MizzKitka's Popcorn Machine -- Follow me on this...  

Seriously_Real 48M
1458 posts
6/20/2006 6:54 am

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MizzKitka's Popcorn Machine -- Follow me on this...

Way back in the day when I was The Noonerboy, I came across a wonderful post from my friend [blog mizzkitka], who had taken a post with a parable about a popcorn machine and derived a theory of love relationships that I intuitively subscribed to. I loved that post, and asked her to find it for me and post again. (Kitka's kinda prolific....)

I wanted her to post it again because lately I have been doing alot of talking and thinking about what it is that makes people compatible and ready for each other. I have always subscribed to the "mental-physical-spiritual" categorical approach to love, and have always known that it is only going to work when all three are not only present but thriving.

Her post talks of this, and in the post, she (through another) uses the popcorn machine allegory. Being fluent in metaphor, I had to use it again.

This is the post: [post 394958]

And here is my comment to her on it:

Thank you, Kitka. I have always loved this, and it has always made sense to me. The best part of it is this:

"He loved me to the capacity that he could and that was all he had to give."

That's just it, right? We can give all we have to one another, but that does not mean we have the right matching capacity. It does not mean that the popcorn machine will work. It may accept a quarter, it may even heat up and pop...but the dispenser is fucked.

But you know what? We keep putting in our quarters, don't we? Or we keep trying new machines.

Sometimes, though, we need to repair the machine, ourselves, to be ready.

I personally know something of the concept of "not being ready" yet. Of being broken and in need of repair, so when someone comes up to my popcorn machine I'll function as designed. I know about this.

And it all feeds into my ultimate philosophy on love -- in the beginning, there is love. There is the taste of popcorn that we know instinctively. In the end, there is love. There is the popcorn with all that buttery goodness that we can share with another. And in the middle? In the middle there is love struggling to surmount all else, struggling to repair machines, struggling to keep putting in quarters, struggling to figure out how to make it all work at the right time.

But it does happen. It will happen. Yes, Kitka, it does.

Thank you.

Sigh. You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one...


TheRealThing655 48F
9558 posts
6/20/2006 7:18 am

Yup....I'm a dreamer too my friend...
And the part you bolded- isn't that the truth- the key is finding the person who has the capacity for love that you do....that it is just right, ya know?

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:18 pm:
Believe me, Sister Real, I know. Hell yes, I know.

frangipanigal 44F
10406 posts
6/20/2006 7:24 am

I SOOO want to dream again....

Frangi x

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:18 pm:
Nothing stopping you, Frangi...I'm down with that. You never know, you know?

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
6/20/2006 8:04 am

I just want some popcorn with that movie theater butter just poured on, but it always kills me with heartburn.

Just like love

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:19 pm:
Awww....that makes me so sad. But at least it's good when it's greasy on your fingers and you can lick it off and....nevermind.

MoonRise9 58M

6/20/2006 8:47 am

The associations different people have with different words can generate all kinds of miscommunication and misconcenption - like "dreamer".
Often I've thought that you were a dreamer, and was OK with that but concerned for you at moments.
Now I think you're actually a dreamy pragmatist, and I like that even more, and am no longer "concerned for you at moments".

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:19 pm:
A dreamy pragmatist? Oh my. Whatever will I do with this right brain now?

aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
6/20/2006 9:12 am

I'm a dreamer too, but I can't stand popcorn!

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:20 pm:
Dude...you are indeed a dreamer. And you like this popcorn, I can tell, because you keep filling up the slots...you'll be fine. I've always said it. Still do. It's all good....

LIBlonde97 40F
1028 posts
6/20/2006 12:40 pm

.... but like all good popcorn...

it's gotta be HOT, and better yet, OILY!

Mmmmmmmmmmm (Is is Sunday yet????)


(I think I just had a metaphor overdose, someone hand me the Narcan)

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:20 pm:
I think I might just let this one sit there for a bit...

southrnpeach333 50F

6/20/2006 1:16 pm

i have recently remembered this quote by Aristotle, anyway i love this quote and this is the second post i have used it in.... "hope is a waking dream" we all just need to keep dreaming. and find the one that dreams the same thing as ourselves.

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:21 pm:
Dream big, someone once told me. No sense in not doing it, you know?

I am a fan of hope. Big fan.

rm_goddess1946 105F
13518 posts
6/20/2006 1:42 pm

Dreamer here.
Will admit it.
Have to..
Just have to...

really want to....
life is too short not to...

[post 395657]

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:21 pm:
I knew you were a dreamer, Goddess...it shows. And it is also attended by faith and love, so you got that going for you which is damn sure nice.

Addy19742 42F

6/20/2006 6:36 pm

I probably spend to much time dreaming. LOL Hi SR! I said a few words about your blog in mine. Hope you don't mind. Yes it is definitely addicting. I think I better shutter down now. LOL

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:23 pm:
I saw that, sweetie, and commented back. You can't dream enough, I think, unless, you know, you forget to blog.

seek_u_topia 50M

6/20/2006 10:53 pm

    Quoting southrnpeach333:
    i have recently remembered this quote by Aristotle, anyway i love this quote and this is the second post i have used it in.... "hope is a waking dream" we all just need to keep dreaming. and find the one that dreams the same thing as ourselves.
what a great thought by our greek friend...and hope is what make life worth the effort.

mizzk is wise, as are you my friend, as is our mutual friend Peach...savor the wisdom for it's own sake, and use it to find more...

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:24 pm:
The accumulated wisdom of some popcorn failures in the past has made me much better at finding the right machine....

rm_1hotwahine 62F
21091 posts
6/21/2006 3:31 am

So use it as a bench mark. In what ways are you/your perspective different when reading it now, as opposed to the first time around? I mean, truly different? What's the same?

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:27 pm:
It is all the same and is always what I believed. When I first read her post back in mid-to-late January, I was in a different place, but my machine had failed to produce. The why and the how of that is something I now understand. I understand it very well now....it was because I wanted the same popcorn but from a different machine. But it doesn't work like that. Every machine is different, and the one that broke my heart looked so much like what I wanted...sigh.

So what's new? What's new here is that I think I've figured out what my popcorn should be like or look like -- or at a minimum, and probably more accuratley -- I only look for popcorn when I actually want popcorn. I can eat something else to feed me. I need to want popcorn for popcorn's sake. And so I am.

rm_corezon 53F
3376 posts
6/21/2006 6:20 pm

So many physical and nonphysical things affect our attraction to others and even more as to whether or not they are ever pursued...not to mention time and chance and circumstance...leads me to believe that there are forces AND a force greater than us at work sometimes;

though it can be hard to recognize the inspired from the uninspired when pheromes and loneliness get thrown into the mixture;

often we are attracted most to the ones that have traits that we lack, as though we are looking for a complement to become a whole

but I think that the closest to perfection is to find the one sharing the same dream...now that I've said it it doesn't seem clear; but I think we can recognize the ones that are sharing the same dream that has been dreamed before if we pay attention; when we are walking without them life is black and white; the waking dream of hope has color but only real love brings the full spectrum when you know that what you were living before them was the dream and that you finally have stepped into reality when you step into the full force of the light...

sigh...(it does sound good, doesn't it? I'm in one of those moods tonight again)

Seriously_Real replies on 6/25/2006 3:28 pm:
The dream is a shared dream dreamt by two dreamers at the same time in other places. They get together, compare dreams, and realize they have shared it all along....

Or, at least, so it is with me...

aascrompn 42M
6444 posts
6/27/2006 8:31 am

I keep stuffing the slots alright! I keep thinking a really cool chick might just pop out like the bubble-gum machines always promise.

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