to go through the same thing you are going through. Be sad that she is gone, but be proud and happy of how she battled for so long. Be glad she got to see 20 years of your life and not 5. Remember the lessons she taught you and do your best to live by them. Most importantly...have faith! I am not a religious person by any means, however, I do believe that when someone dies they go to a place where they can see you whenever they please. So know that your mother can still see your life and be happy for you and help you. She will see you walk down the aisle. All of those things you are thinking about...she will see you do!

Always lovenurbode

sassybelle21 32F
13313 posts
1/19/2006 9:33 am

My parents are still alive so I don't think I'm fit to answer on the coping part. I am truly sorry for your loss. I hope things get better soon

9Simon9 66M
292 posts
1/19/2006 4:14 pm

If you practice a certain religion, you may find support there. There may also be a support group for people in the same shoes as you; you can check with your medical insurance provider. If you have some close friends, they may also be a source of support for you.
While my mother is still living and my father passed when I was in my early 40's, I have a couple of friends in a similar situation as you; it's heart-breaking.
I'm sorry for your loss and hope you find the support you need to help you cope with your situation.
Take care.

coolskytwitty 45M

1/19/2006 9:33 pm

The best way to cope with the loss of a loved one, for me, has been to remember all of the good times and to take solace that I can recall any memory of them that I want at any time. Hang in there!

lickmesuckyou19 48M/31F
8 posts
1/20/2006 3:49 am

I John have lost both my parents I am not sure how to cope though I will explain more as i go first let me say I lost my mother when i was 25(1995) I lost my first son on christmas day in 1992 he was 6 months old then i lost my father2 months later in Feb. Some say I went cold by all this others just dont know everyone deals with things differently I tend to hold things to myself but even after this lomg i will hear a song or watch my children doing something and think back to one of the ones i have lost and say see what the kids are doing now or listen to this song it always makes me think of you I talk to them sometimes just as if they were still here some times even yell at them and say why did you leave but then again this is just the way I dealt with it and every one is different and deals with things in different ways. Well i guess that is it for now any time you just want to chat just look me up

wetpusstightass 32F
8 posts
1/20/2006 11:38 am

i lost my mother when i was 15, no i have never gotten over it, just cope the best i can

mickey1759 58M
1 post
1/22/2006 12:06 am

558 MY deepest sympathies to you my friend/ I lost my Dad on Jan 2, 2 weeks ago. He was 75 and suffered for a year, but I moved in to help him out. I don't feel like I did much, but we had some good talks. I am 46 and have kids 18 and 16, so Dad knew them well. They cried at the funeral. On some level I understand how you feel, you and your Mom missing all those things we look forward to. All I can give you tonight is my tears, but I know you will go ahead and have an amazing life, if for no other reason than to honor your dear mother. Fondly, Michael

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