Being friends? Being a nice guy?  

SexDragon777 35M
33 posts
10/18/2005 5:32 pm

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Being friends? Being a nice guy?


Recently, in an attempt to hopefully try to make myself more appealing to women, I had sought advice of other members here at Adult Friend Finders, unfortunately the advice didn't seem entirely helpful. One such advice was trying to be friends with women, but really does that even work? I know that it hasn't for me since I'm friends with several women and nothing has happened as far as a relationship goes.

Still, I am grateful that nobody said that women are looking for teh bad boy, at least there's some hope for the hopless romantic and nice guy that I am.

bigfurrybear 41M

10/18/2005 7:41 pm

I prefer to make friends with them before having sex as it makes the sex that much better. In fact, I am not sure I would even want to hook up with someone that I didn't at least know a little. My best friend in the world right now is someone I met through here as a sex buddy. I also have several people that I chat with regularly that I have never even met yet.

I guess my advice to you is to just be yourself. If you try to fake who you are or try to portray yourself as someone you are not it will come back to haunt you.

And of course, email email email. I may send 50 emails before I get 1 reply. Just be patient. And remember, the people you are contacting are people. Talk to them as people, not some kind of inanimate sex object.

Good luck!


NickRules999 39M
9462 posts
10/18/2005 8:15 pm

Mi amigo, you gotta be patient. Women aren't just gonna run up to you and tell you to fuck them. I, myself, once stood where you are, a man in my prime who'd never known the touch of a woman. And, I had frequented strip clubs in hopes of finding a girlfriend. This proved fruitless. And, whenever I got close to a woman, I'd have to move. I somehow thought god was fucking with me. (which is why I renounced the faith, being the Dark Lord I am) It will happen, and long before you're 40. If you gotta go to a brothel, or if you find someone local, it will happen. But, self pity isn't gonna do it. Women do not like guys who whine about being single. (trust me, I know. I've been there) Women like a guy with confidence, and I know you've got some in you somewhere. Just gotta bring it to the surface. Let'em know you're a man. But you can't continue to let rejection bring you down. You gotta call forth your confidence, build your confidence. Coz women like that.

If you think I'm bullshitting, then there's nothing else I can say. I'm only trying to help. If all else fails, do what I did. Go to Nevada and see a pro.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?


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